Sunday, August 31, 2014
Outed on Amazon.com
No Warning...I let my daughter handle the deets when it came to writing her book, Ashway. She signed her own contract (her dad reviewed it) and had it edited by someone else. In fact, I still have not read it because I was trying to buy a case at a wholesale price and was not able to get anywhere with the publisher on a timetable that I could live with. So today, I went to Amazon to order a copy. (You can get your own by clicking HERE)Ooooh! There are 2 reviews (5 stars by verified purchases) and wow - they have a thing where you can look on the inside and also see the back cover now! How exciting... a short author bio! And I LOVE that pic of her. Oh, she mentions being homeschooled. How adorab....Wait.Did my kid just OUT ME AS A LESBIAN ON AMAZON.COM?!?!Fuck yes, she did! No warning. Nothing. THIS is how I found out. Damn her introvertedness...
Former Secretary of the Army, Clifford Alexander:
“The policy is an absurdity and borderline on being an obscenity. What it does is cause people to ask of themselves that they lie to themselves, that they pretend to be something that they are not. There is no empirical evidence that would indicate that it affects military cohesion. There is a lot of evidence to say that the biases of the past have been layered onto the United States Army.”
Iraq War Veteran and U.S. Rep. Patrick Murphy, challenging a witness during “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” hearings in the U.S. House:
“You’re basically asserting that straight men and women in our military aren’t professional enough to serve openly with gay troops while completing their military missions. You know as a fo…
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Iraq War Veteran and U.S. Rep. Patrick Murphy, challenging a witness during “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” hearings in the U.S. House:
“You’re basically asserting that straight men and women in our military aren’t professional enough to serve openly with gay troops while completing their military missions. You know as a fo…
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(27) The Complete Guide to Loosening Uranus
The Shadow Knows, Melissa’s Mash-Up Submission, Listener Call In, Polygamists, Summer Diets, Gym Observations, Kardashian Meaninglessnesses, Fantasies, Subconscious Seriousness and more … Music Featured by: The Trucks http://www.myspace.com/thetrucks
It ain?t my fault
Is it ever the other persons fault if someone decides to cheat in a relationship? Could you tell your partner, “It’s your fault that I cheated on you?” and it be 100% the truth? I’m not sure blaming someone else … Continue reading →
US judge: ‘Don’t ask, don’t tell’ unconstitutional
LOS ANGELES (AP) – A federal judge said she will issue an order to halt the military’s “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy, after she declared the ban on openly gay service members unconstitutional.
U.S. District Judge Virginia Phillips ruled Thursday that the prohibition on openly gay service members was unconstitutional because it violates the First and Fifth Amendment rights of gays and lesbians.
The policy doesn’t help military readiness and instead has a “direct and deleterious effect” on the armed services by hurting recruitment efforts during wartime and requiring the discharge of service members who have critical skills and training, she said.
The Log Cabin Republicans sued the federal government in…
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U.S. District Judge Virginia Phillips ruled Thursday that the prohibition on openly gay service members was unconstitutional because it violates the First and Fifth Amendment rights of gays and lesbians.
The policy doesn’t help military readiness and instead has a “direct and deleterious effect” on the armed services by hurting recruitment efforts during wartime and requiring the discharge of service members who have critical skills and training, she said.
The Log Cabin Republicans sued the federal government in…
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Serving in silence….
While many Americans are unable to find immediate work in this current economy and as we as a country try to rebuild after billions spent on a never ending war, you would think our government would need all the help it could get. Not apparently from GLBT service members though, all living under the threat of joining the countless other Americans who are unemployed.
Those who defend our freedoms on foreign borders do not ask very much in return from us. They feel the need to serve their country even when their country refuses to support them. They fight alone most of the time hidden away from themselves and others they rely on, hoping no one suspects that they are GLBT. It goes without saying that to live two different lives under the best of circumstances i…
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Those who defend our freedoms on foreign borders do not ask very much in return from us. They feel the need to serve their country even when their country refuses to support them. They fight alone most of the time hidden away from themselves and others they rely on, hoping no one suspects that they are GLBT. It goes without saying that to live two different lives under the best of circumstances i…
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(10) Back From Hiatus
Thanks Nadya, for Babkas Bikini Wax Messages, Back from Techno-challenges, Child Abusers, Vibrating i-Phones, Pseudo-Lesbians have babies, Joe Walsh as a cure for insomnia, Combi-Christ for adults, Hilary for president, but only because she has a vagina.
Saturday, August 30, 2014
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Kenny Kardashian says:
I, too, served in the Navy and also swore the same oath, not really knowing what lay ahead. While for most people, being gay is dangerous I was lucky to experience minimal discrimination and teasing. However, I was not immune from such teasing. Everyone at my shore duty facility at Naval Air Staton North Island in San Diego knew I was gay and while I made a risky move, when people asked, I told. However, there was no one running to the officer in charge. Most the people that asked me said they were “cool with it”, or others simply just knew.
I am not the most butch guy in the world, but my feminine mannerisms and the way I was did catch the attention of some few people in leadership chain of command around me. They woul…
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I, too, served in the Navy and also swore the same oath, not really knowing what lay ahead. While for most people, being gay is dangerous I was lucky to experience minimal discrimination and teasing. However, I was not immune from such teasing. Everyone at my shore duty facility at Naval Air Staton North Island in San Diego knew I was gay and while I made a risky move, when people asked, I told. However, there was no one running to the officer in charge. Most the people that asked me said they were “cool with it”, or others simply just knew.
I am not the most butch guy in the world, but my feminine mannerisms and the way I was did catch the attention of some few people in leadership chain of command around me. They woul…
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'The Real L Word' Season 3, Episode 1...a Twittercap
So, not sure if I'll keep live tweeting The Real L Word after tonight. Depends on what you guys think and what I hear on fb/twitter. But if you're interested, here are ye olde tweets. Start from the bottom up (*Zach Morris 4th wall wink*) and enjoy. Follow me @ twitter.com/ArlanWasHere Follow Whitney @ twitter.com/Whitneymixterla Follow Kiyomi @ twitter.com/Kiyomance Follow Romi @ twitter.com/TenderRomi Follow Kacy & Cori @ twitter.com/KacyChristine & twitter.com/CoriCupcakeFollow the official Real L Word @ twitter.com/Sho_RealLWord
Rihannorary Lesbian
You like what I did there with the post title? Yeah, me too. Some of my best work, I'd say.Now you may have heard the little rumor circulating that Rihanna and Ashton Kutcher are dating because some weird paparazzi peops stalked her and realized that she went to his new house from midnight to 4am recently. Whatevs. I think they'd make a really cute couple, but how is that proof of anything? By that logic, CVS and I have been dating for YEARS. People have sex during the day too, ya know. Anyhoo, Rihanna was asked about it by a very bold reporter in London today, and this is what she had to say:...and this whole post is really just an excuse to show THIS again:You are welcome.
Never Say This to Gay Parents
The comment in question may seem like a compliment, but it's not.
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Bonez N Booze with Franki
Bartender and Culinary Extraordinaire
Franki has been a staple in the San Diego lesbian, nightlife and art scene for a long time. She is someone that everyone has something good to say about. Franki was one of the first lesbians to throw San Diego art shows including The No Name Art Shows that drew in huge crowds eager to participate in something other than the status quo. Franki has the reputation of being one of San Diego’s hottest and most down to earth bartenders. A combination hard to find in any person let alone a bartender and she truly is one of a kind. Talented in the art of making drinks and customer service she commands her bar like a pro. She is equally as talented in the arts of all kinds. Everything from food to painting to the drums she does well and grabs attention while do…
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Franki has been a staple in the San Diego lesbian, nightlife and art scene for a long time. She is someone that everyone has something good to say about. Franki was one of the first lesbians to throw San Diego art shows including The No Name Art Shows that drew in huge crowds eager to participate in something other than the status quo. Franki has the reputation of being one of San Diego’s hottest and most down to earth bartenders. A combination hard to find in any person let alone a bartender and she truly is one of a kind. Talented in the art of making drinks and customer service she commands her bar like a pro. She is equally as talented in the arts of all kinds. Everything from food to painting to the drums she does well and grabs attention while do…
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NOM Suffers Yet Another Defeat in Oregon
A federal appeals court agreed with a lower court that the antigay National Organization for Marriage has no standing to appeal a decision bringing marriage equality to Oregon.
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San Diego lesbians rock!
There was a time in San Diego’s rich history when lesbians were not as visible or held in the same esteem in the GLBT community as they are now. At times discounted and thought to be too small a group to warrant advertising dollars, they were also considered too different from gay men to be influential or to hold any positions of power. This was also a time when there was little or no nightlife catering for lesbians and the few lesbian clubs out there had come and gone. They simply could not compete with the gay bars and the numbers that they attracted. Going beyond nightlife there were few resources for lesbians or places that lesbians could gather, socialize, have fun and be in the majority.
Fast forward and it is apparent that this has really chang…
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Fast forward and it is apparent that this has really chang…
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Ellen DeGeneres Sat Here
I was at a garage sale this weekend and came across these chairs. I thought they would be good for my deck. The guy was selling them for $7 each. Way too much. I offered $10 for all four. He countered with $15 and I accepted.As I was getting ready to load the chairs into my car, he told me Ellen DeGeneres sat in one of them. He said he used to work as a waiter at the Heathman, a high-end hotel in Portland. Ellen and Ann Heche were having drinks on the patio and invited him to come back when his shift was over and have a drink. He said Ellen was very nice.I was glad to hear that, but I told him he could keep the Ann Heche chair.
Friday, August 29, 2014
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Dear Editor,
In honor of National Coming Out Day (October 11, 2010), we at Affirmations would like to take a moment to reflect on the continuous benefits to the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community (LGBT) brought about since Michigan’s recently passed smoke free law has been implemented.
During the coming out process, many people seek to connect with the LGBT community for support, encouragement, networking and socializing. It is wonderful for the LGBT community to now socialize and connect at bars and restaurants in Michigan without facing the dangers of second hand smoke.
Historically, statistics have shown that the LGBT community is 50% more likely to start and/or continue smoking compared to its straight counterpart. We are hopeful …
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In honor of National Coming Out Day (October 11, 2010), we at Affirmations would like to take a moment to reflect on the continuous benefits to the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community (LGBT) brought about since Michigan’s recently passed smoke free law has been implemented.
During the coming out process, many people seek to connect with the LGBT community for support, encouragement, networking and socializing. It is wonderful for the LGBT community to now socialize and connect at bars and restaurants in Michigan without facing the dangers of second hand smoke.
Historically, statistics have shown that the LGBT community is 50% more likely to start and/or continue smoking compared to its straight counterpart. We are hopeful …
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Conversations with Nicole
None of us should have been surprised at the defeat of our efforts to end “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”…it’s the usual politics and lack of leadership from the White House and Democratic Party and the new homophobia of two faced Senator John McCain and his fellow Republican Senators…this country needs a new third party!
Tea Party Movement and the Radical Right
This past week MSNBC stated that the “Culture War” is back especially with the growing alliance of the Tea Party movement and the radical Christian (?) Right movement….Now we have Tea Party leaders coming out against gay marriage and some even against condoms and sex education. All the “Tea Party” rallies are 95% white and a majorit…
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Tea Party Movement and the Radical Right
This past week MSNBC stated that the “Culture War” is back especially with the growing alliance of the Tea Party movement and the radical Christian (?) Right movement….Now we have Tea Party leaders coming out against gay marriage and some even against condoms and sex education. All the “Tea Party” rallies are 95% white and a majorit…
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Introducing Mrs & Mrs Jodie Foster
Jodie Foster's new wife may be a new face to most of the world, but lesbians and L Word fans will recognize Alexandra Hedison who played sexy Dylan Moreland, the filmmaker who broke Helena's heart in the popular lesbian series. Photographer and actress Alexandra Hedison also dated Ellen DeGeneres for a few years. Now's she's tied the knot with recently out actress Jodie Foster. Congratulations to this new lesbian power couple.
January 2012 - Life on the road (and my own bed)
I've been wanting to share a lot that's happened over the last 5 or so weeks with you guys, but it seemed so overwhelming because I didn't know exactly where/how to start. Yesterday I read a musician's blog and what she does is summarizes her work by the month. So a few days into a month, she'll write about the preceding month. I dig that, so I shall henceforth be stealing this idea from Hannah:)I won't bore you with ALL of the details of how I got to this point, but basically, I spent months and months in my early-mid 20s booking and tour managing some of my indie friends' tours. This was thousands of miles traveled, several hotels and friends' couches crashed, and lots and lots of gas station food partaken...ofeth. All of this was of course after spending weeks booking the actual shows one by one, and talking to people with names like 'Snake' and 'Timber' asking if my friend(s) could play at their venue. For every show I booked, I got at least 10 'no's. I also heard hundreds of 'no's when I was publishing my music magazine INTERLUDE.So things haven't always been easy and I've spent plenty of time sleeping on the floor, the couch, and every once in a while, in beds. All the while though, I've been networking and making friends in various production roles, at various levels of success. The tenacity paid off when just a couple of days before New Year's, I was asked to help out with the production of a show out of town.The artist was CeeLo Green, and the show was the headlining Allstate BCS Fanfest event in New Orleans. So on New Year's Eve, I watched my new boss sing during the NYE countdown in Times Square, and a few hours later, I was hard at work helping to advance his next show.It was in New Orleans that I met CeeLo, the Goodie Mob, and CeeLo's incredible band for the first time. They're all amazingly talented and some of the nicest people I've ever met. The city was SO full of energy during these few days in particular because of the big game, and aside from being physically exhausted from all the work we did, I was on cloud 9 the entire time. I also got to meet this cool performer named DJ Ruckus. You guys should check him out. He is a REALLY sweet guy, and kinda blew my mind with how talented he is.(New Orleans stage during soundcheck!>(CeeLo's lighting/video director Fraser and me after the New Orleans show...right outside our production office/backstage area)I flew back to my new home in Houston for a few days to work on the next shows...and then it was back in the air. I can already tell that this year I will probably spend more time in the security line at airports than in my own bedroom. But do you see me complaining? Nope! And if you ever do, please feel free to slap me about my person.January was capped off the same way it started: EPIC...ly. Or whatever.I was flown to Miami and Montego Bay, Jamaica for 2 big shows. Miami's show was at the Fontainebleau hotel in their venue LIV and Jamaica's was the Jazz and Blues Festival where CeeLo was Saturday night's headliner. Friday night's headliner was Celine Dion! I definitely got spoiled with our accommodations that week and I'm not sure I'll know how to do anything without wearing a plush robe and having room service every 3 hours now that I've tasted the good life. I was also in the same room with Bobby Brown for a couple of hours while a Jamaican lady sang a 45 minute Whitney Houston medley to about 25k people...needless to say it was all sorts of awkward, but thats another story for another time. Anyhoo...I love robes!(My awesome view from my room in Miami)(The view from the hotel's private beach....cause THAT happens)It's pretty awesome to get to see everyone at the top of their game. Everyone in this team comes in ready to work hard, do their thing, and then celebrate just as passionately. I dig the pace of it all. And I think I'm going to like it here. I feel like Annie just moved into Mr. Warbucks' place and having a look around.(My view of soundcheck in Jamaica, mon!)While I was at the hotel in Jamaica, I saw these two chicks playing pool. My dar went into overdrive. I said to myself, I says 'Self...I spy homosexuals.' And Self agreed with me. But we were in Jamaica which isn't very lezzy friendly, AND I didn't wanna just walk up to them and say "LESBIANS!...welcome." No, this wasn't Weho, after all. So I did what any self-respecting gay blogger would have done: I walked up to them and I said 'If I said 'Shane is my homegirl,' would it mean anything to you?" They paused...stared at me for a while--enough time for me to be frightened even though they were a good 6 inches shorter than me and I could TOTALLY outrun them--and then one of them said, "HELL YEAH IT WOULD!" and we all hugged. It was awesome!! I recommend it as an icebreaker at your local deli or Jamaican hotel situation.Oh and did I mention everyone is British?? Well, not everyone. But like...more than half of the people I deal with are incredibly English and it rocks my world. Here are background singers Annabel and Jodie. The girls were drinking TEA. Can't make this stuff up!Not sure what's on the horizon for February and the rest of 2012, but I do know it will be filled with experiences I've never had before, new friends, hard work, hard play, and more robes than you can shake a robe at!
(17) 1 Minute Commentary on Tom and Katie
It’s been common knowledge for decades that Tom shoots blanks. I know Morton thinks he has the lowdown, but he doesn’t … I DO!
Director Ira Sachs, star Alfred Molina on 'Love Is Strange'
Love Is Strange, which opens in Chicago this Friday, Aug. 29, has been receiving critical acclaim since its Sundance debut early this year.
Cheapflights.com Shares its List of 10 "New Gay Travel Hot Spots"
I'm always interested to see how other writers and outlets cover up-and-coming gay travel destinations - there's definitely been a movement of late to think a bit outside convention and promote new places around the world as emerging LGBT gay vacation options. I tend to do this a lot myself in my writing on this site - in fact, in tomorrow's New York Times, I'm quoted in a story about less-obvious gay destinations discussing one of my under-the-radar favorites, Eureka Springs, Arkansas....Read Full Post
Thursday, August 28, 2014
Check out VIDEO from this year's Hillcrest CityFest
SAN DIEGO, California -- Another Hillcrest CityFest has passed but thanks to local videographer GSO Productions, the 30th annual event can be re-lived on video.
The fun 3 � minute video is a compilation of clips taken throughout the day-long event on Sunday, Aug. 10, from set-up until the night time dance party that took over University Avenue.
Another Hillcrest CityFest has passed but thanks to local videographer GSO Productions, the 30th annual event can be re-lived on video.
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The fun 3 � minute video is a compilation of clips taken throughout the day-long event on Sunday, Aug. 10, from set-up until the night time dance party that took over University Avenue.
Another Hillcrest CityFest has passed but thanks to local videographer GSO Productions, the 30th annual event can be re-lived on video.
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Matthew Morrison, Chord Overstreet & Cory Monteith in shirtless Glee
The new season of Glee is well underway here in the UK, but I haven't watched any of them yet! Too busy with holidays and selling the house. Last week we were in Barmouth in Wales in a caravan for a week. It was really cool to get away, but there was NO television reception.
What I missed was the guys from Glee getting their shirts off in their production of the Rocky Horror Picture Show. How camp can Glee get?
Matthew Morrison (hot hot hot)
Cory Monteith
Cory doesn't have a hair on his chest AND its getting a bit saggy. You are supposed to be the Quarterback Cory. You need to hit the gym Cory! And get a pair of man bikini briefs.
I havent seen anything of the new sexy blond boy, Chord Overstreet, but he gets his kit off as Rocky.
Tell me guys, leave a comment - WHO has the best chest?
Corrie,
Chord or
Matthew?
Gay newsView Australian Queer News on the web at Gay News Blog
What I missed was the guys from Glee getting their shirts off in their production of the Rocky Horror Picture Show. How camp can Glee get?
Matthew Morrison (hot hot hot)
Cory Monteith
Cory doesn't have a hair on his chest AND its getting a bit saggy. You are supposed to be the Quarterback Cory. You need to hit the gym Cory! And get a pair of man bikini briefs.
I havent seen anything of the new sexy blond boy, Chord Overstreet, but he gets his kit off as Rocky.
Tell me guys, leave a comment - WHO has the best chest?
Corrie,
Chord or
Matthew?
Gay newsView Australian Queer News on the web at Gay News Blog
Same-Sex Marriage in the Bible Belt and Beyond
Ever since the US Supreme court overturned DOMA last summer, state after state has overturned voter-approved bans on gay marriage. In recent months, judges have struck down laws prohibiting same-sex marriage in five states. Idaho and Arkansas join the ranks this week....Read Full Post
FEAST OF FUN!!
Hello and thanks for visiting my semi retired blog. Since April I have been blogging and podcasting on my SNAZZY NEW WEBSITE. Granted I do need to increase my output over there but I just hooked up my wii to … Continue reading →
(13) Lez-Bionic Birdy Friends and Cheezy Sound Board Fun
Sandi creates her own special automated message for The Lesbian Mafia, Motherly Love, Messages From Birds, Cheap Shots At The Lezzie’s On TV, Fem Sergeants “Wanna Have Some Fun,” Laughing and Seeing Visions, And Good Vibrations, All Make For A Typical ADD Show.
Queer Beer: a beer for gays and lesbians
A Mexican company has launched a new beer aimed at the gay and lesbian community that will also be exported to other countries, company officials said.
GX: Everyone Games, formerly GaymerX, launches Kickstarter for third annual LGBT gaming conference
GaymerX has relaunched under the new more inclusive name GX: Everyone Games and are currently running a new Kickstarter campaign to finance the third annual LGBT gaming convention to be held next year in the San Francisco bay area.
"We've become more and more aware that not all of our attendees identify with the 'gaymer' label. And while we love all our gay dude friends, we realize there are more people than that who want an awesome space to hang with their friends in a safe and diverse environment. We want to make sure we represent everyone who feels like they've been left out of mainstream gamer culture," the organizers said of the name change.
The GX3 Kickstarter is aiming to raise $80,000 ? roughly half of the cost to put on the event ? and has already raised over $18,000. Last month, GaymerX2 was held in San Francisco and included gaming parties, inclusive conversations and panels, and out WWE Superstar Darren Young appeared as a Boss of Honor.
Find out more at the GX3 Kickstarter page.
August 26, 2014
Issues:
Entertainment
"We've become more and more aware that not all of our attendees identify with the 'gaymer' label. And while we love all our gay dude friends, we realize there are more people than that who want an awesome space to hang with their friends in a safe and diverse environment. We want to make sure we represent everyone who feels like they've been left out of mainstream gamer culture," the organizers said of the name change.
The GX3 Kickstarter is aiming to raise $80,000 ? roughly half of the cost to put on the event ? and has already raised over $18,000. Last month, GaymerX2 was held in San Francisco and included gaming parties, inclusive conversations and panels, and out WWE Superstar Darren Young appeared as a Boss of Honor.
Find out more at the GX3 Kickstarter page.
August 26, 2014
Issues:
Entertainment
Wednesday, August 27, 2014
(59) Show Me Love DJ
Fantasies of the Sarah, Chat with Nikki re: Pimping Miss Universe, Anti-Relationship Relationship talk, Kim Kardashian’s curves, Jessica Simpson’s diet and more! http://www.thelesbianmafia.com Twitter http://www.twitter.com/thelesbianmafia Facebook search and add us! Myspace http://www.myspace.com/thelesbianmafiacast Lesbian Mafia Apparel: http://thelesbianmafia.spreadshirt.com LISTEN TO THE LESBIAN MAFIA ON YOUR PHONE! 651-925-1610 Leave a message on Voice Mail – 206-984-4093
How have gay men interacted with and regarded lesbians, and vice versa
Would like insight and education into the various ways that gay men -- both as individuals and as a group, both historically and currently -- relate to, regard, and interact with gay/lesbian women, and vice versa. [I've tried to be thoughtful in my wording, but I've not had all that many occasions in my life to discuss LGBT topics. So I'm nervous that I might misspeak or expose my ignorance. If I do please correct me and accept my sincere apologies.]
Looking for in-depth readings and histories and seminal texts that would give a good overview of these group dynamics. I'm most interested in learning about the U.S. in the 20th/21st century, but if there are pieces that also address this dynamic in other cultures or other times, then all the better.
My (uninformed and simplistic, and possibly irresponsible) perceptions -- and here is where I'm afraid of sounding like an ass -- are that while the two groups have had every reason to form a coalition in the ongoing struggle for their safety and their civil rights, it doesn't seem to me that there is all that much overlap in their various subcultures' interests or arts or patterns of consumption or recreation -- it just doesn't seem like they have that much in common outside of their shared struggle.
Looking, also, for feminist critics' assessment of any patriarchal systems at work within the gay/lesbian cultures.
I know that there will no doubt have been a spectrum of opinions and a healthy, ongoing internal debate; I'm not afraid of readings that address or embrace this complexity.
Are there seminal works addressing this relationship? Great essays? Contentious works of art or fiction? Watershed academic studies? I'm very willing to read long-format or challenging pieces.
Many thanks... and again, please, please correct me if I've said anything ignorant; I'd consider it a huge kindness to me if you would.
Looking for in-depth readings and histories and seminal texts that would give a good overview of these group dynamics. I'm most interested in learning about the U.S. in the 20th/21st century, but if there are pieces that also address this dynamic in other cultures or other times, then all the better.
My (uninformed and simplistic, and possibly irresponsible) perceptions -- and here is where I'm afraid of sounding like an ass -- are that while the two groups have had every reason to form a coalition in the ongoing struggle for their safety and their civil rights, it doesn't seem to me that there is all that much overlap in their various subcultures' interests or arts or patterns of consumption or recreation -- it just doesn't seem like they have that much in common outside of their shared struggle.
Looking, also, for feminist critics' assessment of any patriarchal systems at work within the gay/lesbian cultures.
I know that there will no doubt have been a spectrum of opinions and a healthy, ongoing internal debate; I'm not afraid of readings that address or embrace this complexity.
Are there seminal works addressing this relationship? Great essays? Contentious works of art or fiction? Watershed academic studies? I'm very willing to read long-format or challenging pieces.
Many thanks... and again, please, please correct me if I've said anything ignorant; I'd consider it a huge kindness to me if you would.
(54) Potty Training & Stalkers
Opening song by Wendy Ho, widely known and beloved in the community and gay rights supporter. To purchase more of Wendy Ho’s music go here: http://www.wendyho.net Friend Wendy on Myspace: http://www.myspace.com/wendyho (Don’t listen to S, it’s show 54 not 55, it’s 54) A Smother’s love, Getting scammed for juice, Why does Heide http://theheideshow.podomatic.com say lesbians […]
Knight at the Movies: Love Is Strange; To Be Takei; Yves; film notes
This week in Chicago theaters it's a queer movie trifecta—a rare occasion indeed for Our People and one that shouldn't be missed out on.
Former Miss Spain Comes Out as Gay
The former Miss Spain has come out as a lesbian, reportedly making her the first openly gay national beauty queen.
Indiana, Wisconsin couples in gay marriage case
Bonnie Everly, left, and Lyn Judkins, from Chesterton, Ind., embrace during a rally in support of gay marriage at the federal plaza Monday, Aug. 25, 2014, in Chicago.
Rise of the Daddies: A New (and Sexy) Gay Niche
But like everything else in our culture, where even grumpy cats become memes and multiply, it seems the gay daddies are moving beyond leather land, especially for a new generation of twentysomething gays.
Tuesday, August 26, 2014
‘Don’t ask, don’t tell’ injunction now up to judge
SAN DIEGO, Ca (AP) – U.S. government lawyers are trying to stop a federal judge from issuing an injunction that would immediately do what President Obama has yet to accomplish so far in his first term: Halt the military’s ban on openly gay troops. Now it is up to U.S. District Court Judge Virginia Phillips to decide if she is willing to do that.
The White House says the legal filing Thursday by the U.S. Department of Justice attorneys in a federal court in Riverside follows government procedure by defending an act of Congress that is being challenged, but it does not detract from the president’s efforts to get ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ repealed.
“This filing in no way diminishes the president’s firm commi…
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The White House says the legal filing Thursday by the U.S. Department of Justice attorneys in a federal court in Riverside follows government procedure by defending an act of Congress that is being challenged, but it does not detract from the president’s efforts to get ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ repealed.
“This filing in no way diminishes the president’s firm commi…
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(7) The I Have No Show, Show. Going Topic-less!
All I need is the right man, Thank God I’m gay, No topic whatsoever, Being ditched, Bad Karaoke Nonsensical ramblings, Paris? Kelly Clarkson? Farting? A tasteless show indeed …
(68) EAT ME
Due to the high volume of requests we’ve posted this recent material that didn’t turn into a show, so here are some lazy laying around the house�recordings�from the portable. March was our 3rd anniversary, thank you very much to those who have donated, and/or purchased apparel, and for tuning in and hanging out with us. […]
Chicago Dragons competing for Bingham Cup in Australia
In his first Bingham Cup, held 10 years ago in London, Chicago's Paul D. Cannella walked onto the pitch as the names of teams from around the world were being announced. There were 20 teams from four countries, all battling it out in honor of Mark Bingham.
(45) Asexual Lesbian
Ordering bibles, Religious blobs, Chat w/Lale re: Rehab, Gays, Marriage, Relationships, Sex, an Asexual phase
Honors roll in for UIC researcher
Dr. Tonda L. Hughes will receive the inaugural Distinguished Research Award, one of the most prestigious honors presented by the UIC University of Illinois at Chicago College of Nursing Sept. 26, marking the third career award she's received this year.
Monday, August 25, 2014
Travel Gay Portland (OR) Visitor Center Opens June 1
Opening adjacent to the fab skivvies shop UnderU4Men, the non-profit Travel Gay Portland visitor center is opening in a few days, just ahead of Rose City's annual Portland Gay Pride Festival (which is June 14 and 15). One of the only such LGBT visitor centers in the nation, the visitor center is on the mezzanine level at 800 SW Washington St., and it's open daily 11 am until 6 pm. Apart from being a relaxing and friendly place to get advice from locals, the center offers a range of complimentary services, including baggage check, Internet and Wi-Fi, phone calls within North America, maps, and LGBT periodicals. You can pick up info on Portland's local gay bar scene, as well as tips on where to stay, what to do in town, how to get around, and how to find fun tours of this trendy city.
Moving to Austin. What next?
My partner and I plan to move to Austin, Texas, in January. We?re looking for recommendations about neighborhoods, information about the housing market, or any other useful information. Traits of our ideal area, in no particular order:
* Bicycle friendly.
* Close to transit lines.
* Funky and weird.
* Inexpensive.
* In the city limits.
* Mix of people, such as different ages.
* Relatively cohesive neighborhood.
* Relatively quiet (I am hypersensitive with sounds).
* Has stuff within walking distance ? for instance, grocery store, pool, park, library and restaurants within about a mile.
About us:
Early 50s women. No kids. Three cats and a dog. We have a variety of interests, but not spectator sports. Two cars, but we?d like to use them less. No jobs lined up yet. I might work in journalism or government, but am also interested in coworking.
About housing:
Looking for two or three bedrooms at a moderate price. Expect to live there the rest of our lives. Plan to buy a home but might rent for about six months first. Open to different types of housing (such as condos, townhouses, mobile homes, cohousing) but probably not apartments.
We live in a small town in a house with 1,700 square feet. It has three bedrooms and 1.75 baths. The house was bought for $140K six or seven years ago. Last year, it was appraised at $180K. We hope to sell it for $160K to $175K.
Our questions:
* Are there any areas you recommend?
* Are there any areas we should avoid?
* How does the housing market compare?
* Where is the ?gay ghetto??
* Are there any neighborhood newspapers?
* Is there anything else we should know?
* Bicycle friendly.
* Close to transit lines.
* Funky and weird.
* Inexpensive.
* In the city limits.
* Mix of people, such as different ages.
* Relatively cohesive neighborhood.
* Relatively quiet (I am hypersensitive with sounds).
* Has stuff within walking distance ? for instance, grocery store, pool, park, library and restaurants within about a mile.
About us:
Early 50s women. No kids. Three cats and a dog. We have a variety of interests, but not spectator sports. Two cars, but we?d like to use them less. No jobs lined up yet. I might work in journalism or government, but am also interested in coworking.
About housing:
Looking for two or three bedrooms at a moderate price. Expect to live there the rest of our lives. Plan to buy a home but might rent for about six months first. Open to different types of housing (such as condos, townhouses, mobile homes, cohousing) but probably not apartments.
We live in a small town in a house with 1,700 square feet. It has three bedrooms and 1.75 baths. The house was bought for $140K six or seven years ago. Last year, it was appraised at $180K. We hope to sell it for $160K to $175K.
Our questions:
* Are there any areas you recommend?
* Are there any areas we should avoid?
* How does the housing market compare?
* Where is the ?gay ghetto??
* Are there any neighborhood newspapers?
* Is there anything else we should know?
In the Pit
Look out…. for BEARQUAKE 2010
Get ready for BearQuake 2010! I don’t know if that means they’ll be shaking, rocking or rolling but the Southern California Bear Club Alliance wants to welcome all their hirsute brothers, their chasers and maybe a few sisters to San Diego for “Cirque De L’Ours” on the weekend of October 14-17. This means you have approximately three weeks to grow your beard, chest and back hair so you too can be “without the trappings”. Bear events are still some of my favorites because of the names they come up with (bears can insert the word “bear” anyplace and have a jolly good time) and more importantly because there is food, everywhere!
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Get ready for BearQuake 2010! I don’t know if that means they’ll be shaking, rocking or rolling but the Southern California Bear Club Alliance wants to welcome all their hirsute brothers, their chasers and maybe a few sisters to San Diego for “Cirque De L’Ours” on the weekend of October 14-17. This means you have approximately three weeks to grow your beard, chest and back hair so you too can be “without the trappings”. Bear events are still some of my favorites because of the names they come up with (bears can insert the word “bear” anyplace and have a jolly good time) and more importantly because there is food, everywhere!
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Ellen DeGeneres Sat Here
I was at a garage sale this weekend and came across these chairs. I thought they would be good for my deck. The guy was selling them for $7 each. Way too much. I offered $10 for all four. He countered with $15 and I accepted.As I was getting ready to load the chairs into my car, he told me Ellen DeGeneres sat in one of them. He said he used to work as a waiter at the Heathman, a high-end hotel in Portland. Ellen and Ann Heche were having drinks on the patio and invited him to come back when his shift was over and have a drink. He said Ellen was very nice.I was glad to hear that, but I told him he could keep the Ann Heche chair.
Dominican Republic Bans Miley Cyrus for Promoting Lesbian Sex
Miley Cyrus is twerking hard for the money, but the Dominican Republic government isn?t having it.
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Sunday, August 24, 2014
One Direction will appear at GAY
The tabloids are full of One Direction shots as this week the X Factor is now down to 9 contestants. One Direction are going to be the next Take That. The act which is voted off always appears in Londons biggest gay club, GAY thanks to an amazing coup by Jeremy Joseph. It does go to show that X Factor considers its gay audience an important sector to back the acts. Sharon Osborne always used to say that boys bands like One Direction should definitely get the gays behind them (although I think she meant it metaphorically not physically).
We might go to see One Direction at GAY
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We might go to see One Direction at GAY
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Real Estate News
San Diego needs its own Housing Hero
Big Bad Banking got some really BAD NEWS last week as Mother Jones Magazine’s Andy Kroll broke the story of huge law firms, known as “foreclosure mills”, operating in Florida (and elsewhere) engaged in the potentially illegal taking of millions of homes.
GMAC -a subsidiary of Ally Financial was so worried it suspended foreclosure evictions and sales altogether. Rising Democratic Party star Rep. Alan Grayson along with his Ohio colleague Marcy Kaptur have been among the few voices in Congress for homeowners in the ongoing class war waged against them by Wall Street. It seems now they were right all along. You may remember Kaptur as the take-charge legislator who advised homeowners in her Toledo-area district to demand that banks produce th…
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Big Bad Banking got some really BAD NEWS last week as Mother Jones Magazine’s Andy Kroll broke the story of huge law firms, known as “foreclosure mills”, operating in Florida (and elsewhere) engaged in the potentially illegal taking of millions of homes.
GMAC -a subsidiary of Ally Financial was so worried it suspended foreclosure evictions and sales altogether. Rising Democratic Party star Rep. Alan Grayson along with his Ohio colleague Marcy Kaptur have been among the few voices in Congress for homeowners in the ongoing class war waged against them by Wall Street. It seems now they were right all along. You may remember Kaptur as the take-charge legislator who advised homeowners in her Toledo-area district to demand that banks produce th…
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Same-Sex Marriage in the Bible Belt and Beyond
Ever since the US Supreme court overturned DOMA last summer, state after state has overturned voter-approved bans on gay marriage. In recent months, judges have struck down laws prohibiting same-sex marriage in five states. Idaho and Arkansas join the ranks this week....Read Full Post
Anonymous transphobic Wikipedia edits linked to an IP address in US Congress
According to reports from the Twitter account congress-edits, which tracks when anonymous Wikipedia edits are made from IP addresses associated with Congressional office buildings, someone in a US House of Representatives office building has been making transphobic edits to the page about Netflix series Orange is the New Black. The page, which identifies actress Laverne Cox as a transgender woman portraying a transgender character, has been edited to claim that she is a "real man pretending to be a woman," and references an extremely offensive article that ran in the anti-LGBT outlet, The National Review, about Cox.
The same IP address has been tracked making problematic edits to other transgender-related pages, such as a page about Camp Trans, the annual event protesting the Michigan Womyn's Music Festival's so-called "womyn-born-womyn intention," and another page about transphobia. Pages on gender identity disorder and Gavin McInnes, the writer whose transphobic Thought Catalog article resulted in an "indefinite leave of absence" from his own ad agency, were also reportedly edited from the US House IP address.
"It's chilling to think that this dangerous misinformation about transgender Americans could be coming from our nation's Capitol," said GLAAD President & CEO Sarah Kate Ellis. "At a time when transgender people still face horrific rates of violence, trailblazers like Laverne Cox are helping millions understand that ignorance like this can have life-threatening consequences."??
August 21, 2014
Issues:
Transgender
The same IP address has been tracked making problematic edits to other transgender-related pages, such as a page about Camp Trans, the annual event protesting the Michigan Womyn's Music Festival's so-called "womyn-born-womyn intention," and another page about transphobia. Pages on gender identity disorder and Gavin McInnes, the writer whose transphobic Thought Catalog article resulted in an "indefinite leave of absence" from his own ad agency, were also reportedly edited from the US House IP address.
"It's chilling to think that this dangerous misinformation about transgender Americans could be coming from our nation's Capitol," said GLAAD President & CEO Sarah Kate Ellis. "At a time when transgender people still face horrific rates of violence, trailblazers like Laverne Cox are helping millions understand that ignorance like this can have life-threatening consequences."??
August 21, 2014
Issues:
Transgender
Lawyers Who Won Oregon Marriage Equality About to See Payday
Several of the attorneys who successfully argued against Oregon's ban on same-sex marriage could earn more than $250,000 for their efforts.
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Gay Pets and Big Discount
Hello Readers, I have missed you so much. I’ve been spending time on my new website I started a blog there but I have a dilemma since that is my professional website and I’m not sure how outspoken I ought … Continue reading →
Saturday, August 23, 2014
Surprise! Meet Russia's First Legally Married Brides
Because one bride identifies as androgyne, Russian authorities were forced to let the couple marry or recognize her nonbinary gender and forbid the marriage.
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Obstacles: Turning Away the Uncomitted
I saw this on my Pinterest feed a few days ago and it made me think about obstacles in relationships. I think that obstacles can serve two purposes in a relationship: To spur growth between the people in the relationship - as they overcome obstacles, they grow closer, build trust and have a strengthened bond.To weed out the uncommitted. Spurring Growth When I was married to a man, our first few years together were difficult. Not in a relationship sense, but financially. We struggled to pay bills and had to get very creative. I learned how to cook, we began composting, he took our trash with him to his office dumpster, we had rabbit ears that got us 3 TV channels and I went through my entire pregnancy in Georgia without air conditioning because the repair to our AC unit was too expensive.These obstacles could have torn us apart and we could have blamed each other for not earning more money or spending wisely, but we faced our challenges together as a team and did some fantastic problem solving. It felt like each time we solved a problem together, we began to develop a deep and abiding trust. He kept his promises to me and I grew to know him as a man of his word. I knew that he always had my best interest at heart as much as he knew I had his.We were together for 23 years - until I came out as a lesbian and needed to take my own journey without him. Today, we are friends and will always have fond memories of the life that we built together. We are our children's parents and will always have a friendship that has survived the trauma that coming out later in life can bring. Weeding Out the UncommittedUnlike my ex-husband, who was willing to be solidly on my team and committed to the core, you may find yourself with a "partner" who is anything but a partner. My ex-husband rarely made me feel like he wasn't on my side. In fact, the times where he solidly took my side are the times I remember that I loved him the most.An uncommitted person will act like they are on an opposing team when you must face an obstacle. You hope they will be your ally - a person to go to that will help and offer advice and support. But, no.An uncommitted person will rarely tackle a problem with you. They avoid being involved and leave it to you to solve. You may be attacked and blamed and the conflict may then be used as an excuse to alert you to your other failings as a human being. (If you don't know what it's like to be kicked while you're down, these types of partners will gladly teach you.)If you have a partner who uses obstacles to show you where you are weak, blames you for the obstacle, refuses to acknowledge the obstacle (especially if it comes from their sphere) and/or gets tired of "dealing" with it, please know that I am so sorry for you. These people are "relationship lazy" - they love it when everything is going well, but they don't want to be a part of the work that it takes to maintain a good one. Like everything else, things that are not maintained usually start to fall apart. When they do, these people walk out looking for greener pastures (new partners). Take Away:Let these people go.Do not fight to keep them in your life. They will always want to flee in order to avoid doing the work of maintaining a relationship. The blame game is the only one that they know how to play. Instead, look for the people who wouldn't even consider using obstacles as a time to vent or tell you what about you angers them, kicking you when you are down. You want someone who can communicate in a mature way, without feeling the need to blame or name-call; someone who can set aside their emotions for a moment in order to look for solutions that build relationship trust in the process. If you are lucky enough to find someone like that, don't YOU be the dumb-ass that is too lazy to maintain it. You hold on to and care for that person like they are the best thing that ever happened to you. Because, more than likely, they are.
(75) Prank Fails and Jive
Maybe we’ve outgrown the pranks, yeah? We tried over and over and over to get through one prank and failed every single time. Tune in and you’ll hear how pranks with potential go from bad to worse because of our inability to execute, as me and Nikki pretend to be a couple on the rocks. […]
Zayn Malik Shirtless Again
Yet another photo of Zayn Malik Shirtless. People keep asking me for them...
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(69) The Lesma Files: Snotty and Shitty
More hostility, fights, and internal chaos�from The Lesma Files;�a random solo anti-soy rant in between spats, so hold on to your nun�habits. Truthfully, this is a positively disgusting podcast�including potty humor. Don’t listen while eating. Enjoy! 8) Disclaimer: Soy�is�especially toxic�for people with�Thyroid issues. (some would argue it is the cause) If�a person doesn’t�know�they have Thyroid […]
We must straighten our backs…
We trusted that following conservative and STRAIGHT (for those Prop 8 supporters) Justice Phillips’ September 9th decision that “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” was unconstitutional on two counts, the Senate would vote to uphold the integrity of our Nation by voting for the repeal of this pathetic law. The House had done so in June, along with the Senate Armed Services Committee. Now, backed by an unconstitutionality ruling, certainly the Senate would end the ban once and for all.
Fail.
Instead, on September 21st Sen. John McCain (R-Az.), a POW and a former hero to many of us veterans, single handedly obstructed justice with a filibuster. Sadly, the Senate could not muster 60 Senators willing to vote to override him.
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Fail.
Instead, on September 21st Sen. John McCain (R-Az.), a POW and a former hero to many of us veterans, single handedly obstructed justice with a filibuster. Sadly, the Senate could not muster 60 Senators willing to vote to override him.
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Friday, August 22, 2014
How have gay men interacted with and regarded lesbians, and vice versa
Would like insight and education into the various ways that gay men -- both as individuals and as a group, both historically and currently -- relate to, regard, and interact with gay/lesbian women, and vice versa. [I've tried to be thoughtful in my wording, but I've not had all that many occasions in my life to discuss LGBT topics. So I'm nervous that I might misspeak or expose my ignorance. If I do please correct me and accept my sincere apologies.]
Looking for in-depth readings and histories and seminal texts that would give a good overview of these group dynamics. I'm most interested in learning about the U.S. in the 20th/21st century, but if there are pieces that also address this dynamic in other cultures or other times, then all the better.
My (uninformed and simplistic, and possibly irresponsible) perceptions -- and here is where I'm afraid of sounding like an ass -- are that while the two groups have had every reason to form a coalition in the ongoing struggle for their safety and their civil rights, it doesn't seem to me that there is all that much overlap in their various subcultures' interests or arts or patterns of consumption or recreation -- it just doesn't seem like they have that much in common outside of their shared struggle.
Looking, also, for feminist critics' assessment of any patriarchal systems at work within the gay/lesbian cultures.
I know that there will no doubt have been a spectrum of opinions and a healthy, ongoing internal debate; I'm not afraid of readings that address or embrace this complexity.
Are there seminal works addressing this relationship? Great essays? Contentious works of art or fiction? Watershed academic studies? I'm very willing to read long-format or challenging pieces.
Many thanks... and again, please, please correct me if I've said anything ignorant; I'd consider it a huge kindness to me if you would.
Looking for in-depth readings and histories and seminal texts that would give a good overview of these group dynamics. I'm most interested in learning about the U.S. in the 20th/21st century, but if there are pieces that also address this dynamic in other cultures or other times, then all the better.
My (uninformed and simplistic, and possibly irresponsible) perceptions -- and here is where I'm afraid of sounding like an ass -- are that while the two groups have had every reason to form a coalition in the ongoing struggle for their safety and their civil rights, it doesn't seem to me that there is all that much overlap in their various subcultures' interests or arts or patterns of consumption or recreation -- it just doesn't seem like they have that much in common outside of their shared struggle.
Looking, also, for feminist critics' assessment of any patriarchal systems at work within the gay/lesbian cultures.
I know that there will no doubt have been a spectrum of opinions and a healthy, ongoing internal debate; I'm not afraid of readings that address or embrace this complexity.
Are there seminal works addressing this relationship? Great essays? Contentious works of art or fiction? Watershed academic studies? I'm very willing to read long-format or challenging pieces.
Many thanks... and again, please, please correct me if I've said anything ignorant; I'd consider it a huge kindness to me if you would.
Which Member of One Direction is Gay?
Which Member of One Direction is Gay? Are there any gay members of One Direction? Do any of them actually know themselves? Take a look at the history of boy bands with members coming out as gay.
Irish boy band Westlife star Mark Feehily declared he was gay and in a relationship with Kevin McDaid, who used to be in boyband V. Westlife memebrs fully supported Mark as did Westlife's fans.
Irish boy band Boyzone were the biggest boy band in Britain - six number ones, 10 million albums, sold-out arena tours with a not a dry seat in the house - and Stephen Gately was (secretly at first) gay. Sadly Stephen passed away last year from a congenital heart problem.
Lance Bass from US boy band N-Sync came out in 2006. "I knew that I was in this popular band and I had four other guys' careers in my hand, and I knew that if I ever acted on it or even said (that I was gay), it would overpower everything," said Bass at the time, referring to bandmates Joey Fatone, Chris Kirkpatrick, JC Chasez and Justin Timberlake.
Jonathan Knight from US Boy Band New Kids on the Block (NKOTB) is reported by Perez Hilton as gay. Johnathan dated a Brazilian model (Kyle Wilker), until he spilled the beans on his boy band boyfriends.
UK boy band Take That have no out gay members. Robbie Williams has joked many times about being gay but has sued The Mirror for libelous reports about his sexuality.
McFly are very cool and very supportive of their gay fan base. The boys recently got their willies out on the stage of gay London club institution G.A.Y. The one on the left is particularly cute. He has an amazing body.
So which one of One Direction do you think is gay?
The one in purple?
The One Direction boys are working very hard on the X Factor to make it in the tough world of music. I'm sure they will do well winning or otherwise. They really don't need speculation on their sexuality, but they are sure going to get it.
JLS last year's X Factor definitely all look straight. It will be interesting to see if a boy band every has an out gay member from the get-go.
Comments please guys!
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Irish boy band Westlife star Mark Feehily declared he was gay and in a relationship with Kevin McDaid, who used to be in boyband V. Westlife memebrs fully supported Mark as did Westlife's fans.
Irish boy band Boyzone were the biggest boy band in Britain - six number ones, 10 million albums, sold-out arena tours with a not a dry seat in the house - and Stephen Gately was (secretly at first) gay. Sadly Stephen passed away last year from a congenital heart problem.
Lance Bass from US boy band N-Sync came out in 2006. "I knew that I was in this popular band and I had four other guys' careers in my hand, and I knew that if I ever acted on it or even said (that I was gay), it would overpower everything," said Bass at the time, referring to bandmates Joey Fatone, Chris Kirkpatrick, JC Chasez and Justin Timberlake.
Jonathan Knight from US Boy Band New Kids on the Block (NKOTB) is reported by Perez Hilton as gay. Johnathan dated a Brazilian model (Kyle Wilker), until he spilled the beans on his boy band boyfriends.
UK boy band Take That have no out gay members. Robbie Williams has joked many times about being gay but has sued The Mirror for libelous reports about his sexuality.
McFly are very cool and very supportive of their gay fan base. The boys recently got their willies out on the stage of gay London club institution G.A.Y. The one on the left is particularly cute. He has an amazing body.
So which one of One Direction do you think is gay?
The one in purple?
The One Direction boys are working very hard on the X Factor to make it in the tough world of music. I'm sure they will do well winning or otherwise. They really don't need speculation on their sexuality, but they are sure going to get it.
JLS last year's X Factor definitely all look straight. It will be interesting to see if a boy band every has an out gay member from the get-go.
Comments please guys!
Gay newsView Australian Queer News on the web at Gay News Blog
(77) The We Hate This Show Show But Love You Like Crack Cocaine
We really do hate this particular podcast with a passion. We talk a lot about nothing but feel intensely pressured to post content, even if it’s devoid of meaning … like Julie Chen’s every tear. Mostly all of it is recorded on the portable so it’s tinny, there’s lots of shouting and the sound goes […]
This Just In: The live LGBT news blog for Friday, Aug. 22, 2014
("This Just In" is GLBTNN's daily blog about news affecting the LGBT community worldwide.)
Why Dominican Republic has banned Miley Cyrus concert
The Dominican Republic government commission that oversees public performances is banning a Sept. 13 concert by Miley Cyrus on morality grounds.
The commission said in a statement Thursday that it took the action because Cyrus often "undertakes acts that go against morals and customs, which are punishable by Dominican law."
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Why Dominican Republic has banned Miley Cyrus concert
The Dominican Republic government commission that oversees public performances is banning a Sept. 13 concert by Miley Cyrus on morality grounds.
The commission said in a statement Thursday that it took the action because Cyrus often "undertakes acts that go against morals and customs, which are punishable by Dominican law."
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Gay Palestinians In Israel: The and #39;Invisible Men and #39;
Cops had gone through his friend's cellphone, where they found text messages sent from Rawashda that made it clear they were both gay.
Rocked by Women with Sarah Bush
This weekend in San Francisco something special will be taking place. Dancer Sarah Bush and her company will be performing Sarah's tribute to women's culture and music with her Rocked by Women performance. I had the opportunity to interview Sarah about how the world of women's music influenced her growing up and how it helped her come out as a teenager. Now she pays homage to those who blazed the path for her and so many others. If you are in San Francisco this weekend, go--take your moms and your sisters--to see Sarah Bush, Rocked by Women....Read Full Post
Which Member of One Direction is Gay?
Which Member of One Direction is Gay? Are there any gay members of One Direction? Do any of them actually know themselves? Take a look at the history of boy bands with members coming out as gay.
Irish boy band Westlife star Mark Feehily declared he was gay and in a relationship with Kevin McDaid, who used to be in boyband V. Westlife memebrs fully supported Mark as did Westlife's fans.
Irish boy band Boyzone were the biggest boy band in Britain - six number ones, 10 million albums, sold-out arena tours with a not a dry seat in the house - and Stephen Gately was (secretly at first) gay. Sadly Stephen passed away last year from a congenital heart problem.
Lance Bass from US boy band N-Sync came out in 2006. "I knew that I was in this popular band and I had four other guys' careers in my hand, and I knew that if I ever acted on it or even said (that I was gay), it would overpower everything," said Bass at the time, referring to bandmates Joey Fatone, Chris Kirkpatrick, JC Chasez and Justin Timberlake.
Jonathan Knight from US Boy Band New Kids on the Block (NKOTB) is reported by Perez Hilton as gay. Johnathan dated a Brazilian model (Kyle Wilker), until he spilled the beans on his boy band boyfriends.
UK boy band Take That have no out gay members. Robbie Williams has joked many times about being gay but has sued The Mirror for libelous reports about his sexuality.
McFly are very cool and very supportive of their gay fan base. The boys recently got their willies out on the stage of gay London club institution G.A.Y. The one on the left is particularly cute. He has an amazing body.
So which one of One Direction do you think is gay?
The one in purple?
The One Direction boys are working very hard on the X Factor to make it in the tough world of music. I'm sure they will do well winning or otherwise. They really don't need speculation on their sexuality, but they are sure going to get it.
JLS last year's X Factor definitely all look straight. It will be interesting to see if a boy band every has an out gay member from the get-go.
Comments please guys!
Gay newsView Australian Queer News on the web at Gay News Blog
Irish boy band Westlife star Mark Feehily declared he was gay and in a relationship with Kevin McDaid, who used to be in boyband V. Westlife memebrs fully supported Mark as did Westlife's fans.
Irish boy band Boyzone were the biggest boy band in Britain - six number ones, 10 million albums, sold-out arena tours with a not a dry seat in the house - and Stephen Gately was (secretly at first) gay. Sadly Stephen passed away last year from a congenital heart problem.
Lance Bass from US boy band N-Sync came out in 2006. "I knew that I was in this popular band and I had four other guys' careers in my hand, and I knew that if I ever acted on it or even said (that I was gay), it would overpower everything," said Bass at the time, referring to bandmates Joey Fatone, Chris Kirkpatrick, JC Chasez and Justin Timberlake.
Jonathan Knight from US Boy Band New Kids on the Block (NKOTB) is reported by Perez Hilton as gay. Johnathan dated a Brazilian model (Kyle Wilker), until he spilled the beans on his boy band boyfriends.
UK boy band Take That have no out gay members. Robbie Williams has joked many times about being gay but has sued The Mirror for libelous reports about his sexuality.
McFly are very cool and very supportive of their gay fan base. The boys recently got their willies out on the stage of gay London club institution G.A.Y. The one on the left is particularly cute. He has an amazing body.
So which one of One Direction do you think is gay?
The one in purple?
The One Direction boys are working very hard on the X Factor to make it in the tough world of music. I'm sure they will do well winning or otherwise. They really don't need speculation on their sexuality, but they are sure going to get it.
JLS last year's X Factor definitely all look straight. It will be interesting to see if a boy band every has an out gay member from the get-go.
Comments please guys!
Gay newsView Australian Queer News on the web at Gay News Blog
Thursday, August 21, 2014
Submissions under way for the 27th annual Lambda Literary awards
The submissions period has begun for the Lammys, the Lambda Literary Awards. Authors can submit their works from now until December 1st in categories ranging from general fiction to memoirs and biographies, romance, mystery and suspense, and scholarly works. The Lammys include over twenty categories. Submissions must have been published during the 2014 calendar year.
The Lammys celebrate outstanding LGBT literary works and have honored groundbreaking LGBT authors since 1989. Last year's nominees and honorees included Alex Woolfson and Winona Nelson's Artifice, Two Boys Kissing by David Levithan, ash & trim and other plays by Djola Branner, Alison Bechdel, and Kate Bornstein. Nominees will be announced in March 2015 with awards being presented in New York City in June 2015.
To find out more about the Lammys and submit your works visit the Lambda Literary website here.
August 21, 2014
Issues:
Entertainment
The Lammys celebrate outstanding LGBT literary works and have honored groundbreaking LGBT authors since 1989. Last year's nominees and honorees included Alex Woolfson and Winona Nelson's Artifice, Two Boys Kissing by David Levithan, ash & trim and other plays by Djola Branner, Alison Bechdel, and Kate Bornstein. Nominees will be announced in March 2015 with awards being presented in New York City in June 2015.
To find out more about the Lammys and submit your works visit the Lambda Literary website here.
August 21, 2014
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Entertainment
Joan Rivers, Gloria Allred Officiate at Bicoastal Same-Sex Weddings
Legendary comedian Joan Rivers and civil rights attorney Gloria Allred both officiated same-sex weddings last weekend, in New York City and West Hollywood, respectively.
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(69) The Lesma Files: Snotty and Shitty
More hostility, fights, and internal chaos�from The Lesma Files;�a random solo anti-soy rant in between spats, so hold on to your nun�habits. Truthfully, this is a positively disgusting podcast�including potty humor. Don’t listen while eating. Enjoy! 8) Disclaimer: Soy�is�especially toxic�for people with�Thyroid issues. (some would argue it is the cause) If�a person doesn’t�know�they have Thyroid […]
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Michelle Duggar Gets Verdict in Her Quest Against LGBT Ordinance in Ark.
Though 19 Kids and Counting star Michelle Duggar recorded a robocall in opposition to an LGBT nondiscrimination ordinance, city councilmembers in Fayetteville, Ark., voted in favor of the bill 6-2.
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City Council discusses medical marijuana dispensaries
Medical marijuana dispensaries were debated Monday by the San Diego City Council, which voted 6-1 to direct the City Attorney to draft an ordinance regulating dispensaries and making them legal with a list of qualifications and conditions.
But this isn’t a quick fix. City staff estimated that City Attorney Jan Goldsmith will return to the Council with an ordinance in mid-January, 2011.
It will be a different Council then, as Councilmember Donna Frye is termed out of office and Council President Ben Hueso is running for State Assembly.
Third District Councilmember Todd Gloria authored the motion which was seconded by Hueso. Carl DeMaio voted no and Marti Emerald was absent. Voting in favor were Sherri Lightner, Tony Young, Kevin Faulconer, Frye, Glor…
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But this isn’t a quick fix. City staff estimated that City Attorney Jan Goldsmith will return to the Council with an ordinance in mid-January, 2011.
It will be a different Council then, as Councilmember Donna Frye is termed out of office and Council President Ben Hueso is running for State Assembly.
Third District Councilmember Todd Gloria authored the motion which was seconded by Hueso. Carl DeMaio voted no and Marti Emerald was absent. Voting in favor were Sherri Lightner, Tony Young, Kevin Faulconer, Frye, Glor…
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Interview with Rose Rowe and Renee Olbert of Seeking Simone
Seeking Simone is a web series that follows Simone Selkin's bumbling attempts to date her way through Toronto, and the first episode of the second season recently premiered. Judging from the sheer insanity in her encounters with Toronto's finest ladies, I'm concerned about New York City's proximity to Toronto. I wonder if winds from the northwest could blow the cuckoo into the Big Apple like winds blew volcanic ash all over Europe from the Icelandic volcano last year.
Wednesday, August 20, 2014
NY Times Bestselling Author Janet Mock Host Trans Women of Color Authors For Women's History Month
(03-26-14) -- NY Times Bestselling Author Janet Mock (Redefining Realness) Host Trans Women of Color Authors Toni Newman, Mey Rude, and Ryka Aoki for Women's History Month. They discuss their books, writings and craft. The first forum of this kind ever In USA. On Wednesday, March 26, 2014 at 5pm (pacific time) NY Times Bestselling Author ...
What Would Lindsey Say Vol. 3
Yesterday, I got a random photo text from Lindsey. It was this one of a bag of multi-colored pasta shaped like a penis. Knowing that I am quite gay and find the penis to be a useless and ugly appendage, I knew the photo was designed to gross me out. After all, the thought of eating this type of food was... no.The following is a screenshot of our conversation:She is such a joy in my life. And if you have not ordered your copy of her book, "Ashway", please CLICK HERE and get one today!
An interview with Monica Fontanoza, Army Reservist
Being that she was displaced as a youth, it took her many years to find herself and realize her potential. She joined the Sheriff’s Department in 2006 and later joined the Army Reserves in 2008. Her relationship at that time had gone sour after she signed the contract because her ex did not agree with gays in the service. However Monica disagreed and felt it was an honor to represent GLBT people anyway and anywhere she could.
Monica went on to become a Civil Affairs Specialist and fell in love with it, realizing that there are people out there with integrity and compassion for others. Fortunately for her she says, they are the men and women she gladly serves with.
Monica’s partner Vanessa was a firefighter in the Navy. She felt a sense of du…
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Monica went on to become a Civil Affairs Specialist and fell in love with it, realizing that there are people out there with integrity and compassion for others. Fortunately for her she says, they are the men and women she gladly serves with.
Monica’s partner Vanessa was a firefighter in the Navy. She felt a sense of du…
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Streisand's new CD; Bourdain's support; Latifah's kiss
Columbia Records has announced the release of Barbra Streisand's Partners album as Sept. 16, according to a press release. The album features 12 new Streisand duets with a variety of male vocalists. Among the duet partners on this CD are Michael Bublé, Stevie Wonder, John Mayer, her openly gay son Jason Gould, Josh Groban, Billy Joel, Blake Shelton, John Legend, Andrea Bocelli, Babyface—and Elvis Presley. Just a few of the songs include "Somewhere" with Groban , "Love Me Tender" with Presley and "People" with Wonder .
(15B) Freestyle Friday Nostalgia Hour at SpiceNYC
lost a lot of sound quality when converted to mp3 but here goes … There’s A Party Going On – Nayobe You’ll Never Find Another Love - Take It While It’s Hot – Sweet Sensation Dancing On The Fire – India Give Me Back My Heart – Corina I Remember What You Like – Jenny […]
The perfect mix
DJ ELVEE spells it out
ELVEE, a San Diego native, is the resident DJ for girl’s night at Bourbon Street and has been there for six years. On Sunday nights you can find her in the DJ booth at the front right corner of the dance floor. With all the great music it is almost easy to forget that she is the catalyst that is helping you forget about your nine to five, suit and tie or blue and browns. I met with ELVEE recently at Bourbon Street and we seized an opportunity for a little Q and A.
GLT: What made you want to become a DJ?
LV: I actually fell into it through another DJ. A DJ named DJ Dallas who was very popular in the older community, and she still does work as a DJ. She was very instrumental as far as teaching me about my equipment and how to use the equipment to auto…
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ELVEE, a San Diego native, is the resident DJ for girl’s night at Bourbon Street and has been there for six years. On Sunday nights you can find her in the DJ booth at the front right corner of the dance floor. With all the great music it is almost easy to forget that she is the catalyst that is helping you forget about your nine to five, suit and tie or blue and browns. I met with ELVEE recently at Bourbon Street and we seized an opportunity for a little Q and A.
GLT: What made you want to become a DJ?
LV: I actually fell into it through another DJ. A DJ named DJ Dallas who was very popular in the older community, and she still does work as a DJ. She was very instrumental as far as teaching me about my equipment and how to use the equipment to auto…
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Tuesday, August 19, 2014
(57) How Can a Fish Look Like a Horse? (mini)
King Nero Bloombucks, X the hunting … the abortion issues … oh and that whole anti-gay marriage issue, and it’s Palin Lust, Bruno, etctera
Teenage boy arrested over daylight attack on seven-months-pregnant...
Shooting victim fighting for life as police use tear gas to impose curfew on defiant Ferguson protesters seven days after unarmed teenager Michael Brown was killed by cop EXCLUSIVE Childhood friend of Darren Wilson says cop is not racist and would never do 'something stupid' on duty as new yearbook photo shows him at 16 - two years younger than his ... (more)
(20A) Ass Angst and Hill On the Hill (1hr)
Fellow Podcast – Swannie of Goddess Radio Interviews Zsussana Budapest author of The Holy Book of Women’s Mysteries http://www.GoddessRadio.podomatic.com
'Orange' wins Creative Emmys
On Aug. 16, the Television Academy presented the 2014 Creative Arts Emmy Awards for programs and individual achievements at the Nokia Theatre in Los Angeles.
(15B) Freestyle Friday Nostalgia Hour at SpiceNYC
lost a lot of sound quality when converted to mp3 but here goes … There’s A Party Going On – Nayobe You’ll Never Find Another Love - Take It While It’s Hot – Sweet Sensation Dancing On The Fire – India Give Me Back My Heart – Corina I Remember What You Like – Jenny […]
Monday, August 18, 2014
(64) Love & Rage (Mini)
She’s not a f’cking “WRITER”! Blasphemers. Soy. Quack therapists, pills and doctors… oh, and don’t listen if you’re hypersensitive about these issues and can’t deal with anyone having a different opinion and/or life experience than yours. This isn’t NPR, byatches.
US judge: ‘Don’t ask, don’t tell’ unconstitutional
LOS ANGELES (AP) – A federal judge said she will issue an order to halt the military’s “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy, after she declared the ban on openly gay service members unconstitutional.
U.S. District Judge Virginia Phillips ruled Thursday that the prohibition on openly gay service members was unconstitutional because it violates the First and Fifth Amendment rights of gays and lesbians.
The policy doesn’t help military readiness and instead has a “direct and deleterious effect” on the armed services by hurting recruitment efforts during wartime and requiring the discharge of service members who have critical skills and training, she said.
The Log Cabin Republicans sued the federal government in…
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U.S. District Judge Virginia Phillips ruled Thursday that the prohibition on openly gay service members was unconstitutional because it violates the First and Fifth Amendment rights of gays and lesbians.
The policy doesn’t help military readiness and instead has a “direct and deleterious effect” on the armed services by hurting recruitment efforts during wartime and requiring the discharge of service members who have critical skills and training, she said.
The Log Cabin Republicans sued the federal government in…
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and #39;South Beach On Heels and #39; wins best feature documentary at Madrid International Film Festival
On Heels, a locally produced film starring Palace drag queens Tiffany Fantasia and Noel Leon, won best feature documentary...
THEATER REVIEW Fiddler on the Roof
Playwright: Joseph Stein book , Jerry Bock music , Sheldon Harnick lyrics . At: Light Opera Works, Cahn Auditorium, 600 Emerson St., Evanston. Tickets: 847-920-5360; www.LightOperaWorks.com; $34-$94. Runs through: Aug. 24
Pretty Airplanes
Jes from Dayton Ohio recently contacted me to tell me about an art project she completed. She was invited by the city to cover this model F16 jet with art. Since she is a mosaic artist, this is what she came up with. Jess said:I covered the Jet with stained glass because glass is the most beautiful media in the world ;)I wanted to show a larger range of color and knew that a rainbow would be perfect. The plane is meant to be beautiful more than anything else. I wanted people to want to know what she is all about. A beautiful sculpture that says I'm proud to be gay and in the military. I hope this Rainbow F16 serves as a reminder that we need to defeat the BAN on gay men and women serving our country. Equality is beautiful.Jes's plane will be on display in a bank in Dayton, Ohio. Thanks for sharing Jes!
Facebook hosts Chicago 'Fit' event
Small business owners and entrepreneurs gathered in Chicago's West Loop last month to hear from their peers and Facebook experts about how the company helps businesses connect to customers.
It's back to school season! Campus Pride's annual listing of LGBT-friendly colleges released today
Just in time for back to school season, Campus Pride has released its annual listing of LGBT-friendly colleges today! Campus Pride, the leading national educational organization for LGBT and ally college students, has maintained an index of LGBT-friendly colleges since 2001 in order to help LGBT students and allies find welcoming campuses.
In addition, Campus Pride is going purple on October 16th for GLAAD's Spirit Day, a day where millions around the world go purple in support of LGBT youth and against bullying!
For the first time ever, Campus Pride has increased its annual list from the Top 25 to the Top 50 LGBT-friendly schools. Shane Windmeyer, Executive Director of Campus Pride and the creator of the Campus Pride Index, said:
?For six years in a row, Campus Pride has seen an increase in the number of campuses coming out as LGBT-friendly and making notable improvements to LGBT academic life, so we decided to honor 50 campuses with our national distinction. Today the Campus Pride Index has over 425 campuses featured online and for the first time ever we have 56 campuses who achieved the highest 5 stars overall rating, the largest number to date.?
According to Campus Pride, each college had to achieve the 5 stars overall rating as well as have the highest percentages across the 8 LGBT-friendly benchmarks for policy, program, and practice in order to make the Top 50 this year.
For the third year in a row, over 80% of the participating colleges improved their ratings from the previous year. In other exciting news, the number of campuses located in the South increased, in addition to the number of religiously-affiliated campuses and Minority Serving Institutions.
Windmeyer said:
?More than ever colleges today want to be viewed as LGBT-friendly and a welcoming place for all students. LGBT students and their safety impacts the recruitment efforts of the entire campus. Upper-level administrators are now understanding how LGBT-friendliness is key to future institutional success. This Top 50 list is proof.?
The new Top 50 in alphabetical order are?drumroll please?�
Amherst CollegeAugsburg CollegeBrown UniversityCentral Washington UniversityConnecticut CollegeCornell UniversityDartmouth CollegeEmory UniversityHarvard UniversityIndiana UniversityIthaca CollegeMacalester CollegeNorthern Arizona UniversityOberlin CollegeOregon State UniversityPomona CollegePortland State UniversityPrinceton UniversityRutgers UniversitySan Diego State UniversitySouthern Illinois University CarbondaleSouthern Oregon UniversityStanford UniversitySyracuse UniversityThe Ohio State UniversityThe Pennsylvania State UniversityTulane UniversityUniversity of California, BerkeleyUniversity of California, Los AngelesUniversity of California, RiversideUniversity of California, Santa BarbaraUniversity of California, Santa CruzUniversity of Central FloridaUniversity of ChicagoUniversity of Illinois at ChicagoUniversity of Maryland, College ParkUniversity of Massachusetts, AmherstUniversity of MichiganUniversity of Minnesota - DuluthUniversity of Minnesota - Twin CitiesUniversity of OregonUniversity of PennsylvaniaUniversity of Rhode IslandUniversity of Southern CaliforniaUniversity of VermontUniversity of WashingtonUniversity of Wisconsin - MilwaukeeWarren Wilson CollegeWashington State UniversityWashington University in St. Louis
Congratulations to the schools who made the list this year. Keep up the good work!
Campus Pride is also launching a brand new Sports Index this year to assess college athletic departments on their LGBT-friendliness and inclusion. GLAAD is in partnership with Campus Pride for this project, and college sports administrators are encouraged to take this online assessment to make sure their campus gets listed.
August 15, 2014
Issues:
News,
Spirit Day,
Young Adult
In addition, Campus Pride is going purple on October 16th for GLAAD's Spirit Day, a day where millions around the world go purple in support of LGBT youth and against bullying!
For the first time ever, Campus Pride has increased its annual list from the Top 25 to the Top 50 LGBT-friendly schools. Shane Windmeyer, Executive Director of Campus Pride and the creator of the Campus Pride Index, said:
?For six years in a row, Campus Pride has seen an increase in the number of campuses coming out as LGBT-friendly and making notable improvements to LGBT academic life, so we decided to honor 50 campuses with our national distinction. Today the Campus Pride Index has over 425 campuses featured online and for the first time ever we have 56 campuses who achieved the highest 5 stars overall rating, the largest number to date.?
According to Campus Pride, each college had to achieve the 5 stars overall rating as well as have the highest percentages across the 8 LGBT-friendly benchmarks for policy, program, and practice in order to make the Top 50 this year.
For the third year in a row, over 80% of the participating colleges improved their ratings from the previous year. In other exciting news, the number of campuses located in the South increased, in addition to the number of religiously-affiliated campuses and Minority Serving Institutions.
Windmeyer said:
?More than ever colleges today want to be viewed as LGBT-friendly and a welcoming place for all students. LGBT students and their safety impacts the recruitment efforts of the entire campus. Upper-level administrators are now understanding how LGBT-friendliness is key to future institutional success. This Top 50 list is proof.?
The new Top 50 in alphabetical order are?drumroll please?�
Amherst CollegeAugsburg CollegeBrown UniversityCentral Washington UniversityConnecticut CollegeCornell UniversityDartmouth CollegeEmory UniversityHarvard UniversityIndiana UniversityIthaca CollegeMacalester CollegeNorthern Arizona UniversityOberlin CollegeOregon State UniversityPomona CollegePortland State UniversityPrinceton UniversityRutgers UniversitySan Diego State UniversitySouthern Illinois University CarbondaleSouthern Oregon UniversityStanford UniversitySyracuse UniversityThe Ohio State UniversityThe Pennsylvania State UniversityTulane UniversityUniversity of California, BerkeleyUniversity of California, Los AngelesUniversity of California, RiversideUniversity of California, Santa BarbaraUniversity of California, Santa CruzUniversity of Central FloridaUniversity of ChicagoUniversity of Illinois at ChicagoUniversity of Maryland, College ParkUniversity of Massachusetts, AmherstUniversity of MichiganUniversity of Minnesota - DuluthUniversity of Minnesota - Twin CitiesUniversity of OregonUniversity of PennsylvaniaUniversity of Rhode IslandUniversity of Southern CaliforniaUniversity of VermontUniversity of WashingtonUniversity of Wisconsin - MilwaukeeWarren Wilson CollegeWashington State UniversityWashington University in St. Louis
Congratulations to the schools who made the list this year. Keep up the good work!
Campus Pride is also launching a brand new Sports Index this year to assess college athletic departments on their LGBT-friendliness and inclusion. GLAAD is in partnership with Campus Pride for this project, and college sports administrators are encouraged to take this online assessment to make sure their campus gets listed.
August 15, 2014
Issues:
News,
Spirit Day,
Young Adult
Sunday, August 17, 2014
Obstacles: Turning Away the Uncomitted
I saw this on my Pinterest feed a few days ago and it made me think about obstacles in relationships. I think that obstacles can serve two purposes in a relationship: To spur growth between the people in the relationship - as they overcome obstacles, they grow closer, build trust and have a strengthened bond.To weed out the uncommitted. Spurring Growth When I was married to a man, our first few years together were difficult. Not in a relationship sense, but financially. We struggled to pay bills and had to get very creative. I learned how to cook, we began composting, he took our trash with him to his office dumpster, we had rabbit ears that got us 3 TV channels and I went through my entire pregnancy in Georgia without air conditioning because the repair to our AC unit was too expensive.These obstacles could have torn us apart and we could have blamed each other for not earning more money or spending wisely, but we faced our challenges together as a team and did some fantastic problem solving. It felt like each time we solved a problem together, we began to develop a deep and abiding trust. He kept his promises to me and I grew to know him as a man of his word. I knew that he always had my best interest at heart as much as he knew I had his.We were together for 23 years - until I came out as a lesbian and needed to take my own journey without him. Today, we are friends and will always have fond memories of the life that we built together. We are our children's parents and will always have a friendship that has survived the trauma that coming out later in life can bring. Weeding Out the UncommittedUnlike my ex-husband, who was willing to be solidly on my team and committed to the core, you may find yourself with a "partner" who is anything but a partner. My ex-husband rarely made me feel like he wasn't on my side. In fact, the times where he solidly took my side are the times I remember that I loved him the most.An uncommitted person will act like they are on an opposing team when you must face an obstacle. You hope they will be your ally - a person to go to that will help and offer advice and support. But, no.An uncommitted person will rarely tackle a problem with you. They avoid being involved and leave it to you to solve. You may be attacked and blamed and the conflict may then be used as an excuse to alert you to your other failings as a human being. (If you don't know what it's like to be kicked while you're down, these types of partners will gladly teach you.)If you have a partner who uses obstacles to show you where you are weak, blames you for the obstacle, refuses to acknowledge the obstacle (especially if it comes from their sphere) and/or gets tired of "dealing" with it, please know that I am so sorry for you. These people are "relationship lazy" - they love it when everything is going well, but they don't want to be a part of the work that it takes to maintain a good one. Like everything else, things that are not maintained usually start to fall apart. When they do, these people walk out looking for greener pastures (new partners). Take Away:Let these people go.Do not fight to keep them in your life. They will always want to flee in order to avoid doing the work of maintaining a relationship. The blame game is the only one that they know how to play. Instead, look for the people who wouldn't even consider using obstacles as a time to vent or tell you what about you angers them, kicking you when you are down. You want someone who can communicate in a mature way, without feeling the need to blame or name-call; someone who can set aside their emotions for a moment in order to look for solutions that build relationship trust in the process. If you are lucky enough to find someone like that, don't YOU be the dumb-ass that is too lazy to maintain it. You hold on to and care for that person like they are the best thing that ever happened to you. Because, more than likely, they are.
Conversations with Nicole
Over 200 cities across America will be celebrating “GLBT Center Awareness Day”. We in San Diego have one of the best community centers in the nation… A big “thank you” to all the Center volunteers, staff and Board!
About Muslim Tolerance
Hey yes, I believe in tolerance and support of Muslim Americans, but I have great concerns with their leaders. Silence…when it comes to the stoning of women in Muslim countries…of murders and killings of gays…of Muslim nations calling for the death of all Jews and the end of Israel …about Muslim countries prohibiting the building of any Christian churches or Jewish synagogues on their lands. Why do American Muslim leaders never speak out on these issues?? Tolerance…
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About Muslim Tolerance
Hey yes, I believe in tolerance and support of Muslim Americans, but I have great concerns with their leaders. Silence…when it comes to the stoning of women in Muslim countries…of murders and killings of gays…of Muslim nations calling for the death of all Jews and the end of Israel …about Muslim countries prohibiting the building of any Christian churches or Jewish synagogues on their lands. Why do American Muslim leaders never speak out on these issues?? Tolerance…
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Condoms' Aug. 13 at Little Black Pearl
The Red Pump Project is inviting women to "Cupcakes and Condoms," an evening of cupcakes, sexual health and girl talk centered around the Centers for Disease and Control CDC relaunch of the "Take Charge. Take the Test" campaign focused on African-American women.
Howard. Stern.
Liked him before. Simply ADORE HIM now. This is a MUST LISTEN. It's wonderful...honest, raw, passionate, TRUTH. On his show Monday, Howard Stern went on a 12-minute rant about the ?One Million Moms? campaign against Ellen DeGeneres, people who joke about Rosie O'Donnell being a lesbian, anti-gay politicians, and much more. It's worth listening to in its entirety.
Official AIDS Walk & Run San Diego Event Guide
Early Registration
You can fast track your AIDS Walk & Run experience by turning in the funds you’ve raised at one of our pre-event collection events:
Thurs., Sept. 23, 4-8pm
Fri., Sept. 24, 4-8pm
Sat., Sept. 25, noon-4pm
Early registration will take place at The San Diego LGBT Community Center, 3909 Centre St., San Diego, CA 92103. For more information call (619) 291-WALK (9255).
NEW! 10K AIDS Run participants can pickup race packets and bibs on Sat., Sept. 25 from noon-4pm at The Center, 3909 Centre St., or at AIDS Run Registration in Balboa Park, located on the corner of Sixth Avenue and Quince, from 6-8am on Sun., Sept. 26.
Day of event registration is welcome for both the Walk and the Run! Please have your $35 registration fee ($25 f…
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You can fast track your AIDS Walk & Run experience by turning in the funds you’ve raised at one of our pre-event collection events:
Thurs., Sept. 23, 4-8pm
Fri., Sept. 24, 4-8pm
Sat., Sept. 25, noon-4pm
Early registration will take place at The San Diego LGBT Community Center, 3909 Centre St., San Diego, CA 92103. For more information call (619) 291-WALK (9255).
NEW! 10K AIDS Run participants can pickup race packets and bibs on Sat., Sept. 25 from noon-4pm at The Center, 3909 Centre St., or at AIDS Run Registration in Balboa Park, located on the corner of Sixth Avenue and Quince, from 6-8am on Sun., Sept. 26.
Day of event registration is welcome for both the Walk and the Run! Please have your $35 registration fee ($25 f…
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