Friday, October 31, 2014
Changent Cate Cameron
My friend, amazing photographer Cate Cameron, was selected for an initiative Proctor and Gamble is working on called Children's Safe Drinking Water. She just shipped off to NYC and will then be heading to an area of Haiti within Zone Code 4 (No Travel Advised), where she will be connecting and photographing with some of the world's poorest people in relation to access to clean water.She is writing a blog about her life altering adventure and you can follow it here: http://givehealth.changents.com/cate-cameron
Tim Cook, el CEO de Apple, sale y habla de ser gay
"Soy orgulloso de ser gay. Considero el ser gay entro los regalos m�s grandes que Dios me ha dado," Tim Cook, el CEO de Apple, escribi� en un ensayo escrito por �l y publicado en Bloomberg Businessweek editorial, la ma�ana del 30 de octubre.
"Historias como la de Tim Cook ayudan a que las personas piensen de manera diferente y abran su perspectiva. Como un hombre de fe, nacido en el sur de los estados unidos y el CEO de unas de las compa��as m�s grandes del mundo, la historia de Tim Cook viajara de los bancos de Iglesias a las oficinas m�s importantes en el mundo del comercio, enviando un mensaje muy fuerte a millones de personas: que todos podemos vivir la vida que nos hace feliz," dijo Sarah Kate Ellis, la presidenta y CEO de GLAAD. "Apple tiene una larga historia de inclusi�n y hoy la compa��a continua en su rol como l�der en la lucha por la igualdad para todos."
A la edad de 53 a�os, Cook nunca ha hablado p�blicamente acerca de ser gay, aunque �l dijo que nunca ocult� su identidad.
En su ensayo, �l escribi� "Ser gay me ha dado una comprensi�n m�s profunda de lo que significa estar en la minor�a y me ha proporcionado una ventana a los desaf�os que la gente de otros grupos minoritarios viven todos los d�as. Me ha hecho m�s emp�tico, lo cual ha llevado a una vida m�s rica. Ha sido duro e inc�modo a veces, pero me ha dado la confianza para ser yo mismo, para seguir mi propio camino, y superar la adversidad y la intolerancia. Me ha dado la piel de un rinoceronte, que viene muy bien cuando eres el CEO de Apple."
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October 30, 2014
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"Historias como la de Tim Cook ayudan a que las personas piensen de manera diferente y abran su perspectiva. Como un hombre de fe, nacido en el sur de los estados unidos y el CEO de unas de las compa��as m�s grandes del mundo, la historia de Tim Cook viajara de los bancos de Iglesias a las oficinas m�s importantes en el mundo del comercio, enviando un mensaje muy fuerte a millones de personas: que todos podemos vivir la vida que nos hace feliz," dijo Sarah Kate Ellis, la presidenta y CEO de GLAAD. "Apple tiene una larga historia de inclusi�n y hoy la compa��a continua en su rol como l�der en la lucha por la igualdad para todos."
A la edad de 53 a�os, Cook nunca ha hablado p�blicamente acerca de ser gay, aunque �l dijo que nunca ocult� su identidad.
En su ensayo, �l escribi� "Ser gay me ha dado una comprensi�n m�s profunda de lo que significa estar en la minor�a y me ha proporcionado una ventana a los desaf�os que la gente de otros grupos minoritarios viven todos los d�as. Me ha hecho m�s emp�tico, lo cual ha llevado a una vida m�s rica. Ha sido duro e inc�modo a veces, pero me ha dado la confianza para ser yo mismo, para seguir mi propio camino, y superar la adversidad y la intolerancia. Me ha dado la piel de un rinoceronte, que viene muy bien cuando eres el CEO de Apple."
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October 30, 2014
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What to Watch Wednesday 10/29: Catch an all new Halloween episode of 'Modern Family'
Tonight catch all new episodes of Modern Family and Nashville.
What to Watch: Wednesday, October 29
9:00pm: Modern Family, ABC (30 mins) NEW
Cameron struggles to keep up with Halloween day activities and Mitch delivers the closing arguments of a big case, but struggles when he sees the stenographer is dressed as a spider. Elsewhere, Phil turns the Dunphy house into "AwesomeLand" and Gloria and Jay clash over Halloween costume choices.
10:00pm: Nashville, ABC (1 hr) NEW
Rayna is nominated for several CMA awards, but is up against Luke in the top category. Juliette asks Avery to be involved in her life as the father to her child and Gunnar turns to Scarlett for advice.
This morning and afternoon,�check your local listings for information about�Ellen,�The Talk�(CBS), The Gossip Table (VH1), The View (ABC) and�The Chew�(ABC). Soap operas Days of Our Lives�on NBC and General Hospital on ABC (check local listings for time) both feature out characters.
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About What to Watch on TV
Grab the remote or set your DVR!�GLAAD�brings you the most up-to-date listing of LGBT content on television every weekday. Check�GLAAD Blog�for daily What to Watch on TV posts!
About GLAADGLAAD amplifies the voice of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community by empowering real people to share their stories, holding the media accountable for the words and images they present, and helping grassroots organizations communicate effectively. By ensuring that the stories of LGBT people are heard through the media, GLAAD promotes understanding, increases acceptance, and advances equality. For more information, see�www.glaad.org,�www.facebook.com/glaad,�www.twitter.com/glaad�and�www.glaad.tumblr.com.
October 29, 2014
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What to Watch on TV
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Modern Family,
Nashville
What to Watch: Wednesday, October 29
9:00pm: Modern Family, ABC (30 mins) NEW
Cameron struggles to keep up with Halloween day activities and Mitch delivers the closing arguments of a big case, but struggles when he sees the stenographer is dressed as a spider. Elsewhere, Phil turns the Dunphy house into "AwesomeLand" and Gloria and Jay clash over Halloween costume choices.
10:00pm: Nashville, ABC (1 hr) NEW
Rayna is nominated for several CMA awards, but is up against Luke in the top category. Juliette asks Avery to be involved in her life as the father to her child and Gunnar turns to Scarlett for advice.
This morning and afternoon,�check your local listings for information about�Ellen,�The Talk�(CBS), The Gossip Table (VH1), The View (ABC) and�The Chew�(ABC). Soap operas Days of Our Lives�on NBC and General Hospital on ABC (check local listings for time) both feature out characters.
____________________________________________________
About What to Watch on TV
Grab the remote or set your DVR!�GLAAD�brings you the most up-to-date listing of LGBT content on television every weekday. Check�GLAAD Blog�for daily What to Watch on TV posts!
About GLAADGLAAD amplifies the voice of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community by empowering real people to share their stories, holding the media accountable for the words and images they present, and helping grassroots organizations communicate effectively. By ensuring that the stories of LGBT people are heard through the media, GLAAD promotes understanding, increases acceptance, and advances equality. For more information, see�www.glaad.org,�www.facebook.com/glaad,�www.twitter.com/glaad�and�www.glaad.tumblr.com.
October 29, 2014
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What to Watch on TV
Tags:
Modern Family,
Nashville
February 2012 - Life on the Road (and mostly my crib)
Hello hello! So here we are again. I started this special series of blog entries last month (Click here for Jan. 2012) and am happy to report that...well there is more to report. I have *words* to say about February which means the clock hasn't yet struck midnight on this little fairy tale I'm living.(My friend Adriana and I doin' a faux prom pic in the middle of a hotel in LA a few days ago. That's normal, right? Oh and although it definitely looks like it, she is NOT in love with me. Totally looks like it, though, doesn't it. Sheesh, no means no, lady!)Now don't get me wrong: the job I have (like I'm sure it is for most of you reading this) is a LOT of hard work. Truly. It's mentally and physically challenging and there are a VAGILLION moving parts and lots of high stakes gigs/days. But the good news is that I LOVE that sort of energy. I love high stakes. I love having a ton of responsibility and people looking to me for answers. I love still having so many questions, and being a sponge, soaking it all up each and every day. Cause I know one day I will be jaded. One day this will just be a J.O.B. I hope that doesn't happen for several decades and that when it DOES happen, I'm somewhere on a jetpack and it won't matter anyway:) So the point is, I don't take a minute of this for granted.And while January was chock full of gigs and jetsetting and ROBES (see link above), February was relatively quiet until the veeery end. I spent most of February in Houston working on a few things from home, watching Criminal Intent marathons, and gaining SO much weight all throughout and about my person. I also came across some old photo prints that I did years ago in a dark room and it really has me inspired to pursue photography more seriously than ever before.(My brother Alfred, hand printed)(This chick that used to work at my favorite restaurant in Dallas, Mother Mesquite's, hand printed)The last week in Feb, I got a call that we would have to fly to LA the very next day for a big CeeLo show in Hollywood. We spent a few days in rehearsal...(The band playing during rehearsals)...and I spent a few minutes staring at this sign that I came across...(No biggie, just where my wife Katharine Mcphee's mom teaches and coaches American Idol contestants and others, and where my wife got her chops back in the day. Yep. I was able to *go to there*.)SO, speeeeaking of women named after felines who I am married to, did you guys catch when my other wife Cat Deeley retweeted me in Feb? No? I'll show you:That was cool, right? Know whats even cooler? Days later when I find out that Cat Deeley not only has great taste in food, tweets, and Arlans, but she ALSO says yes to the best gigs. She HOSTED the show we did in Hollywood! Good thing I didn't realize this until the night before the show, or I'm pretty sure I would have hyperventilated days earlier and wouldn't have been able to make it to the show at all. All tolled, I spent about 6 hours in Ms. Deeley's tall, luxurious, babe-alicious presence, and I can tell you this: the woman is HOT, friendly, DAMN good at her job, and an overall pleasant individual to be around. Unfortunately I did not get to redeem myself and ask for her hand in marriage, because she's a lady and I'm a professional...aaand truth be told, anytime she'd look in my general direction, I'd giggle and turn into a bowl of jello. But next time, I'll be rock solid, my friends. ROCK. SOLID.(My view of part of soundcheck at Hollywood and Highland. New artist 'V' was preparing for her incredible duet with CeeLo. She sounded great!)You can see pics from the red carpet and the show itself HERE!So thats a wrap for February 2012. I now return you to your regularly scheduled Daily Lesbian Moment blog:) See you again a few days into April where hopefully there will be even more to report. Shenanigans, I tell you. Pure shenanigans!- (Click here for Jan. 2012 blog entry)
Walking Alone
.Do you ever contemplate the sadness of walking life alone? .Although you may have friends and family that can walk with you for a while, you realize that they have their own friends and family and you know it's not possible for them to walk with you the entire journey?. Even though you could make it alone, sharing the joyful moments of your journey with someone you really love is the happiness that a good life is made of. .It reminds me of that scene in "Jerry Maguire" where he had his big night but he couldn't enjoy it because his wife wasn't with him. He's telling her (in front of a room full of women) that he realizes that his happiness is now contingent upon having her presence to share it with. . .(Wasn't that sweet?) .Not only do you suffer walking alone by having nobody to share your basic life joys with, but you also know that when you suffer a heart-break (and you WILL), there is nobody with you to comfort you. .When you feel no hand rubbing your back and have no body to just be physically present, be certain that your sadness becomes multiplied. .Walking alone is hard and with each passing year, I have greater tenderness in my heart for those who must do it. It will never be my desire to walk alone but sometimes, it's not up to us. For those who must do it who don't want to, my heart goes out to you. . Love and light.
Which Member of One Direction is Gay?
Which Member of One Direction is Gay? Are there any gay members of One Direction? Do any of them actually know themselves? Take a look at the history of boy bands with members coming out as gay.
Irish boy band Westlife star Mark Feehily declared he was gay and in a relationship with Kevin McDaid, who used to be in boyband V. Westlife memebrs fully supported Mark as did Westlife's fans.
Irish boy band Boyzone were the biggest boy band in Britain - six number ones, 10 million albums, sold-out arena tours with a not a dry seat in the house - and Stephen Gately was (secretly at first) gay. Sadly Stephen passed away last year from a congenital heart problem.
Lance Bass from US boy band N-Sync came out in 2006. "I knew that I was in this popular band and I had four other guys' careers in my hand, and I knew that if I ever acted on it or even said (that I was gay), it would overpower everything," said Bass at the time, referring to bandmates Joey Fatone, Chris Kirkpatrick, JC Chasez and Justin Timberlake.
Jonathan Knight from US Boy Band New Kids on the Block (NKOTB) is reported by Perez Hilton as gay. Johnathan dated a Brazilian model (Kyle Wilker), until he spilled the beans on his boy band boyfriends.
UK boy band Take That have no out gay members. Robbie Williams has joked many times about being gay but has sued The Mirror for libelous reports about his sexuality.
McFly are very cool and very supportive of their gay fan base. The boys recently got their willies out on the stage of gay London club institution G.A.Y. The one on the left is particularly cute. He has an amazing body.
So which one of One Direction do you think is gay?
The one in purple?
The One Direction boys are working very hard on the X Factor to make it in the tough world of music. I'm sure they will do well winning or otherwise. They really don't need speculation on their sexuality, but they are sure going to get it.
JLS last year's X Factor definitely all look straight. It will be interesting to see if a boy band every has an out gay member from the get-go.
Comments please guys!
Gay newsView Australian Queer News on the web at Gay News Blog
Irish boy band Westlife star Mark Feehily declared he was gay and in a relationship with Kevin McDaid, who used to be in boyband V. Westlife memebrs fully supported Mark as did Westlife's fans.
Irish boy band Boyzone were the biggest boy band in Britain - six number ones, 10 million albums, sold-out arena tours with a not a dry seat in the house - and Stephen Gately was (secretly at first) gay. Sadly Stephen passed away last year from a congenital heart problem.
Lance Bass from US boy band N-Sync came out in 2006. "I knew that I was in this popular band and I had four other guys' careers in my hand, and I knew that if I ever acted on it or even said (that I was gay), it would overpower everything," said Bass at the time, referring to bandmates Joey Fatone, Chris Kirkpatrick, JC Chasez and Justin Timberlake.
Jonathan Knight from US Boy Band New Kids on the Block (NKOTB) is reported by Perez Hilton as gay. Johnathan dated a Brazilian model (Kyle Wilker), until he spilled the beans on his boy band boyfriends.
UK boy band Take That have no out gay members. Robbie Williams has joked many times about being gay but has sued The Mirror for libelous reports about his sexuality.
McFly are very cool and very supportive of their gay fan base. The boys recently got their willies out on the stage of gay London club institution G.A.Y. The one on the left is particularly cute. He has an amazing body.
So which one of One Direction do you think is gay?
The one in purple?
The One Direction boys are working very hard on the X Factor to make it in the tough world of music. I'm sure they will do well winning or otherwise. They really don't need speculation on their sexuality, but they are sure going to get it.
JLS last year's X Factor definitely all look straight. It will be interesting to see if a boy band every has an out gay member from the get-go.
Comments please guys!
Gay newsView Australian Queer News on the web at Gay News Blog
Thursday, October 30, 2014
The Center's LGBT Veterans Wall of Honor to induct 6 honorees
SAN DIEGO, California -- The San Diego LGBT Community Center will honor six veterans of the U.S. Armed Forces at the third LGBT Veterans Wall of Honor Induction Ceremony on Thursday, Nov. 6 at 5:30 pm.
The Benjamin F. Dillingham and Bridget Wilson LGBT Veterans Wall of Honor recognizes LGBT veterans with ties to San Diego who have taken the oath to serve the country and have done so honorably, and with distinction, acting as role models in advancing equality.
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The Benjamin F. Dillingham and Bridget Wilson LGBT Veterans Wall of Honor recognizes LGBT veterans with ties to San Diego who have taken the oath to serve the country and have done so honorably, and with distinction, acting as role models in advancing equality.
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Gaga speaks, Reid acts on ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’
LAS VEGAS (AP) – Does Lady Gaga run the U.S. Senate?
A spokesman for Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid said Tuesday a vote to repeal the military’s ban of openly gay and lesbian soldiers had been planned for next week before the singer made waves with a plea during a daytime talk show.
The pop star known for flashy performances and eccentric style called on Reid to repeal the military’s “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy in an interview with Ellen DeGeneres that aired Monday.
Reid’s campaign and Gaga traded talking points on Twitter after the lawmaker announced the vote. Reid told Gaga repealing the measure was the right thing to do.
Campaign spokesman Kelly Steele said Reid does not take cues from Gaga.
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A spokesman for Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid said Tuesday a vote to repeal the military’s ban of openly gay and lesbian soldiers had been planned for next week before the singer made waves with a plea during a daytime talk show.
The pop star known for flashy performances and eccentric style called on Reid to repeal the military’s “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy in an interview with Ellen DeGeneres that aired Monday.
Reid’s campaign and Gaga traded talking points on Twitter after the lawmaker announced the vote. Reid told Gaga repealing the measure was the right thing to do.
Campaign spokesman Kelly Steele said Reid does not take cues from Gaga.
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(39) Tatooed Atom Smashers & 13 Bisexual Lesbotrons
Vladimir is Displeased w/the Bing Bang, Aries Discrimination, Lesbian Mafia Tattoos, Sex Addiction, *Guest *Heide* (formerly of Chaos Radio) and Her Dream Life, Houseboy Slaves, Dominatrixes Make Strange Lovers, 13 Types of Bisexuality – Which One Are You? *Guest: *Reap* of Pulse Talk Radio�talks Black Holes & San Fran … Lesbian Mafia Apparel: http://thelesbianmafia.spreadshirt.com Voice […]
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Kenny Kardashian says:
I, too, served in the Navy and also swore the same oath, not really knowing what lay ahead. While for most people, being gay is dangerous I was lucky to experience minimal discrimination and teasing. However, I was not immune from such teasing. Everyone at my shore duty facility at Naval Air Staton North Island in San Diego knew I was gay and while I made a risky move, when people asked, I told. However, there was no one running to the officer in charge. Most the people that asked me said they were “cool with it”, or others simply just knew.
I am not the most butch guy in the world, but my feminine mannerisms and the way I was did catch the attention of some few people in leadership chain of command around me. They woul…
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I, too, served in the Navy and also swore the same oath, not really knowing what lay ahead. While for most people, being gay is dangerous I was lucky to experience minimal discrimination and teasing. However, I was not immune from such teasing. Everyone at my shore duty facility at Naval Air Staton North Island in San Diego knew I was gay and while I made a risky move, when people asked, I told. However, there was no one running to the officer in charge. Most the people that asked me said they were “cool with it”, or others simply just knew.
I am not the most butch guy in the world, but my feminine mannerisms and the way I was did catch the attention of some few people in leadership chain of command around me. They woul…
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Lady Ga Ga Speaks her Mind
They asked her to boycott her shows in Arizona to protest SB1070. Instead, Lady Ga Ga activates the crowd. I love Lady Ga Ga.
Harvey Milk's American Diner "will not reopen," owner says
SAN DIEGO, California -- One of the owners of Harvey Milk's American Diner in Hillcrest announced today that the restaurant will not reopen.
Frank Lechner, one of three owners of the diner, issued this brief statement to San Diego Gay & Lesbian News:
One of the owners of Harvey Milk's American Diner in Hillcrest announced today that the restaurant will not reopen.
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Frank Lechner, one of three owners of the diner, issued this brief statement to San Diego Gay & Lesbian News:
One of the owners of Harvey Milk's American Diner in Hillcrest announced today that the restaurant will not reopen.
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(65) ?Outrage? Director Kirby Dick
Interview with prolific filmmaker Kirby Dick on his controversial movie Outrage, which outs closeted gay politicians who vote to pass anti-gay legislation. His film SICK (1997) won the Special Jury Prize at Sundance and the Grand Prize at the Los Angeles Film Festival. Dick also directed the controversial TWIST OF FAITH (2005), a film about […]
Wednesday, October 29, 2014
Real Estate News
Lorie Zapf follow up
Last Friday, our community got some good news from the San Diego Association of Realtors (SDAR) which decided to suspend its endorsement of Lorie Zapf for City Council. Zapf failed to disclose a number of crippling personal details including her open gay-hatred and her operation of a short sale scam with husband Eric. Zapf is now forced to remove the Realtor thumbs-up from all campaign material and won’t have access to the organization’s PAC funds. Thanks to all who took a moment to contact SDAR, both as Realtors and as clients. Your direct involvement helped immensely. Professional credit is owed to SD City Beat’s Dave Maass and Realtor Pat Flannery from blogofsandiego.com.
Before we uncork the Prosecco in victory, let me offer a more dir…
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Last Friday, our community got some good news from the San Diego Association of Realtors (SDAR) which decided to suspend its endorsement of Lorie Zapf for City Council. Zapf failed to disclose a number of crippling personal details including her open gay-hatred and her operation of a short sale scam with husband Eric. Zapf is now forced to remove the Realtor thumbs-up from all campaign material and won’t have access to the organization’s PAC funds. Thanks to all who took a moment to contact SDAR, both as Realtors and as clients. Your direct involvement helped immensely. Professional credit is owed to SD City Beat’s Dave Maass and Realtor Pat Flannery from blogofsandiego.com.
Before we uncork the Prosecco in victory, let me offer a more dir…
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Scissr: Lesbian Web Series
I can't believe how excited I am about this new lesbian web series. Out actress Lauren Augarten has assembled a cast of hot lesbian and queer actresses to star in this new drama. The four women meet one night over an iPhone app and the rest is history. I talked to Lauren about the creation of the series, where she hopes it ends up and if that one scene was inspired by reading Lesbian Life....
Do you really *want* to know how you are bad in bed?
My ex girlfriend and I are back together again and things are better this time. Except for the sex. The reason we previously broke up is that my not wanting to be touched (PTSD, Child Abuse) was unfair to her. I was more than happy to do all the work in bed but she insisted that she actually wanted to touch me and it was bothering her that I didn't want her to. The problem is that now that I actually want to be touched in sex she isn't that good. And I'm not sure how to tell her that without hurting her. She has asked me over text and I told her it is a topic to have in person outside of bed and we made a date to do that this week.
While she has slept with a lot more women than I have she defaults to thinking that my body should work the same way hers does. That because we have the same parts that they like to be touched the same way. I've told her how I would like to be touched in bed. I've told her my fantasies. I've shown her how I like to touch myself.
She just doesn't get it. She tells me that she has a short attention span and that it is my job to remind her over and over again how I like it. Is this fair? It kind of makes me feel like crap that my lover can't be bothered to remember how I actually like it.
I'm afraid that she thinks that because in the past I didn't like to be touched that she never has to do anything that pleases me. Her not remembering how I like to be touched makes me feel that she actually doesn't find me attractive and is only with me because of what I can do to her in bed. I've asked her this and she's stated that it isn't the case and that it is just that she forgets and that I just need to train her how to touch me.
I am not sure if I am upset over nothing and that "training" her how I like it in bed is something that is my responsibility in bed. I'm not sure if I'm being fair to her in being irritated that she can't remember and that she laughs off her short attention span. I haven't had much experience in healthy sexual relationships.
To be fair: We communicate on all other issues wonderfully. I really do care about her and know that she cares about me. I have no problem lowering the amount of sex we have to her preference. We both are great at calling each other on our shit and taking it without resentment. We both are great at compromising and I feel really emotionally connected to her and she has stated the same to me. Our emotional and mental connection has never been the problem.
May be a reason as well: I have had to explain to her that vaginas aren't actually perfectly straight. That there is a G-spot in some women. That orgasms don't always look like what they are in movies (non-porn). That some women can orgasm from penetration and some can't. She is ex-Mormon. She has several learning disabilities surrounding education (Just throwing out all ideas no matter how ridiculous) but has been tested for ADHD and that proved to be moot.
While she has slept with a lot more women than I have she defaults to thinking that my body should work the same way hers does. That because we have the same parts that they like to be touched the same way. I've told her how I would like to be touched in bed. I've told her my fantasies. I've shown her how I like to touch myself.
She just doesn't get it. She tells me that she has a short attention span and that it is my job to remind her over and over again how I like it. Is this fair? It kind of makes me feel like crap that my lover can't be bothered to remember how I actually like it.
I'm afraid that she thinks that because in the past I didn't like to be touched that she never has to do anything that pleases me. Her not remembering how I like to be touched makes me feel that she actually doesn't find me attractive and is only with me because of what I can do to her in bed. I've asked her this and she's stated that it isn't the case and that it is just that she forgets and that I just need to train her how to touch me.
I am not sure if I am upset over nothing and that "training" her how I like it in bed is something that is my responsibility in bed. I'm not sure if I'm being fair to her in being irritated that she can't remember and that she laughs off her short attention span. I haven't had much experience in healthy sexual relationships.
To be fair: We communicate on all other issues wonderfully. I really do care about her and know that she cares about me. I have no problem lowering the amount of sex we have to her preference. We both are great at calling each other on our shit and taking it without resentment. We both are great at compromising and I feel really emotionally connected to her and she has stated the same to me. Our emotional and mental connection has never been the problem.
May be a reason as well: I have had to explain to her that vaginas aren't actually perfectly straight. That there is a G-spot in some women. That orgasms don't always look like what they are in movies (non-porn). That some women can orgasm from penetration and some can't. She is ex-Mormon. She has several learning disabilities surrounding education (Just throwing out all ideas no matter how ridiculous) but has been tested for ADHD and that proved to be moot.
Who are YOU voting for?
Windy City Times recently asked various Illinois LGBT individuals what political races they are following or how they plan on voting. Here is what they had to say:
Lambda sues Texas prison system over sexual abuse of trans woman
Houston, TX October 23, 2014 - Lambda Legal today filed a federal lawsuit on behalf of Passion Star, a transgender woman currently in the custody of the Texas Department of Criminal Justice TDCJ , arguing that TCDJ officials have displayed deliberate indifference to threats of sexual assault and violence against Ms. Star in TDCJ's male facilities.
(67) bell hooks
� Lovers, We are still on a bit of a vacay and hope to return soon. In the meanwhile, we managed to snag part of an interview we heard on WBAI with esteemed author, thinker, teacher, and�theorist on feminism, gender, race, class and culture, bell hooks, author of over 20 books. She discuesses parenting, critical […]
The Dinah 2011: Day 3
They're here, they're queer, and you might just react with fear. Videos of 10,000 lesbians in the desert.
Tuesday, October 28, 2014
The Sound You Hear Is That of a Thousand Lesbian Heads Exploding.
...and it sounds oh so lovely.I'm coming out of hiding to post this picture and to let you guys deal with the fact that Gwen Stefani and Pink not only sang together, and not only did super incredibly homosexual push-ups together on stage tonight, but they seem to have brushed liptorials in the process. If you need assistance getting up off of the floor, please call 1-800-ARLAN-IVE-FALLEN-AND-ICANT-GETUP and I'll send someone over to pick your ass up.I've said it before, and I'll say it again: You. Are. Welcome.
(44) (Part 2) Interview w/Melissa Ferrick & Prop H8 Protest Recap
Prop H8 Protest Observational Observations,, Part 2 of the Melissa Ferrick Interview! We talk File Sharing, Touring, Sobriety, Porn Names and More. To Catch Melissa Live Check Out Her Tour Schedule … http://www.myspace.com/melissaferrick The Lesbian Mafia is syndicated every Tuesday @6pm EST On: RadioDentata.com! & Daily @12pm EST On ReapSowRadio.com NEW! LISTEN TO THE LESBIAN […]
Real Estate News
Lorie Zapf follow up
Last Friday, our community got some good news from the San Diego Association of Realtors (SDAR) which decided to suspend its endorsement of Lorie Zapf for City Council. Zapf failed to disclose a number of crippling personal details including her open gay-hatred and her operation of a short sale scam with husband Eric. Zapf is now forced to remove the Realtor thumbs-up from all campaign material and won’t have access to the organization’s PAC funds. Thanks to all who took a moment to contact SDAR, both as Realtors and as clients. Your direct involvement helped immensely. Professional credit is owed to SD City Beat’s Dave Maass and Realtor Pat Flannery from blogofsandiego.com.
Before we uncork the Prosecco in victory, let me offer a more dir…
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Last Friday, our community got some good news from the San Diego Association of Realtors (SDAR) which decided to suspend its endorsement of Lorie Zapf for City Council. Zapf failed to disclose a number of crippling personal details including her open gay-hatred and her operation of a short sale scam with husband Eric. Zapf is now forced to remove the Realtor thumbs-up from all campaign material and won’t have access to the organization’s PAC funds. Thanks to all who took a moment to contact SDAR, both as Realtors and as clients. Your direct involvement helped immensely. Professional credit is owed to SD City Beat’s Dave Maass and Realtor Pat Flannery from blogofsandiego.com.
Before we uncork the Prosecco in victory, let me offer a more dir…
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I?m not a playa, I just crush a lot: a guide to dating multiple people at once
A lesbian guide on how to date multiple people at once without drama
(57) How Can a Fish Look Like a Horse? (mini)
King Nero Bloombucks, X the hunting … the abortion issues … oh and that whole anti-gay marriage issue, and it’s Palin Lust, Bruno, etctera
Monday, October 27, 2014
Say It
Speak up…again and again…and again
I was on the bandstand in LA, just 48 hours before the big 2008 election, thrilled to be singing for yet another gay wedding
I was becoming aware of a strange, new sense of ease in the midst of this uber-straight group of guys, all of whom had, at one point or another, let me know they were unthreatened by the shocking fact that I had “changed teams”. (As if somehow I was now part of the opposition). I whirled around and, with big eyes for emphasis, reminded everyone, “It’s ‘No’ on Prop 8 this Tuesday.”
The Bass player looked up from his tuner, “No, it’s ‘Yes.’”
Now I added the big arms. “No, no, no – we’re voting &l…
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I was on the bandstand in LA, just 48 hours before the big 2008 election, thrilled to be singing for yet another gay wedding
I was becoming aware of a strange, new sense of ease in the midst of this uber-straight group of guys, all of whom had, at one point or another, let me know they were unthreatened by the shocking fact that I had “changed teams”. (As if somehow I was now part of the opposition). I whirled around and, with big eyes for emphasis, reminded everyone, “It’s ‘No’ on Prop 8 this Tuesday.”
The Bass player looked up from his tuner, “No, it’s ‘Yes.’”
Now I added the big arms. “No, no, no – we’re voting &l…
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(55-A) O Solo Mio mj, perez, pride
Be sure to tune in to part B. of this show which is right under this one Late posting this so it’s a bit dated. Haven’t had time for an official gay pride show, hope this solo bit will do. Part A. RIP MJ or maybe not; Perez: Is language an excuse for violence? Does […]
Indie singer/songwriter Craymo releases a retro rock love song, Love You More, that gets the party started!
(06-06-14) -- The feel good song of the year! One of those songs that instantly transports you to another world for three minutes of dancing, singing along and having fun. Inspired by the sounds of early Beatles, Everly Brothers, Elvis Presley and The Romantics, it's a retro rock song of love, co-written by Craymo, for his partner of 20 years.
Modern Families
Before I dive into my first column
I want to thank all my Facebook friends who contributed to the name of what I hope will become a very popular weekly feature column in The G&L Times. I needed all the help I could get. I’m a show producer, not a writer. One of the performers in my touring show “iL CiRCo” came up with the name: “Mary Has A Little Man”. I always thought Chris was cute, amazingly talented and has an Adonis of a body, but he’s a total smart ass (I don’t say “Smart-aleck” anymore as it has completely different connotations in my life which I will discuss in further detail later). I do appreciate Chris’ wit and humor… I just can’t see myself as “Mary”, you know? Other names that made it to t…
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I want to thank all my Facebook friends who contributed to the name of what I hope will become a very popular weekly feature column in The G&L Times. I needed all the help I could get. I’m a show producer, not a writer. One of the performers in my touring show “iL CiRCo” came up with the name: “Mary Has A Little Man”. I always thought Chris was cute, amazingly talented and has an Adonis of a body, but he’s a total smart ass (I don’t say “Smart-aleck” anymore as it has completely different connotations in my life which I will discuss in further detail later). I do appreciate Chris’ wit and humor… I just can’t see myself as “Mary”, you know? Other names that made it to t…
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Interview with Rose Rowe and Renee Olbert of Seeking Simone
Seeking Simone is a web series that follows Simone Selkin's bumbling attempts to date her way through Toronto, and the first episode of the second season recently premiered. Judging from the sheer insanity in her encounters with Toronto's finest ladies, I'm concerned about New York City's proximity to Toronto. I wonder if winds from the northwest could blow the cuckoo into the Big Apple like winds blew volcanic ash all over Europe from the Icelandic volcano last year.
The Dinah 2011: Day 2
The second annual AfterEllen dance contest was even more insane than last years. I don't even need to comment. The photos speak for themselves.
Hello Faithful Friends
Hey, remember when Dipstick and I used to post stuff here? For those of you who haven't given up on us, THANK YOU!Have you ever felt caught up in a vortex, where things are spinning so fast around you that you actually see colors and bright shiny things in the clouds (no hallucinogenics involved)? That is how I've been feeling and it's been hard to hold onto the reigns. Beyond basking in glee and drinking packets of EmergenC, that also means any free time I've had has been dedicated to sleep, so sincere apologies for being MIA.Anyhoodle, for now, I'll fill you in on all things Lipstick since I last wrote.A little over a week ago, we shot our first short film Til Death To Us Toby. For Patty (who was an awesome Assistant Director) and I, it was a 22 hour day. We got up at 3:45am, crew call was at 5:45 and we were rolling by 6:30. We shot until 11:11pm non-stop, save 15 minutes for lunch and 15 minutes for dinner. I thought it was killer that I said "that's a wrap" at 11:11 (I'm superstitious that way). We partied with the cast + crew until nearly 1am. The cast and crew were beyond AMAZING! Seriously, what a stellar team we had, who never complained or ran out of energy. Can't wait for the big wrap party!If you're out of the loop, you can follow the thread the Hot Pink Shorts HERE.It's been an amazing journey with OUTtv and this Hot Pink Shorts program. I'm gushing with gratitude and spinning at the sight of exciting things on the horizon, finally truly within grasp. I told the folks at OUTtv that I felt like a caterpillar who'd transformed into butterfly throughout this process. Week One, I was a furry little larvae and slowly, as we ate all the mentors had to offer, and set out on our own journey into the sticks and leaves, my wings actually began to take shape and I could eventually lift off the ground. And now, well, there's no stopping me as I fly around this wonderful world of opportunity.More to come soon, for sure, as there are some really cool things simmering on the TV front.**Small caveat for you Portland peeps: in the upcoming month, we'll be filming a little music video for the original song Christine Havrilla and I are co-writing for Toby. It's called Hightail and it's addictive. Think Jack Black meets Melissa Etheridge. For the video, which will also be part of the credits for the film, we'll need people to come out and help us, so stay tuned. We'll need as many people as we can get for the shoot, which is slated to happen at Laurelhurst Park.Enjoy the little slideshow below of our shoot, both of the action and behind the scenes. Cate Cameron captured these amazing moments. Be sure to check her out online. She rocks!*photos by Cate Cameron
Hotels in Phoenix Arizona that are Gay Friendly
This is a list of gay friendly hotels in the phoenix Arizona area that cater to gay males and couples looking to spend a night relaxing or partying. Rainbow Casita Tropical gay guest house retreat Central Phoenix – 2707 N 20th Ave , Phoenix, AZ ZenYard Guest House Zen out 830 E Maryland Ave , […]
Sunday, October 26, 2014
(15B) Freestyle Friday Nostalgia Hour at SpiceNYC
lost a lot of sound quality when converted to mp3 but here goes … There’s A Party Going On – Nayobe You’ll Never Find Another Love - Take It While It’s Hot – Sweet Sensation Dancing On The Fire – India Give Me Back My Heart – Corina I Remember What You Like – Jenny […]
Out and About
Friday, October 1
The National Comedy Theatre is San Diego’s nationally acclaimed improv comedy show. Now in its 11th season, the National Comedy Theatre is San Diego’s longest running theatrical event. Based completely on audience suggestions, the talented cast of the NCT create a 100 minute performance entirely without a script. Similar in style to “Whose Line is it Anyway?” each show is unique. The show is hysterically funny, fast moving and appropriate for all audiences. The Improv Show is at 7:00 p.m. Tickets $12-$15. For more information call (619) 295-4999
Saturday, October 2
Don’t hold back! Get off work and hang out at Flicks for Saturday night is Wet Underwear Contest night! $100 first prize. Sign-ups begin at 10:00…
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The National Comedy Theatre is San Diego’s nationally acclaimed improv comedy show. Now in its 11th season, the National Comedy Theatre is San Diego’s longest running theatrical event. Based completely on audience suggestions, the talented cast of the NCT create a 100 minute performance entirely without a script. Similar in style to “Whose Line is it Anyway?” each show is unique. The show is hysterically funny, fast moving and appropriate for all audiences. The Improv Show is at 7:00 p.m. Tickets $12-$15. For more information call (619) 295-4999
Saturday, October 2
Don’t hold back! Get off work and hang out at Flicks for Saturday night is Wet Underwear Contest night! $100 first prize. Sign-ups begin at 10:00…
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(7) The I Have No Show, Show. Going Topic-less!
All I need is the right man, Thank God I’m gay, No topic whatsoever, Being ditched, Bad Karaoke Nonsensical ramblings, Paris? Kelly Clarkson? Farting? A tasteless show indeed …
Justin Bieber Shirtless
Fresh from his appearance on the X-Factor, Justin Bieber shows off his (minite) tattoo in this beach shot.
Maybe the X factor boys will rush out and get tattoos too.
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Maybe the X factor boys will rush out and get tattoos too.
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THEATER REVIEW The Submission
Playwright: Jeff Talbott. At: Pride Films and Plays at the Apollo Studio, 2540 N. Lincoln Ave. Tickets: 773-935-6100; www.pridefilmsandplays.com; $25. Runs through: Nov. 25
Saturday, October 25, 2014
Coming Out to Your Children
Dear Lesbian Life:
I have been in my lesbian relationship for going on 3 years. My son is almost 9 and my daughter is 7 1/2. They love my girlfriend. They know we love each other but we have not told them any detail. We have been very gradual with how much time we all spend together over the years. Lately, we have been feeling as though we would like to progress our relationship and within the next year or so, move in together. She has been spending more time with us and we have been doing sleepovers. My kids are always asking when will she move in with us to which my response has always been "these things take time :)".
My ex has been fairly supportive of our relationship and knows that we need to sit down and have a discussion with our kids about my life, so that we can progress. I am wondering if you have any information that you could share with me about coming out to my children? ...Read Full Post
I have been in my lesbian relationship for going on 3 years. My son is almost 9 and my daughter is 7 1/2. They love my girlfriend. They know we love each other but we have not told them any detail. We have been very gradual with how much time we all spend together over the years. Lately, we have been feeling as though we would like to progress our relationship and within the next year or so, move in together. She has been spending more time with us and we have been doing sleepovers. My kids are always asking when will she move in with us to which my response has always been "these things take time :)".
My ex has been fairly supportive of our relationship and knows that we need to sit down and have a discussion with our kids about my life, so that we can progress. I am wondering if you have any information that you could share with me about coming out to my children? ...Read Full Post
Out and About
Friday, September 24
Come and get WIRED this Friday at the Brass Rail with Ashley Matte at 9:30 p.m. followed by Dj Kiki Koenig at 11:00 p.m. , The Brass Rail, 3796 Fifth Avenue - San Diego 92103. Great Drink Specials, Live Music and amazing DJs!!!- (619) 298 - 2233
Saturday, September 25
Tony and Pulitzer Award winner Neil Simon’s semi-autobiographical plays follow the life of Eugene Morris Jerome from the foibles of youth in late-1930s Brooklyn to a career as a comedy writer for radio. Brighton Beach Memoirs and Broadway Bound are performed in a rotating repertory schedule at The Old Globe Theatre. Brighton Beach Memoirs first regular performance is on Saturday, September 25 at 2:00 p.m. Broadway Bound first regular performance is on Sunday, Septe…
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Come and get WIRED this Friday at the Brass Rail with Ashley Matte at 9:30 p.m. followed by Dj Kiki Koenig at 11:00 p.m. , The Brass Rail, 3796 Fifth Avenue - San Diego 92103. Great Drink Specials, Live Music and amazing DJs!!!- (619) 298 - 2233
Saturday, September 25
Tony and Pulitzer Award winner Neil Simon’s semi-autobiographical plays follow the life of Eugene Morris Jerome from the foibles of youth in late-1930s Brooklyn to a career as a comedy writer for radio. Brighton Beach Memoirs and Broadway Bound are performed in a rotating repertory schedule at The Old Globe Theatre. Brighton Beach Memoirs first regular performance is on Saturday, September 25 at 2:00 p.m. Broadway Bound first regular performance is on Sunday, Septe…
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Happy New Year's and Marry New Queers
My peops! I have had a little tradition of writing to you on New Year's Eve for the last few years and I wanted to keep it going today. As I write this, I'm in my new home in Houston after having lived in Los Angeles for the last 4 years and San Diego 3 years before that. It's also the first day of my new exciting gig--one that I hope will be the first of MANY like this--and a few hours away from being able to hang out with my mom again like I've been able to do the last few weeks.2011 started off SO poorly for me, and then got worse...and worse still. There were definitely some lovely little highlights and I won't complain since I'm still here to talk about it! But what I'm trying to say is that...it got better! :) This, after all, is the year of IT GETS BETTER. We've heard it all year. I've said it to myself and to you guys all year. And now, today, I can say that its happening right before my eyes. I know that a lot of you reading this right now are not feeling well, or are down about something, or may even be downright depressed. I've heard from you all year...and I know there are several others I haven't heard from but are feeling this way. I want you to know that I am here, all of my readers are here, and we're not going anywhere. I need you to stay with us. We lost too many beautiful people to suicide this year (and years past). It's an epidemic. And if I can help stop it from happening (oh man...this is going to sound trite, but I mean it with all of my heart!) to just ONE PERSON, then that would be the proudest moment of my life. It doesn't matter if I ever find out about it or not...if somehow something I can say to you or do or not say or not do will help just one person not go down that path this year, then that makes me the happiest/luckiest girl on earth.And for those of you who are NOT struggling that deeply...who are having a great time in life and who plan to make 2012 YOUR year, I can not WAIT to see it all unfold! Please keep me updated and let me know how awesome things are going for you. Even if you and I have never met before, you mean more to me than I could possibly explain in 365 posts...and I wish wonderful things for you. I'm not big on New Year's resolutions, but I will say I have a new life's resolution to touch and positively affect as many lives as I can. It may just be by making someone smile with a video of a couple of outta control rouge boobs, or as life-altering as helping you find the love of your life, or some bit of advice or helping you connect with the person who can help you with something...or ya know, just that boob thing. But whatever it is, I hope to leave the world a better place than I found it, one day at a time, one person at a time. And...since it looks like I could probably break into 'We Are the World' at ANY moment now, I'm just gonna throw it over to my tried and true:I also wanted to take a moment to speak to anyone who is struggling with their identity. Not going to make this long, cause life is short. ...and that's my point: life is short. We're only here for a short time, and you've got to LIVE. I think my new wife Jessie J says it best:And I'll leave you with this. Let's support this film this year!! It's long overdue:Thank you for 5.5 years...here's to MORE!-Arlan
Out and About
Friday, September 24
Come and get WIRED this Friday at the Brass Rail with Ashley Matte at 9:30 p.m. followed by Dj Kiki Koenig at 11:00 p.m. , The Brass Rail, 3796 Fifth Avenue - San Diego 92103. Great Drink Specials, Live Music and amazing DJs!!!- (619) 298 - 2233
Saturday, September 25
Tony and Pulitzer Award winner Neil Simon’s semi-autobiographical plays follow the life of Eugene Morris Jerome from the foibles of youth in late-1930s Brooklyn to a career as a comedy writer for radio. Brighton Beach Memoirs and Broadway Bound are performed in a rotating repertory schedule at The Old Globe Theatre. Brighton Beach Memoirs first regular performance is on Saturday, September 25 at 2:00 p.m. Broadway Bound first regular performance is on Sunday, Septe…
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Come and get WIRED this Friday at the Brass Rail with Ashley Matte at 9:30 p.m. followed by Dj Kiki Koenig at 11:00 p.m. , The Brass Rail, 3796 Fifth Avenue - San Diego 92103. Great Drink Specials, Live Music and amazing DJs!!!- (619) 298 - 2233
Saturday, September 25
Tony and Pulitzer Award winner Neil Simon’s semi-autobiographical plays follow the life of Eugene Morris Jerome from the foibles of youth in late-1930s Brooklyn to a career as a comedy writer for radio. Brighton Beach Memoirs and Broadway Bound are performed in a rotating repertory schedule at The Old Globe Theatre. Brighton Beach Memoirs first regular performance is on Saturday, September 25 at 2:00 p.m. Broadway Bound first regular performance is on Sunday, Septe…
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Dildo Diaries: The Experience
Ladies, all I can say is "LIFE-CHANGING." I had the most satisfying strap-on sex session I have ever had with our InJoyUs �. Continue reading →
TPAN names first woman CEO
CHICAGO, Oct. 22, 2014 — After a national search led by McCormack and Associates, the Test Positive Aware Network TPAN , Chicago's oldest peer-led HIV/AIDS support services agency, has named Patti Capouch as its first woman Chief Executive Officer. Capouch brings to TPAN extensive experience from a successful career working in HIV/AIDS agencies. Before coming to Chicago, Capouch served as executive director for the Frannie Peabody Center in Portland, Maine.
Friday, October 24, 2014
More than 100 attend Chicago LGBTQ Job Fair
More than 100 young and older adults attended Work!, the first Chicago LGBTQ Job Fair Oct. 22 at Center on Halsted. The event was sponsored by Windy City Times, Chicago House TransWorks, TransTech, Affinity and the Center on Halsted.
Business Spotlight: Tinassy’s K-9 Splash-R-Cise
10925 Hartley Rd.
Suite E
Santee, CA 92071
Shelley: 619 200-7619
Tara: 619 822-3223
www.tinassysk9splashrcise.com
Tinassy’s K-9 Splash-R-Cise is a fairly unique type of business. It is a dog water therapy business for exercise, massage and everything to help heal ailments in dogs.
It was started by Tara and Shelley in May 2010 after their dogs, Tindy and Sassy both required knee surgery.
Tara’s dog Tindy was diagnosed with an ACL tear which would require her to have surgery. Tindy underwent knee surgery which was a success. Tindy’s veterinarian recommended water therapy for a better recovery. Tindy was put in water therapy even though she wasn’t too excited about it at first. She came to love the water and was swimming every d…
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Suite E
Santee, CA 92071
Shelley: 619 200-7619
Tara: 619 822-3223
www.tinassysk9splashrcise.com
Tinassy’s K-9 Splash-R-Cise is a fairly unique type of business. It is a dog water therapy business for exercise, massage and everything to help heal ailments in dogs.
It was started by Tara and Shelley in May 2010 after their dogs, Tindy and Sassy both required knee surgery.
Tara’s dog Tindy was diagnosed with an ACL tear which would require her to have surgery. Tindy underwent knee surgery which was a success. Tindy’s veterinarian recommended water therapy for a better recovery. Tindy was put in water therapy even though she wasn’t too excited about it at first. She came to love the water and was swimming every d…
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Meet LGBT History Month icon Kathy Kozachenko
VIDEO
(Editor's note: October is LGBT History Month, celebrated annually to recognize the notable achievements of LGBT people throughout time. Each day this month, Equality Forum will feature one LGBT icon who has made notable contributions to society and SDGLN will publish the story here in the Causes section. View previous LGBT History Month icons HERE.)
Kathy Kozachenko was the first openly gay person to be elected to a public office in the United States. In 1974 she was elected as a Human Rights Party candidate to the City Council of Ann Arbor, Michigan.
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(Editor's note: October is LGBT History Month, celebrated annually to recognize the notable achievements of LGBT people throughout time. Each day this month, Equality Forum will feature one LGBT icon who has made notable contributions to society and SDGLN will publish the story here in the Causes section. View previous LGBT History Month icons HERE.)
Kathy Kozachenko was the first openly gay person to be elected to a public office in the United States. In 1974 she was elected as a Human Rights Party candidate to the City Council of Ann Arbor, Michigan.
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I'm 45, female and just discovered I'm bi. Now what?
I'm 45, female and just discovered I'm bi. Now what?
Yes, I know it seems unlikely, and the nearest I can figure is my arousal/desire for every single one of my lovers has occurred after being desired, rather than finding someone hot in advance. I was married for a very long time, and possibly oblivious to any gay come-ons, in my premarital time. For the sake of the information I seek, can we please assume that I am correct - that I am bi, and that this wasn't just experimental? (which has been suggested to me by a straight friend). I had very satisfying sex with a close friend a week ago after she flirted relentlessly with me for 6 weeks (yes, I'm clueless). I find I want more, and not just/necessarily with her. There were aspects of it very different to sex with a man (which I also enjoy immensely) which were just delightful, not least the emotional closeness, the softer kisses, the different body to hold in my arms, the feel of ... yeah, you get the idea.
So I don't know where to start, and feel like a near virgin again, but old enough this time to realise there's so many complications.
Here's some:
I'm concerned about coming out at some stage to my adult but somewhat innocent children, who still don't cope well with me having sex with someone other than their father, particular as their father and I didn't share a bedroom for most of our marriage.
I'm wondering if I should come out to my siblings - or is my sex-life none of their business, until I turn up at a barbecue with a female companion? They're not homophobic, but I think it will be a shock to them, simply because I've never identified that way.
I've heard that some lesbian women find bi-women problematic.
I don't know how to present my lack of experience at this age to potential female lovers. I don't know how to indicate my interest in a woman, in a way that is different to overtures of friendship. I really don't know know what to do in bed. I'm not sure lesbian porn is the way to go, if I could find it, because like, I wouldn't recommend porn to anyone to learn about sex.
I wonder if I should tell my friends, and long-term colleagues and I do work in a very gay-friendly workplace, but is my sexuality an inappropriate topic at work?
I'm a student and could join the uni queer support group, but the members are likely to be much younger than me, and with very different issues.
I'm confused that it took me this long to find out. I feel somewhat guilty that I didn't have to go through discrimination in my youth because I didn't know.
I'm kind of horrified that I'm so clueless about myself that I didn't know. I feel my self-identity has just been turned upside, and I'm not sure who I am anymore, and it feels awfully late to go looking for myself.
I wonder if I should go to gay clubs.
The very few straight friends that I've shared with seem to think it's no big deal, the males saying most women are bi, and whatever, the females telling me I'm still the same person I was before and they love me, which is nice and accepting of both sets, but not very helpful if you know what I mean.
I don't know where to start. I don't know what I don't know. I wonder if I'm making too big a deal of this.
Bonus question: my arousal/desire for every single one of my lovers has occurred after being desired - this probably explains why I have such difficulty masturbating to orgasm without company (and I do have a very good imagination, also can come very easily with a partner), but also makes me further question my sexuality - why is it so much tied into external influences. What's up with that?
Location: Brisbane Queensland Australia
Yes, I know it seems unlikely, and the nearest I can figure is my arousal/desire for every single one of my lovers has occurred after being desired, rather than finding someone hot in advance. I was married for a very long time, and possibly oblivious to any gay come-ons, in my premarital time. For the sake of the information I seek, can we please assume that I am correct - that I am bi, and that this wasn't just experimental? (which has been suggested to me by a straight friend). I had very satisfying sex with a close friend a week ago after she flirted relentlessly with me for 6 weeks (yes, I'm clueless). I find I want more, and not just/necessarily with her. There were aspects of it very different to sex with a man (which I also enjoy immensely) which were just delightful, not least the emotional closeness, the softer kisses, the different body to hold in my arms, the feel of ... yeah, you get the idea.
So I don't know where to start, and feel like a near virgin again, but old enough this time to realise there's so many complications.
Here's some:
I'm concerned about coming out at some stage to my adult but somewhat innocent children, who still don't cope well with me having sex with someone other than their father, particular as their father and I didn't share a bedroom for most of our marriage.
I'm wondering if I should come out to my siblings - or is my sex-life none of their business, until I turn up at a barbecue with a female companion? They're not homophobic, but I think it will be a shock to them, simply because I've never identified that way.
I've heard that some lesbian women find bi-women problematic.
I don't know how to present my lack of experience at this age to potential female lovers. I don't know how to indicate my interest in a woman, in a way that is different to overtures of friendship. I really don't know know what to do in bed. I'm not sure lesbian porn is the way to go, if I could find it, because like, I wouldn't recommend porn to anyone to learn about sex.
I wonder if I should tell my friends, and long-term colleagues and I do work in a very gay-friendly workplace, but is my sexuality an inappropriate topic at work?
I'm a student and could join the uni queer support group, but the members are likely to be much younger than me, and with very different issues.
I'm confused that it took me this long to find out. I feel somewhat guilty that I didn't have to go through discrimination in my youth because I didn't know.
I'm kind of horrified that I'm so clueless about myself that I didn't know. I feel my self-identity has just been turned upside, and I'm not sure who I am anymore, and it feels awfully late to go looking for myself.
I wonder if I should go to gay clubs.
The very few straight friends that I've shared with seem to think it's no big deal, the males saying most women are bi, and whatever, the females telling me I'm still the same person I was before and they love me, which is nice and accepting of both sets, but not very helpful if you know what I mean.
I don't know where to start. I don't know what I don't know. I wonder if I'm making too big a deal of this.
Bonus question: my arousal/desire for every single one of my lovers has occurred after being desired - this probably explains why I have such difficulty masturbating to orgasm without company (and I do have a very good imagination, also can come very easily with a partner), but also makes me further question my sexuality - why is it so much tied into external influences. What's up with that?
Location: Brisbane Queensland Australia
Thursday, October 23, 2014
Methodist panel to hear appeal over gay wedding
A Methodist pastor who became a gay rights activist after he was disciplined for officiating at his son's wedding to another man will find out whether he can remain an ordained minister. The Rev.
One Direction Gay Ad for Nintendo
Those One Direction guys are so metro-sexual with their tactile hugging and playfulness. They are toally surrounded by those One Direction Gay rumours. Irrespective of that, just like JLS they have an advertising deal with Nintendo! The only trouble with this is, they haven't released any music yet. The same thing happened with JEdward - thankGod they didn't release any music.
Getting an ad deal with Nintendo is really basically because they are famous for being an X-Factor contestant and of course for being cute, popular..... They are also at the top of their career (to date) and may have signed up for peanuts. JEdward allegedly earned �3 in their first year from PAs and advertising deals.
Anyway they are definitely getting cuter since they appeared on the X-factor?
Do you think One Direction deserve an ad deal with Nintendo?
Do you think One Direction are getting cuter?
Comments please
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Getting an ad deal with Nintendo is really basically because they are famous for being an X-Factor contestant and of course for being cute, popular..... They are also at the top of their career (to date) and may have signed up for peanuts. JEdward allegedly earned �3 in their first year from PAs and advertising deals.
Anyway they are definitely getting cuter since they appeared on the X-factor?
Do you think One Direction deserve an ad deal with Nintendo?
Do you think One Direction are getting cuter?
Comments please
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If The Voice Were The Girlfriend
I wasn?t going to do it, I was not going to get invested in a reality show to find the next great singer. But on a lazy Wednesday I went to primetime on demand, the savior of people who don?t want or forget to DVR things and queued up The Voice
Ten things to know about GLSEN's 2013 report on school climate
Today, the Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network (GLSEN) published their 8th biennial report on LGBT youth experiences in schools, the 2013 National School Climate Survey. Since 1999, this survey of over 7,000 students from all 50 states and Washington D.C. has consistently indicated that the availability of LGBT school-based resources and support directly impacts the safety of school climate. While a lot of progress has been made in the past fifteen years?verbal and physical harassment based on sexual orientation and gender expression were lower than in all prior years of the NSCS?there is a long way to go in making our schools safe spaces and positive learning environments for marginalized youth.
Check out some of the facts below to learn about how LGBT middle and high school students experience hearing biased language, harassment and assault, anti-LGBT discrimination at school, and the impact of supportive resources.
1)�Language: 65% of LGBT students heard anti-LGBT remarks frequently or often?33% pertained specifically to transgender people. Specifically, 71.4% heard "gay" used in a negative way frequently or often, with 90.8% reporting they felt distressed because of this language.
2)�Harassment: 36% of LGBT students were physically harassed (e.g., pushed or shoved) in the past year because of their sexual orientation and 23% because of their gender expression
3)�Assault: 17% were physically assaulted (e.g., punched, kicked, injured with a weapon) in the past year because of their sexual orientation and 11% because of their gender expression.
4)�Discriminatory policies: 56% of LGBT students reported personally experiencing LGBT-related discriminatory policies or practices at school, while 65% said other students at their school experienced such policies. 28% of those reporting cited being disciplined for public displays of affection that were not disciplined among non-LGBT students.
5) Staff support: LGBT students with 11 or more supportive staff at their school were less likely to feel unsafe than those with no supportive staff and had higher GPAs (3.3 vs. 2.8). Problematically, only 39% of students could identify 11 or more supportive staff.
6) Gender-segregated spaces: Over a third of those surveyed avoided gender-segregated spaces in school because they felt unsafe or uncomfortable (bathrooms: 35.4%, locker rooms: 45.3%).�
7)�Transgender students: 42.2% of transgender students had been prevented from using their preferred name (10.8% of LGBT students overall) while 31.6% were prevented from wearing clothes considered inappropriate based on their legal sex.
8)�Absences: LGBT students who experienced higher levels of victimization because of their sexual orientation or gender expression were more than 3 times more likely to have missed school in the past month than those who experienced lower levels (61.1% vs 17.3% for sexual orientation, 58.6% vs 18.2% for gender expression).
9)�Gay-straight alliances: Only half (50.3%) of students said that their school had a GSA or similar student club. Compared to LGBT students who did not have a GSA in their school, students who had access to one were less likely to hear anti-LGBT slurs often or frequently (57.4% vs 71.6%).
10)�Inclusive curriculum: Only 18.5% of LGBT students were taught positive representations about LGBT people, history, or events in their schools; 14.8% had been taught negative content about LGBT topics. Those with LGBT-inclusive curriculum were more likely to report that their classmates were somewhat or very accepting of LGBT people (75.2% vs 39.6%), and felt more connected to their school community.�
Positive changes in indicators of hostile school climates emerged in the most recent report. For example, although the expression "that's so gay" remains the most common form of anti-LGBT language heard by LGBT students, its prevalence has declined consistently since 2001. Also, students experienced lower verbal and physical harassment based on sexual orientation than in all prior years, and higher numbers of GSAs, supportive educators, anti-bullying policies, and LGBT-related resources in schools.
For more information on school climate?including demographic and school characteristics comparisons, research methods and samples, trends over time, and a discussion of the data? read the full report here. Whether we work in or with schools ourselves, we are all responsible for making the space where our youth spend most of their time safe, inclusive spaces of growth and community. �
October 22, 2014
Issues:
Young Adult
Tags:
schools,
GLSEN,
school climate,
Bullying,
LGBT youth
Check out some of the facts below to learn about how LGBT middle and high school students experience hearing biased language, harassment and assault, anti-LGBT discrimination at school, and the impact of supportive resources.
1)�Language: 65% of LGBT students heard anti-LGBT remarks frequently or often?33% pertained specifically to transgender people. Specifically, 71.4% heard "gay" used in a negative way frequently or often, with 90.8% reporting they felt distressed because of this language.
2)�Harassment: 36% of LGBT students were physically harassed (e.g., pushed or shoved) in the past year because of their sexual orientation and 23% because of their gender expression
3)�Assault: 17% were physically assaulted (e.g., punched, kicked, injured with a weapon) in the past year because of their sexual orientation and 11% because of their gender expression.
4)�Discriminatory policies: 56% of LGBT students reported personally experiencing LGBT-related discriminatory policies or practices at school, while 65% said other students at their school experienced such policies. 28% of those reporting cited being disciplined for public displays of affection that were not disciplined among non-LGBT students.
5) Staff support: LGBT students with 11 or more supportive staff at their school were less likely to feel unsafe than those with no supportive staff and had higher GPAs (3.3 vs. 2.8). Problematically, only 39% of students could identify 11 or more supportive staff.
6) Gender-segregated spaces: Over a third of those surveyed avoided gender-segregated spaces in school because they felt unsafe or uncomfortable (bathrooms: 35.4%, locker rooms: 45.3%).�
7)�Transgender students: 42.2% of transgender students had been prevented from using their preferred name (10.8% of LGBT students overall) while 31.6% were prevented from wearing clothes considered inappropriate based on their legal sex.
8)�Absences: LGBT students who experienced higher levels of victimization because of their sexual orientation or gender expression were more than 3 times more likely to have missed school in the past month than those who experienced lower levels (61.1% vs 17.3% for sexual orientation, 58.6% vs 18.2% for gender expression).
9)�Gay-straight alliances: Only half (50.3%) of students said that their school had a GSA or similar student club. Compared to LGBT students who did not have a GSA in their school, students who had access to one were less likely to hear anti-LGBT slurs often or frequently (57.4% vs 71.6%).
10)�Inclusive curriculum: Only 18.5% of LGBT students were taught positive representations about LGBT people, history, or events in their schools; 14.8% had been taught negative content about LGBT topics. Those with LGBT-inclusive curriculum were more likely to report that their classmates were somewhat or very accepting of LGBT people (75.2% vs 39.6%), and felt more connected to their school community.�
Positive changes in indicators of hostile school climates emerged in the most recent report. For example, although the expression "that's so gay" remains the most common form of anti-LGBT language heard by LGBT students, its prevalence has declined consistently since 2001. Also, students experienced lower verbal and physical harassment based on sexual orientation than in all prior years, and higher numbers of GSAs, supportive educators, anti-bullying policies, and LGBT-related resources in schools.
For more information on school climate?including demographic and school characteristics comparisons, research methods and samples, trends over time, and a discussion of the data? read the full report here. Whether we work in or with schools ourselves, we are all responsible for making the space where our youth spend most of their time safe, inclusive spaces of growth and community. �
October 22, 2014
Issues:
Young Adult
Tags:
schools,
GLSEN,
school climate,
Bullying,
LGBT youth
'The Real L Word' Season 3, Episode 1...a Twittercap
So, not sure if I'll keep live tweeting The Real L Word after tonight. Depends on what you guys think and what I hear on fb/twitter. But if you're interested, here are ye olde tweets. Start from the bottom up (*Zach Morris 4th wall wink*) and enjoy. Follow me @ twitter.com/ArlanWasHere Follow Whitney @ twitter.com/Whitneymixterla Follow Kiyomi @ twitter.com/Kiyomance Follow Romi @ twitter.com/TenderRomi Follow Kacy & Cori @ twitter.com/KacyChristine & twitter.com/CoriCupcakeFollow the official Real L Word @ twitter.com/Sho_RealLWord
Out and About
Friday, October 8
Now in its 20th smash season, The Mystery Cafe proudly carries on their legacy as San Diego’s longest running dinner theater. Join them for a night of the most informal dining fun San Diego has to offer. Enjoy a four course meal, solve a mystery, be a part of the show, and laugh yourself silly! Bring the family and friends and enjoy an evening of hilarious, non-stop action, great food and good old fashioned FUN...you never know, you might get to be part of the act! 8:00 p.m. to 11:00 p.m. Mystery Café is located at 505 Kalmia St., San Diego, 92101 Tickets - $59.50 which includes 4 course meal, show and tax. Gratuity not included. For more information call the Mystery Cafe Box Office (619) 460-2200 or visit www.mysterycafe.net
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Now in its 20th smash season, The Mystery Cafe proudly carries on their legacy as San Diego’s longest running dinner theater. Join them for a night of the most informal dining fun San Diego has to offer. Enjoy a four course meal, solve a mystery, be a part of the show, and laugh yourself silly! Bring the family and friends and enjoy an evening of hilarious, non-stop action, great food and good old fashioned FUN...you never know, you might get to be part of the act! 8:00 p.m. to 11:00 p.m. Mystery Café is located at 505 Kalmia St., San Diego, 92101 Tickets - $59.50 which includes 4 course meal, show and tax. Gratuity not included. For more information call the Mystery Cafe Box Office (619) 460-2200 or visit www.mysterycafe.net
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Spin, Spin Sugar: DJ dirtyKURTY
DJ dirtyKURTY is a former professional soccer player turned spin goddess. She hails from New Jersey where she discovered her love of music in the New York club scene at clubs like Sound Factory, Roxy, Limelight and the Palladium. She moved to San Francisco where she discovered DJing, then to San Diego where she now resides. While DJ dirtyKURTY is passionate about her House music, it’s her mission to get everyone moving on the dance floor regardless of what style music she is playing. She’s performed all over the East and West Coast. She’s the featured DJ on the Sweet Caribbean Cruise, Co-Owner/Promoter of in2U Events/U*NITY Party and a member of the San Diego MixMasters DJ Crew.
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Wednesday, October 22, 2014
Analysis: Nope, Same-Sex Marriage Doesn't Dissuade Straight People from Getting Married
An analysis of European countries and American states proves that marriage equality has no effect on the rate of opposite-sex marriages.
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Lucy Jane Bledsoe Coming to the NW
Get excited bibliophiles! Lucy Jane Bledsoe is coming to Portland, Seattle and Bellingham soon. If you're a lesbian and don't know Lucy Jane Bledsoe, you've been living under a rock or your idea of reading is scanning your friend's Facebook updates. Lucy is a prophetic writer who's written some real jewels, including Biting the Apple (which is sitting to the left of where I'm typing right now).If you live in or near these fabulous NW towns, go check out Lucy and her new book: The Big Bang Symphony.Wednesday, June 16, 7 pmTHIRD PLACE BOOKS -- Ravenna store6504 20th Ave. NESeattle, WA 98115206-525-2347Thursday, June 17, 7:30 pmPOWELL'S BOOKS -- Hawthorne store3723 SE Hawthorne Blvd.Portland, OR503-228-4651I love Powell's and I love Portland, my hometown. Come on out and say hi.Tuesday, June 22, 7:00 pmVILLAGE BOOKS1200 Eleventh StreetBellingham, WA 98225360-671-2626This reading with Carol Guess and Elizabeth Colen! Please come.
Meet LGBT History Month icon June Jordan
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(Editor's note: October is LGBT History Month, celebrated annually to recognize the notable achievements of LGBT people throughout time. Each day this month, Equality Forum will feature one LGBT icon who has made notable contributions to society and SDGLN will publish the story here in the Causes section. View previous LGBT History Month icons HERE.)
June Jordan was an activist, journalist, essayist, educator and celebrated African-American poet. Her commitment to fighting oppression, particularly of women and blacks, was the defining element of her work.
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(Editor's note: October is LGBT History Month, celebrated annually to recognize the notable achievements of LGBT people throughout time. Each day this month, Equality Forum will feature one LGBT icon who has made notable contributions to society and SDGLN will publish the story here in the Causes section. View previous LGBT History Month icons HERE.)
June Jordan was an activist, journalist, essayist, educator and celebrated African-American poet. Her commitment to fighting oppression, particularly of women and blacks, was the defining element of her work.
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Coming Out to Your Children
Dear Lesbian Life:
I have been in my lesbian relationship for going on 3 years. My son is almost 9 and my daughter is 7 1/2. They love my girlfriend. They know we love each other but we have not told them any detail. We have been very gradual with how much time we all spend together over the years. Lately, we have been feeling as though we would like to progress our relationship and within the next year or so, move in together. She has been spending more time with us and we have been doing sleepovers. My kids are always asking when will she move in with us to which my response has always been "these things take time :)".
My ex has been fairly supportive of our relationship and knows that we need to sit down and have a discussion with our kids about my life, so that we can progress. I am wondering if you have any information that you could share with me about coming out to my children? ...Read Full Post
I have been in my lesbian relationship for going on 3 years. My son is almost 9 and my daughter is 7 1/2. They love my girlfriend. They know we love each other but we have not told them any detail. We have been very gradual with how much time we all spend together over the years. Lately, we have been feeling as though we would like to progress our relationship and within the next year or so, move in together. She has been spending more time with us and we have been doing sleepovers. My kids are always asking when will she move in with us to which my response has always been "these things take time :)".
My ex has been fairly supportive of our relationship and knows that we need to sit down and have a discussion with our kids about my life, so that we can progress. I am wondering if you have any information that you could share with me about coming out to my children? ...Read Full Post
'It's a Whore-Ratio...'
LOL, I just watched this video after not seeing it in YEARS. So funny...such a great time with these ladies. I'd love to do this again. Visit the ladies of CHERRY BOMB at http://www.cherrybombtv.comNow keep in mind this was a few years AND girlfriends ago and my opinions then don't necessarily reflect the ones I have today. Oh, to be young and naive again...Get More: Video & Movies, Logo: Fierce TV
World News Briefs
UK finds that only 1.5% of population is GLB
The United Kingdom’s Office for National Statistics has produced data suggesting that only 1.5 percent of UK adults are gay, lesbian or bisexual.
As part of a yearly data collection effort, ONS questioned 247,623 people about their sexual identity. In the case of face-to-face interviews, respondents were shown a card that said “heterosexual/straight, gay/lesbian, bisexual, other” and told to read out a number beside the word that “best describes how you think of yourself.” In telephone interviews, respondents were read the four categories and told to “please say ‘yes’ when you hear the option that best describes how you think of yourself.”
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The United Kingdom’s Office for National Statistics has produced data suggesting that only 1.5 percent of UK adults are gay, lesbian or bisexual.
As part of a yearly data collection effort, ONS questioned 247,623 people about their sexual identity. In the case of face-to-face interviews, respondents were shown a card that said “heterosexual/straight, gay/lesbian, bisexual, other” and told to read out a number beside the word that “best describes how you think of yourself.” In telephone interviews, respondents were read the four categories and told to “please say ‘yes’ when you hear the option that best describes how you think of yourself.”
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NEW LUXURY MAGAZINE LAUNCHING TO CELEBRATE and INSPIRE LGBT DREAM WEDDINGS
WEST TISBURY, Mass. (May 12, 2014) -- Set to publish in Spring 2014, EQL Destinations for Weddings is expected to fill a huge void in the wedding magazine category. Thanks in large part to an advanced social media outreach, EQL is already receiving applause from the LGBT community for the magazine?s efforts to address the specific event planning needs of newly betrothed Lesbian and Gay couples.
(77) The We Hate This Show Show But Love You Like Crack Cocaine
We really do hate this particular podcast with a passion. We talk a lot about nothing but feel intensely pressured to post content, even if it’s devoid of meaning … like Julie Chen’s every tear. Mostly all of it is recorded on the portable so it’s tinny, there’s lots of shouting and the sound goes […]
Tuesday, October 21, 2014
This Just In: The live LGBT news blog for Tuesday, Oct. 21, 2014
("This Just In" is GLBTNN's daily blog about news affecting the LGBT community worldwide.)
Russia: Activist who nailed his testicles to street cuts off an ear lobe in protest
A Russian performance artist and activist who previously nailed his testicles to the cobbles in Moscow?s Red Square, has now cut off his ear lobe atop the roof of a psychiatric institution.
Pyotr Pavlensky, a performance artist, previously nailed his scrotum to the cobbles in Moscow?s Red Square in protest against Russia?s anti-gay laws.
Activist who nailed his testicles to street cuts off an ear lobe in protest | This Just In: LGBT news blog
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Russia: Activist who nailed his testicles to street cuts off an ear lobe in protest
A Russian performance artist and activist who previously nailed his testicles to the cobbles in Moscow?s Red Square, has now cut off his ear lobe atop the roof of a psychiatric institution.
Pyotr Pavlensky, a performance artist, previously nailed his scrotum to the cobbles in Moscow?s Red Square in protest against Russia?s anti-gay laws.
Activist who nailed his testicles to street cuts off an ear lobe in protest | This Just In: LGBT news blog
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Dining, Drinks & Desserts
Supper and a beer with “Little Nicky”
With just a few short weeks left to the Mid Term Elections I encourage everyone to vote and make a commitment to get their family and friends out to cast their ballots. At the printing of this article the San Diego County Registrar of Voters opened for early voting. Please get out and vote!
This week my scheduled guest was Community Volunteer Extraordinaire, Mr. Mike Williams. Unfortunately he was ill so I thought it would be fun to ask “Little Nicky” to join me. We selected Bourbon Street Bar & Grill. Our freakish thunder and rain storm last week created the desire for some good old fashion comfort food.
Ready to debrief from our work day and everything else we opted for a couple of items that do a great job in satisfying those cravings. …
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With just a few short weeks left to the Mid Term Elections I encourage everyone to vote and make a commitment to get their family and friends out to cast their ballots. At the printing of this article the San Diego County Registrar of Voters opened for early voting. Please get out and vote!
This week my scheduled guest was Community Volunteer Extraordinaire, Mr. Mike Williams. Unfortunately he was ill so I thought it would be fun to ask “Little Nicky” to join me. We selected Bourbon Street Bar & Grill. Our freakish thunder and rain storm last week created the desire for some good old fashion comfort food.
Ready to debrief from our work day and everything else we opted for a couple of items that do a great job in satisfying those cravings. …
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Letters to the Editor
Letter to the editor:
Last night I attended the Hillcrest Town Council to listen to Todd Gloria, Carl DeMaio, debate Prop D. This was supposed to be an informational forum. Carl DeMaio, it appears, does not understand the word “decorum” as he continuously and viciously attached Todd Gloria, along unions and with the labor movement in general. DeMaio came across as a nasty bully. Probably a carry over from his childhood. Mr. DeMaio was a guest in Todd Gloria’s district but proceeded in his usually manner - that of an attach dog DeMaio periodally rolled his eyes or made faces behind Councilman Gloria’s back while the councilman spoke on the subject. DeMaio was plan rude and owes Councilman an apology.
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Last night I attended the Hillcrest Town Council to listen to Todd Gloria, Carl DeMaio, debate Prop D. This was supposed to be an informational forum. Carl DeMaio, it appears, does not understand the word “decorum” as he continuously and viciously attached Todd Gloria, along unions and with the labor movement in general. DeMaio came across as a nasty bully. Probably a carry over from his childhood. Mr. DeMaio was a guest in Todd Gloria’s district but proceeded in his usually manner - that of an attach dog DeMaio periodally rolled his eyes or made faces behind Councilman Gloria’s back while the councilman spoke on the subject. DeMaio was plan rude and owes Councilman an apology.
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Philadelphia's First LGBT Liaison, Gloria Casarez, Dead at 42
Gloria Casarez was the first appointed LGBT liaison for the city of Philadelphia by Mayor Michael Nutter.
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In turn, gay marriage becomes legal in Arizona
The World Health Organization bungled efforts to halt the spread of Ebola in West Africa, an internal report revealed Friday, as President Barack Obama named a trusted political adviser to take control of... The World Health Organization bungled efforts to halt the spread of Ebola in West Africa, an internal report revealed Friday, as President Barack Obama named a trusted political adviser to take control of America's... A risque video shot in conservative Utah featuring bikini-clad women firing high-powered weapons and riding in tanks for a pinup calendar has raised the ire of a pair of law enforcement agencies who suspect some of... A risque video shot in conservative Utah featuring bikini-clad women firing high-powered weapons and riding in tanks for a pinup calendar has raised the ire of a pair of law enforcement agencies who have found some of... A man who had a tumultuous ... (more)
Pink Banana Media featured on The Focus Group with John Nash
Ever wonder how we came up with the name Pink Banana Media? This and other questions are answered in this 17 minute radio show interview with John Nash of The Focus Group on SiriusXM.We also cover and answer the following questions:content marketing for small businesshow often should i post?curating versus your own contenthow can LinkedIn help my businesslearn more about our upcoming LGBTBizTech and LGBTWeek business conferences in 2015To here the entire interview, go to https://app.box.com/s/ovbacmevz23ayrc8plphFor more information on Pink Banana Media, go to: - www.PinkBananaMedia.com - www.LGBTBizTech.comThe Focus Group:SiriusXM's first original business program. Listen, Laugh and Learn with Tim Bennett and #38; John Nash for an entertaining look at the world of business.www.focusgroupradio.com
Monday, October 20, 2014
Fla. Supreme Court urged to rule on marriage cases
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Rejected Craigslist Roommate = Possible Date?
My housemates and I interviewed several people yesterday for a new roommate. We chose the person whose move-in schedule logistically worked best. However, we got along with all of the interviewees surprisingly well; each one stayed and chatted for at least an hour.
I especially got along with two people, and I'd like to contact them again to see if they want to get together as friends, or - especially one of them - as a date. How inappropriate is this? Would you feel flattered or stalked if someone who didn't choose you as a roommate asked you out? Probably relevant details: I am a queer/lesbian woman. This is in San Francisco. The one person I want to "get to know" more as a friend is also a queer woman. The person I really want to ask on a date is a trans* guy. Both mentioned during the interviews that they are single.
I especially got along with two people, and I'd like to contact them again to see if they want to get together as friends, or - especially one of them - as a date. How inappropriate is this? Would you feel flattered or stalked if someone who didn't choose you as a roommate asked you out? Probably relevant details: I am a queer/lesbian woman. This is in San Francisco. The one person I want to "get to know" more as a friend is also a queer woman. The person I really want to ask on a date is a trans* guy. Both mentioned during the interviews that they are single.
'God's Not Afraid of New Things,' Pope Tells Antigay Bishops
The pope isn't taking the roll-back of language that would have made the Catholic Church more welcoming to LGBTs, the divorced, and unmarried couples as a defeat.
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Come Be a Part of Til Death Do Us Toby!
Portland!We are coming to town this week to film a portion of the short film Til Death Do Us Toby and want YOU to be a part of it.DETAILSSaturday, June 26, 20105 - 6pmLaurelhurst Park**meet at the bathroom area (click on map embedded here) We will be filming Christine Havrilla singing a song called Hightail, co-written by Gina Daggett and Patricia McKenny. With her jammin' acoustic guitar, we are going to film Havrilla in front of all of you, who will sing along with the chorus, which is super duper catchy...Gotta break freeGotta surviveGotta find a way to stay aliveI just wanna runI just wanna screamI just wanna hightail out of this dream What is this Til Death Do Us Toby movie anyway?It's a short film about a girl named Sam and a neurotic dog named Toby, who are both trying to find freedom. In Sam's case, she's trying to break free from her controlling mother, Mimi, who doesn't like Sam's best friend who's quite the edgy dyke. In Toby's case, he misunderstands a conversation between Mimi and Sam and thinks they're out to kill him, so he's just trying to hightail out of electric chair (aka their house). >>>>>>>>>>>>>> It's going to be a ton of fun and won't take up a bunch of time, so come on out and be in the short film, which will be making the queer festival rounds next year. Lipstick would be forever grateful!If you're coming, let us know on FACEBOOK!
I know they're nice, but they're not for me!
I'm in an amazing relationship, with someone I've known for over two years, and we've been dating for a year-ish. We're both women in our early 20's. I've only dated women up to this point, and been very happy with that. It seems that my brain doesn't want to keep that status quo anymore and is trying to convince me I want to experience being with men. I don't want to be with men. I don't like men as well as women, I prefer women sexually, and I love my girlfriend an extreme amount. We're very happy and healthy. I like the idea of being with men, and I had a good experience with the one guy I've seen (see next paragraph). I just know I'm happiest with her, and the few benefits of dating guys wouldn't make up for how much I care about her and how happy she makes me.
This doesn't bother me often. But the last time I had these urges, I ended up breaking it off with her abruptly, seeing the guy for a few weeks, and then ending that because it wasn't what I wanted. She took me back. I will not do that again. I don't want to break up ever, but I definitely won't break up with her for a stupid fling.
How do I ignore these feelings? I don't care that I'm sexually attracted to both genders. Not a big deal. The problem is that I start to think about men too much in what-if hypotheticals, and that makes me anxious. That anxiety makes me question the relationship in ways I wouldn't if I were thinking clearly. And then that leads to me distancing myself from my girlfriend. And then it snowballs.
I know I need to talk to someone about this, but I don't want to bring it up with her because of last time. I just need tips on how to rationalize this to myself and convince myself that this is not the end of the world that my brain wants me to think it is. And I do not want to break up with her.
This doesn't bother me often. But the last time I had these urges, I ended up breaking it off with her abruptly, seeing the guy for a few weeks, and then ending that because it wasn't what I wanted. She took me back. I will not do that again. I don't want to break up ever, but I definitely won't break up with her for a stupid fling.
How do I ignore these feelings? I don't care that I'm sexually attracted to both genders. Not a big deal. The problem is that I start to think about men too much in what-if hypotheticals, and that makes me anxious. That anxiety makes me question the relationship in ways I wouldn't if I were thinking clearly. And then that leads to me distancing myself from my girlfriend. And then it snowballs.
I know I need to talk to someone about this, but I don't want to bring it up with her because of last time. I just need tips on how to rationalize this to myself and convince myself that this is not the end of the world that my brain wants me to think it is. And I do not want to break up with her.
Thanks for the Siesta, Bitchachos!
Phew - that was a much needed siesta, Bitchachos!I had a wonderful learning experience in my Publishing for New Media class (remember, I was getting graded to blog?) I learned all about SEO keywords and analytics. It was fun (and creepy) to see where my visitors were coming from, how long they were staying and what they were looking at. I got to make a cool spreadsheet breaking it all down into the most minute components, such as IP addresses and networks that visitors were logged into. (Some of you log in from work - your bosses would not approve!) Still, you fine bitches got me an A in my class and my readership went up exponentially. Although I wanted to take the summer off from blogging so I could finish my last few classes and write my thesis (and work on campus), my science class/lab is much easier than I expected and the thesis is humming along. Since I have more time than I anticipiated and you all did so well for me with your visits, I didn't want to make you wait until August to hear from me again. So tomorrow morning, you get a brand new post and it's going to be good so get your big girl panties on and be ready to read.-Shannon
(72) Master of Intellectassy
Solo Rant. Lots of yelling. Warning: If you are in love with 0bama DO NOT listen to this show and start whining. Just continue shunning us, we love that. Maybe it was the guy who shot the TV at Bristol Palin over Dancing with the Stars who Twittered TLM last night. He tried to school […]
At a time when eight in 10 LGBT youth are harassed at school, it's critical that we let them know it's okay to be who you are.
Sarah Kate Ellis, president and CEO of GLAAD, discussing the need for Spirit Day, as quoted by The Huffington Post -More-
Sunday, October 19, 2014
Hate crime? Stranger clubs man hit in head with hammer
BROOKLYN, New York -- NYPD are investigating as a possible hate crime an attack on a gay man by a stranger who used a hammer to club him in the head.
Mitch Pope, 33,said he was attacked by the stranger, who followed him into his apartment building before the secured front door locked behind him.
Pope said the man yelled gay slurs at him during the attack, which occurred about 11 am Monday in the lobby of the apartment building on Washington Avenue near Sullivan Place in the Crown Heights neighborhood.
NYPD are investigating as a possible hate crime an attack on a gay man by a stranger who used a hammer to club him in the head.
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Mitch Pope, 33,said he was attacked by the stranger, who followed him into his apartment building before the secured front door locked behind him.
Pope said the man yelled gay slurs at him during the attack, which occurred about 11 am Monday in the lobby of the apartment building on Washington Avenue near Sullivan Place in the Crown Heights neighborhood.
NYPD are investigating as a possible hate crime an attack on a gay man by a stranger who used a hammer to club him in the head.
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Anti-Violence Project releases report on LGBT domestic violence
The National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs has released their 2013 comprehensive report on intimate partner violence (IPV) in LGBTQ and HIV-affected communities right on time for domestic violence awareness month. For the second year in a row this report shows the highest homicide rate ever recorded. NCAVP documented 21 IPV homicides in 2013, the highest recorded level, equal to the 21 homicides in 2012. This is up from 19 IPV homicides in 2011 and more than three times the 6 documented homicides in 2010.
In 2013, 76% of all reported IPV homicide victims were gay men, which is up significantly from 48% in 2012. ?The truly alarming number of gay men killed due to intimate partner violence indicates a need to expand the national discourse around intimate partner violence, to ensure that it includes gay men, bisexual people, transgender, and gender non-conforming people. This is a crisis that affects everyone," said Justin Shaw, Executive Director of the Kansas City Anti-Violence Project.
According to the report 61% of bisexual women reported being raped or physically assaulted or stalked by a partner as well as 37% of bisexual men, populations that are often left out of conversations about the LGBT community. Transgender people are four times more likely to face discrimination due to IPV and young people ages 19-29 made up the majority of intimate partner violence survivors. This report demostrates the need for the LGBTQ community to also be a part of the discourse about domestic violence prevention and awareness.
For more information on Domestic Violence Awareness Month visit The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. The organization, Not Alone�offers a comprehensive list of resources for survivors of intimate partner violence that includes specific resources for the LGBTQ community and Forge, a progressive transgender rights organization, has a new report on best strategies for making shelters inclusive of transgender women who facing IPV.
October 17, 2014
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In 2013, 76% of all reported IPV homicide victims were gay men, which is up significantly from 48% in 2012. ?The truly alarming number of gay men killed due to intimate partner violence indicates a need to expand the national discourse around intimate partner violence, to ensure that it includes gay men, bisexual people, transgender, and gender non-conforming people. This is a crisis that affects everyone," said Justin Shaw, Executive Director of the Kansas City Anti-Violence Project.
According to the report 61% of bisexual women reported being raped or physically assaulted or stalked by a partner as well as 37% of bisexual men, populations that are often left out of conversations about the LGBT community. Transgender people are four times more likely to face discrimination due to IPV and young people ages 19-29 made up the majority of intimate partner violence survivors. This report demostrates the need for the LGBTQ community to also be a part of the discourse about domestic violence prevention and awareness.
For more information on Domestic Violence Awareness Month visit The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. The organization, Not Alone�offers a comprehensive list of resources for survivors of intimate partner violence that includes specific resources for the LGBTQ community and Forge, a progressive transgender rights organization, has a new report on best strategies for making shelters inclusive of transgender women who facing IPV.
October 17, 2014
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News
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NCAVP,
LGBTQ,
violence,
ipv annual report,
domestic violence
(54) Potty Training & Stalkers
Opening song by Wendy Ho, widely known and beloved in the community and gay rights supporter. To purchase more of Wendy Ho’s music go here: http://www.wendyho.net Friend Wendy on Myspace: http://www.myspace.com/wendyho (Don’t listen to S, it’s show 54 not 55, it’s 54) A Smother’s love, Getting scammed for juice, Why does Heide http://theheideshow.podomatic.com say lesbians […]
Nicole Murray Ramirez condemns "The smearing of Carl DeMaio"
Nicole Murray Ramirez, a civil rights pioneer in San Diego for more than 40 years, has written a passionate column titled "The Smearing of Carl DeMaio" that was published in today's LGBT Weekly.
"I am so disgusted with the local Democratic Party and Scott Peters that after decades of being a Democrat I am going to re-register as an Independent," he writes today in LGBT Weekly.
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"I am so disgusted with the local Democratic Party and Scott Peters that after decades of being a Democrat I am going to re-register as an Independent," he writes today in LGBT Weekly.
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Op-ed: Are You There, Judy? It's Me, Cancer
Second City?s Judy Fabjance shares her story of fighting breast cancer... twice.
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Justin Bieber Shirtless
Fresh from his appearance on the X-Factor, Justin Bieber shows off his (minite) tattoo in this beach shot.
Maybe the X factor boys will rush out and get tattoos too.
Gay newsView Australian Queer News on the web at Gay News Blog
Maybe the X factor boys will rush out and get tattoos too.
Gay newsView Australian Queer News on the web at Gay News Blog
Vancouver Queers :: Will You Be at Davie + Howe?
Vancouver is a-talking about what's coming to Davie & Howe in October and it's all the buzz.... Much speculation has been going around about what would be going into the prime intersection in gay-town. While I was glad to hear it's not going to be a Starbuck's or a BlockBuster or yet another Safeway, I couldn't get the skinny on what was coming to the location exactly. I'm super intrigued, though, as I like the way "whatever-it-is" is flirting with the gay community.What I Did Find OutIt's going to be a new Canadian brand and that they are launching in Vancouver before going national. Hmm.... a brand of what? We also heard from a very reliable source that this new yet to be named Canadian brand is going to definitely support the LGBT community. Even though it's quite coy, I'm very curious--curious enough to join the online bandwagon! You should, too.I'll keep my ear to the ground and let you know what I can uncover between now and Oct. I'm excited to see so many cute faces out and about and online! Join me in the fun.
WATCH: Brian Brown Admits 'Of Course We Would Go to Russia'
Want to know how to make Brian Brown squirm? Ask him about what he's been up to in Putin's Russia.
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Saturday, October 18, 2014
What my mother brought me when she visited
I have just finished a delightful week with my mother. She came to visit from Dallas. She is 80. When my mother comes to visit we always go to gardens and authentic Italian restaurants. Things she enjoys and things they don’t have in Dallas. She in turn always brings me something. Sometimes it’s a wool […]
BOOKS: Jeremy Kost's Fractured
The shards of images in Kost's new book create something both dreamlike and tangible.
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