Friday, February 28, 2014
Love is Love
I've seen a lot of ads for marriage equality, but for some reason this one got to me. It's from Basic Rights Oregon, our state-wide gay rights organization. They're raising money to put gay marriage up for a vote in Oregon, probably in 2012, to overturn anti-gay amendment. But first they're running campaigns like this one on cable TV stations. If all works out as we plan, Oregon could be the first state to legalize gay marriage by a popular vote.
These Brilliant GIFs Transform Political Figures Into Drag Queens
Jezebel: Saint Hoax, an artist consumed by “Poplitical Infatuation” developed a series entitled War Drags You Out, study of sorts, mashing up political h and drag culture, two spheres that are far more similar than one would initially think. Saint Hoax explains: Like drag queens, political/religious leaders are expected to entertain, perform and occasionally lip-sync […]
Clay Aiken for....President?
Can a profile on Manhunt stop Clay Aiken from running for Congress?!
We will soon see!
Former ?American Idol? finalist Clay Aiken, who lost the singing
competition's second season to Ruben Studdard in 2003, is ?actively
considering? a run for North Carolina?s 2nd congressional district in
the U.S. House, according to the Washington Blade.
Sources told the Blade the openly gay singer has been making phone
calls to gauge potential support as he works with Betsy Conti, a local
political strategist who has worked with Al Gore and former North
Carolina Gov. Bev Purdue.
It?s unclear when Aiken may announce his decision to run for the House seat, currently filled by Rep. Renee Ellmers, R-N.C.
We will soon see!
Former ?American Idol? finalist Clay Aiken, who lost the singing
competition's second season to Ruben Studdard in 2003, is ?actively
considering? a run for North Carolina?s 2nd congressional district in
the U.S. House, according to the Washington Blade.
Sources told the Blade the openly gay singer has been making phone
calls to gauge potential support as he works with Betsy Conti, a local
political strategist who has worked with Al Gore and former North
Carolina Gov. Bev Purdue.
It?s unclear when Aiken may announce his decision to run for the House seat, currently filled by Rep. Renee Ellmers, R-N.C.
Hello Faithful Friends
Hey, remember when Dipstick and I used to post stuff here? For those of you who haven't given up on us, THANK YOU!Have you ever felt caught up in a vortex, where things are spinning so fast around you that you actually see colors and bright shiny things in the clouds (no hallucinogenics involved)? That is how I've been feeling and it's been hard to hold onto the reigns. Beyond basking in glee and drinking packets of EmergenC, that also means any free time I've had has been dedicated to sleep, so sincere apologies for being MIA.Anyhoodle, for now, I'll fill you in on all things Lipstick since I last wrote.A little over a week ago, we shot our first short film Til Death To Us Toby. For Patty (who was an awesome Assistant Director) and I, it was a 22 hour day. We got up at 3:45am, crew call was at 5:45 and we were rolling by 6:30. We shot until 11:11pm non-stop, save 15 minutes for lunch and 15 minutes for dinner. I thought it was killer that I said "that's a wrap" at 11:11 (I'm superstitious that way). We partied with the cast + crew until nearly 1am. The cast and crew were beyond AMAZING! Seriously, what a stellar team we had, who never complained or ran out of energy. Can't wait for the big wrap party!If you're out of the loop, you can follow the thread the Hot Pink Shorts HERE.It's been an amazing journey with OUTtv and this Hot Pink Shorts program. I'm gushing with gratitude and spinning at the sight of exciting things on the horizon, finally truly within grasp. I told the folks at OUTtv that I felt like a caterpillar who'd transformed into butterfly throughout this process. Week One, I was a furry little larvae and slowly, as we ate all the mentors had to offer, and set out on our own journey into the sticks and leaves, my wings actually began to take shape and I could eventually lift off the ground. And now, well, there's no stopping me as I fly around this wonderful world of opportunity.More to come soon, for sure, as there are some really cool things simmering on the TV front.**Small caveat for you Portland peeps: in the upcoming month, we'll be filming a little music video for the original song Christine Havrilla and I are co-writing for Toby. It's called Hightail and it's addictive. Think Jack Black meets Melissa Etheridge. For the video, which will also be part of the credits for the film, we'll need people to come out and help us, so stay tuned. We'll need as many people as we can get for the shoot, which is slated to happen at Laurelhurst Park.Enjoy the little slideshow below of our shoot, both of the action and behind the scenes. Cate Cameron captured these amazing moments. Be sure to check her out online. She rocks!*photos by Cate Cameron
Republican factions split over Arizona bill
The Mormon Church is pushing back against the notion that members of the faith are taught they'll get their own planet in the afterlife, a misconception popularized in pop culture most recently by the Broadway... The Mormon Church is pushing back against the notion that members of the faith are taught they'll get their own planet in the afterlife, ... (more)
LGBT rights among topics discussed at immigration summit
Keeping families together, safe and strong was the theme of the fourth annual Illinois Coalition for Immigrant and Refugee Rights ICIRR immigration integration summit at Benito Juarez High School Feb. 22.
Thursday, February 27, 2014
The Threat to Reproductive Health Care -- Part 1
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/terry-oneill/the-threat-to-reproductiv_b_4618543.htmlJanuary 22, 2014, marks the 41st anniversary of Roe v. Wade, the landmark 1973 Supreme Court decision that recognized a woman's constitutional right to abortion. This anniversary arrives -- once again -- in the midst of a continuing war on women's access to the entire range of reproductive health services; this includes birth control, breast exams, cervical cancer screenings and STD screening/treatment, in addition to abortion care.
Run don’t walk…
Like most things that weigh heavily in our community and lives, from our civil rights and freedoms to our many other struggles, HIV has been at the forefront. HIV infection and reduction and making those who are HIV positive or living with AIDS more comfortable and fulfilled has been a huge priority for all of us. For those of us who have lost someone to this disease it is much more personal and AIDS Walk and other related events are a way to remember and show our commitment to those we loved. For others who know someone who is living with HIV or AIDS it is an opportunity to do something about it and show love and support for our brothers and sisters. For everyone it is a way to show support, tolerance and compassion.
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Even Hipsters Label Themselves
Y?all know I usually only write when I have some type of inspiration. Today is no different. I?ve been thinking about labels and conversations around them. Oddly, I?ve had two such conversations about labels this week. One friend was telling me about being labeled by someone she was close to. She didn?t agree with the label but declined to argue her point in order to maintain a positive relationship with the person who labeled her. Another friend refused to accept a label. You and I would call a man who works at a fire station, wears a big helmet and yellow rubber jacket and slides down a pole during an emergency to put out fires ? we would call him a ?firefighter.? There is no ambiguity in what he does. That is how clearly this person could be labeled. But she won?t take her ?fireman? label because she ?doesn?t like labels.? However, she does label herself in other ways. It?s just this particular label that she may be struggling with. When I came out of the closet, I had no idea of the variety of lesbians that there were. Butch, soft butch, boi, lipstick, Chapstick, granola, femme, high-femme? they are all labels that can be used to describe the type of lesbian you are. Only none of them fit me. So I created my own label: rocker chick. Yeah, it?s not an exclusive-to-lesbians term. And I don?t give a fuck. It?s what I am. I will write that shit on a name tag and wear it with pride. I know it?s all hipster right now to shun labels because you should see yourself as unique and one-of-a-kind. But honestly, they are not your enemy. As a professional organizer, I love labels. They help people know what?s inside the box. Labels help people sort shit out in a way that makes sense to them. I can write ?Toys? on a box of rubber bands because that?s what they are to me. But you might write ?office supplies? or ?fasteners? on the box. It doesn?t really matter what you call them. They are still rubber bands. When someone wants to label you, it?s just a tool that they use to help them sort out in their own mind what you are. It doesn?t change what you are. It doesn?t cling to you, penetrate you or make you become something you aren?t. It?s just a way that someone else is trying to order your place in their head.I think the first and only poem my mom ever taught me was this childhood gem: "Sticks and stones may break my bonesBut words will never harm me." While not exactly the same thing, the principle is the same: they are just words.Don?t be offended when someone puts a label on you. Just be glad they have you on their mind.
The First Poop
Few things are as traumatizing as experiencing a newborn baby's first explosion into a diaper. Find out how our parenting writer, Frank Lowe, dealt with (or didn't deal with) this dark event.
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What are the ways we could expand services and support available to LGBT young people online?
What are the ways we could expand services and support available to LGBT young people online? I have to convince a panel that I'm the person to increase the online reach of a UK-based LGBT youth charity, giving young people greater access to advice, support and opportunities. We want to reach more LGBT young people, particularly those living outside of cities, and to better use the varying resources of the online world to support those that we reach.
I'm already planning to talk about Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Google+, phone, forums & email contact (plus producing videos & podcasts) - though if you have anything specific to offer in how to use these services in this context your help would be welcomed.
I'm more interested in what I'm missing. What novel ways might such an organisation reach out to young people online? Are there social networks/websites I'm not aware of that we might usefully expand into? How could we best use them? Am I thinking too narrowly?
I'm especially interested to hear from anyone who is LGBT who has insight into the kind of online presence and services they would like to see, or would have liked to have been available in their youth. What was missing for you that we could provide for LGBT young people now?
I appreciate this is a pretty open question, but any thoughts, suggestions or advice you can provide would be very much appreciated. Thank you!
I'm already planning to talk about Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Google+, phone, forums & email contact (plus producing videos & podcasts) - though if you have anything specific to offer in how to use these services in this context your help would be welcomed.
I'm more interested in what I'm missing. What novel ways might such an organisation reach out to young people online? Are there social networks/websites I'm not aware of that we might usefully expand into? How could we best use them? Am I thinking too narrowly?
I'm especially interested to hear from anyone who is LGBT who has insight into the kind of online presence and services they would like to see, or would have liked to have been available in their youth. What was missing for you that we could provide for LGBT young people now?
I appreciate this is a pretty open question, but any thoughts, suggestions or advice you can provide would be very much appreciated. Thank you!
Stonewall Awards London - 2010
The fifth Stonewall Awards, hosted by Sue Perkins, were held last night at London's V&A and attended by 450 people including celebrities, politicians, sportspeople and writers. The event celebrates those who have made a positive impact on the lives of lesbian, gay and bisexual people in Britain in the last year.
Chris Grayling Bigot Of The Year
Bigot Of The Year
Former shadow home secretary Chris Grayling was named ?Bigot of the Year?.
Tory MP Mr Grayling, who was secretly recorded in May saying that bed and breakfasts should have the right to bar gay couples.
Gareth Thomas, Hero Of The Year
Gareth Thomas, Hero Of The Year
Gareth Thomas, who became the first out gay professional rugby player last December, was named ?Hero of the Year?. He attended the London ceremony with his parents. Some audience members were in tears as he spoke after accepting the award. Mr Thomas said: ?I don?t really know what denotes a hero. I?m just myself. But when you live in a world that tries to make different a wrong thing, to me, being a hero is just being honest. He added: ?To be a hero, you have to follow in a hero?s footsteps. And there?s people here tonight who?ve been my heroes all my life and will be forever ? that?s my mother and father.?
Stella Duffy, joint winner of ?Writer of the Year?
Stella Duffy, joint winner of ?Writer of the Year?
Stella Duffy for Theodora: Actress, Empress, Whore
Rupert Smith joint winner of ?Writer of the Year?
Rupert Smith joint winner of ?Writer of the Year?
Rupert Smith author of MANS WORLD, which is also shortlisted for the inaugral Creen Carnation prize.
Patrick Strudwick, ?Journalist of the Year?
Patrick Strudwick, ?Journalist of the Year?
Gay British journalist Patrick Strudwick spent several months investigating gay-to-straight conversion therapy, undergoing "treatment" from two psychotherapists who made no secret of their view that homosexuality was far from natural, but rather a composite of "mental illness, addiction and anti-religious phenomenon". Mr Strudwick, said: ?I am dedicating this award to all the victims of hate around the world who have told me their stories. Their strength and dignity spurred me on.?
He also thanked the thousands of people who added their support to his campaign to stamp out the controversial therapy.
John Partridge, Entertainer of the Year
John Partridge, Entertainer of the Year
EastEnders actor John Partidge won the ?Entertainer of the Year? award for his gay storyline in the soap. He paid tribute to screenwriter Dominic Treadwell-Collins for managing to ?tell a gay story at 7.30 in the evening?.
Martina Navratilova, Sports Person Of The Year
Martina Navratilova, Sports Person Of The Year
Martina Navratilova won huge applause when she was given the sports award. The tennis star is currently in Colorado training to climb Mount Kilimanjaro and pre-recorded a message of thanks.
John Bercow, Politician of the Year
John Bercow, Politician of the Year
Speaker of the House of Commons John Bercow was named ?Politician of the Year?. The MP, whose wife Sally recently completed a charity parachute jump for Stonewall, praised Mr Summerskill for his ?truly inspirational leadership?.
The Times, ?Publication of the Year?
The Times, ?Publication of the Year?
The Times won the award for ?Publication of the Year?
Coronation Street, Broadcast of the Year
Coronation Street, Broadcast of the Year
Corrie which broadcast its first lesbian storyline and first lesbian kiss this year, won the award for ?Broadcast of the Year?.
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Chris Grayling Bigot Of The Year
Bigot Of The Year
Former shadow home secretary Chris Grayling was named ?Bigot of the Year?.
Tory MP Mr Grayling, who was secretly recorded in May saying that bed and breakfasts should have the right to bar gay couples.
Gareth Thomas, Hero Of The Year
Gareth Thomas, Hero Of The Year
Gareth Thomas, who became the first out gay professional rugby player last December, was named ?Hero of the Year?. He attended the London ceremony with his parents. Some audience members were in tears as he spoke after accepting the award. Mr Thomas said: ?I don?t really know what denotes a hero. I?m just myself. But when you live in a world that tries to make different a wrong thing, to me, being a hero is just being honest. He added: ?To be a hero, you have to follow in a hero?s footsteps. And there?s people here tonight who?ve been my heroes all my life and will be forever ? that?s my mother and father.?
Stella Duffy, joint winner of ?Writer of the Year?
Stella Duffy, joint winner of ?Writer of the Year?
Stella Duffy for Theodora: Actress, Empress, Whore
Rupert Smith joint winner of ?Writer of the Year?
Rupert Smith joint winner of ?Writer of the Year?
Rupert Smith author of MANS WORLD, which is also shortlisted for the inaugral Creen Carnation prize.
Patrick Strudwick, ?Journalist of the Year?
Patrick Strudwick, ?Journalist of the Year?
Gay British journalist Patrick Strudwick spent several months investigating gay-to-straight conversion therapy, undergoing "treatment" from two psychotherapists who made no secret of their view that homosexuality was far from natural, but rather a composite of "mental illness, addiction and anti-religious phenomenon". Mr Strudwick, said: ?I am dedicating this award to all the victims of hate around the world who have told me their stories. Their strength and dignity spurred me on.?
He also thanked the thousands of people who added their support to his campaign to stamp out the controversial therapy.
John Partridge, Entertainer of the Year
John Partridge, Entertainer of the Year
EastEnders actor John Partidge won the ?Entertainer of the Year? award for his gay storyline in the soap. He paid tribute to screenwriter Dominic Treadwell-Collins for managing to ?tell a gay story at 7.30 in the evening?.
Martina Navratilova, Sports Person Of The Year
Martina Navratilova, Sports Person Of The Year
Martina Navratilova won huge applause when she was given the sports award. The tennis star is currently in Colorado training to climb Mount Kilimanjaro and pre-recorded a message of thanks.
John Bercow, Politician of the Year
John Bercow, Politician of the Year
Speaker of the House of Commons John Bercow was named ?Politician of the Year?. The MP, whose wife Sally recently completed a charity parachute jump for Stonewall, praised Mr Summerskill for his ?truly inspirational leadership?.
The Times, ?Publication of the Year?
The Times, ?Publication of the Year?
The Times won the award for ?Publication of the Year?
Coronation Street, Broadcast of the Year
Coronation Street, Broadcast of the Year
Corrie which broadcast its first lesbian storyline and first lesbian kiss this year, won the award for ?Broadcast of the Year?.
Gay newsView Australian Queer News on the web at Gay News Blog
Glitter in the Air (and in my bed...)
I started seeing someone. I didn't want to. I've been trying to avoid it at all costs. The last thing I need in my life right now is another (anything) to drain from my time, energy or attention.I have had to make major adjustments to my schedule and my time is sparse and limited. The thought of trying to build a foundation with someone new scares the shit out of me. How This All Began"I'll wait until I graduate in August before I think about seeing anyone," I told myself.However, an old friend started to send me articles about cancer and healing for my dad and we began to talk more. Recently, we started hanging out and then, it went there.I've known her for years so I don't have to build anything foundational. I also don't feel compelled to spend a lot of time with her talking and texting. She is in a similar busy situation so we don't really see each other often. I don't feel guilty when I can't talk, text or go out. There is no pressure. When we are together, it feels really good to be in the company of someone that I genuinely enjoy being around. It may not go anywhere or it may go somewhere. I don't know and I really don't care right now. I just want to enjoy her company when it works for both of us for as long as it lasts. It may be for a week or a month or just until Robin Meade meets me and suddenly realizes that she's gay. One thing I can say for sure is that things are starting to be different at my house.Example 1: The Smell TestAfter the new girl spent the night here and then left to go home, Lindsey came home from work and announced loudly, "It smells like a girl in here!" I said, "Well, good. I'm a girl. (Kinda.)" She shook her head and said, "No, Mom. It smells like a real girl! Like a product that would have words like 'mango vanilla kiss' on the bottle."Example 2: Lesbian Shower - Before and AfterThis is my shower when it was only being used by me:Masculine. Green. Simple.Yesterday, when I came home from visiting my parents, I glanced over in my bathroom and noticed a new look to the second tier of my shower and saw some decidedly unfamiliar and very pink things being left in there: Initially, she just left a bottle of shampoo and a can of hair spray. Then, a pink and purple toothbrush made it's way into my toothbrush holder. Now, it's a full-blown explosion of pink products and clothing. It's nice to see her things around and know that she's planning to come back spend more time here. That's why she wants her stuff here. I like that shit. It means that I will get to enjoy her company, her kisses, and back scratches from the hottest, sexiest looking fingernails I've ever seen. Example 3: Glitter in my BedRecently, I was changing my sheets and there was glitter in my bed. It could have come from her hairspray, facial moisturizer, toenail polish or clothing - because she has glitter in all of those things.Her feminine energy is OFF THE CHARTS and something I'm not used to at all. But after being around her for a while now, I notice more and more how much she is totally intuitive about where my head is and what my needs are and I don't have to ask for anything. With her femininity comes a woman's intuition that has been spot-on.In fact, she gives me things that I didn't even know I needed.This is not what I wanted and not what I expected but this is what I have right now. She snuck in my back door and unpacked her pink, glittery shit. I don't know how long she will stay but for right now, I'm not complaining.
Wednesday, February 26, 2014
San Diego Drag Kings Ten Year Celebration
Lesbian, gay, transgender, bisexual or straight, no one can deny that the event this Sunday evening at the Flame will definitely be worth attending. The San Diego drag kings will be celebrating their ten year anniversary and everyone is welcome. Favorite faces from the past such as the popular Tommy Salami, Jonny O and Randy Shaft will be traveling to San Diego to perform in this event. The event will also be hosted by some familiar and local drag members. Local members will perform new numbers and include old favorites, which we have not had the opportunity to enjoy for a while. Some of these performances will be hosted by Rudy Ramrod, James Bondage, Drake Bottoms, Trouble, Dragon, Whiskey and Smokey. Drag queen, Regina Styles (Richard Poole), who they ende…
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Real Estate News
San Diego needs its own Housing Hero
Big Bad Banking got some really BAD NEWS last week as Mother Jones Magazine’s Andy Kroll broke the story of huge law firms, known as “foreclosure mills”, operating in Florida (and elsewhere) engaged in the potentially illegal taking of millions of homes.
GMAC -a subsidiary of Ally Financial was so worried it suspended foreclosure evictions and sales altogether. Rising Democratic Party star Rep. Alan Grayson along with his Ohio colleague Marcy Kaptur have been among the few voices in Congress for homeowners in the ongoing class war waged against them by Wall Street. It seems now they were right all along. You may remember Kaptur as the take-charge legislator who advised homeowners in her Toledo-area district to demand that banks produce th…
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Big Bad Banking got some really BAD NEWS last week as Mother Jones Magazine’s Andy Kroll broke the story of huge law firms, known as “foreclosure mills”, operating in Florida (and elsewhere) engaged in the potentially illegal taking of millions of homes.
GMAC -a subsidiary of Ally Financial was so worried it suspended foreclosure evictions and sales altogether. Rising Democratic Party star Rep. Alan Grayson along with his Ohio colleague Marcy Kaptur have been among the few voices in Congress for homeowners in the ongoing class war waged against them by Wall Street. It seems now they were right all along. You may remember Kaptur as the take-charge legislator who advised homeowners in her Toledo-area district to demand that banks produce th…
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Matthew Morrison, Chord Overstreet & Cory Monteith in shirtless Glee
The new season of Glee is well underway here in the UK, but I haven't watched any of them yet! Too busy with holidays and selling the house. Last week we were in Barmouth in Wales in a caravan for a week. It was really cool to get away, but there was NO television reception.
What I missed was the guys from Glee getting their shirts off in their production of the Rocky Horror Picture Show. How camp can Glee get?
Matthew Morrison (hot hot hot)
Cory Monteith
Cory doesn't have a hair on his chest AND its getting a bit saggy. You are supposed to be the Quarterback Cory. You need to hit the gym Cory! And get a pair of man bikini briefs.
I havent seen anything of the new sexy blond boy, Chord Overstreet, but he gets his kit off as Rocky.
Tell me guys, leave a comment - WHO has the best chest?
Corrie,
Chord or
Matthew?
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What I missed was the guys from Glee getting their shirts off in their production of the Rocky Horror Picture Show. How camp can Glee get?
Matthew Morrison (hot hot hot)
Cory Monteith
Cory doesn't have a hair on his chest AND its getting a bit saggy. You are supposed to be the Quarterback Cory. You need to hit the gym Cory! And get a pair of man bikini briefs.
I havent seen anything of the new sexy blond boy, Chord Overstreet, but he gets his kit off as Rocky.
Tell me guys, leave a comment - WHO has the best chest?
Corrie,
Chord or
Matthew?
Gay newsView Australian Queer News on the web at Gay News Blog
Dining, Drinks & Desserts
The “ZIO’S EXPERIENCE” with 4 lovely lesbians
Greetings everyone, hope your week is going well. What a week in our busy world! The Senate did not pass DADT. The Republicans decided to start running on platforms which the Democrats created and former President Bill Clinton had some great words of advice for President Obama. Sometimes truth is stranger than fiction!
This week my guests were 4 lovely lesbians, Christina our Editor, her partner Alice and their friends Joergie and Neally.
We selected ZIO’S Italian Restaurant on El Cajon Blvd in North Park. When I arrived, owner Darren James greeted me with his warm embrace and handshake. We have chatted several times on Facebook and this was our actual first time meeting in person.
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Greetings everyone, hope your week is going well. What a week in our busy world! The Senate did not pass DADT. The Republicans decided to start running on platforms which the Democrats created and former President Bill Clinton had some great words of advice for President Obama. Sometimes truth is stranger than fiction!
This week my guests were 4 lovely lesbians, Christina our Editor, her partner Alice and their friends Joergie and Neally.
We selected ZIO’S Italian Restaurant on El Cajon Blvd in North Park. When I arrived, owner Darren James greeted me with his warm embrace and handshake. We have chatted several times on Facebook and this was our actual first time meeting in person.
My ladies had not yet arrived so I asked Darren to give me a tour of…
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WATCH: Will $1 Million Win Marriage in the South?
Freedom to Marry announced a new $1 million campaign to bring marriage equality to the southern U.S. today.
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Letters to the Editor
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Last night I attended the Hillcrest Town Council to listen to Todd Gloria, Carl DeMaio, debate Prop D. This was supposed to be an informational forum. Carl DeMaio, it appears, does not understand the word “decorum” as he continuously and viciously attached Todd Gloria, along unions and with the labor movement in general. DeMaio came across as a nasty bully. Probably a carry over from his childhood. Mr. DeMaio was a guest in Todd Gloria’s district but proceeded in his usually manner - that of an attach dog DeMaio periodally rolled his eyes or made faces behind Councilman Gloria’s back while the councilman spoke on the subject. DeMaio was plan rude and owes Councilman an apology.
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Last night I attended the Hillcrest Town Council to listen to Todd Gloria, Carl DeMaio, debate Prop D. This was supposed to be an informational forum. Carl DeMaio, it appears, does not understand the word “decorum” as he continuously and viciously attached Todd Gloria, along unions and with the labor movement in general. DeMaio came across as a nasty bully. Probably a carry over from his childhood. Mr. DeMaio was a guest in Todd Gloria’s district but proceeded in his usually manner - that of an attach dog DeMaio periodally rolled his eyes or made faces behind Councilman Gloria’s back while the councilman spoke on the subject. DeMaio was plan rude and owes Councilman an apology.
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92-year-old transgender widow granted SS benefits
NEW YORK -- After months of advocacy, Lambda Legal announced the Social Security Administration (SSA) paid Robina Asti, a 92-year-old transgender woman, the survivor benefits she was denied after her husband's death.
The agency erroneously denied her benefits after it determined that she was "legally male" at the time of their marriage despite all the legal documents to the contrary.
"I?m glad that Social Security finally came to its senses. I hope this means that other people won't have to experience this."
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The agency erroneously denied her benefits after it determined that she was "legally male" at the time of their marriage despite all the legal documents to the contrary.
"I?m glad that Social Security finally came to its senses. I hope this means that other people won't have to experience this."
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Tuesday, February 25, 2014
Interview with Rose Rowe and Renee Olbert of Seeking Simone
Seeking Simone is a web series that follows Simone Selkin's bumbling attempts to date her way through Toronto, and the first episode of the second season recently premiered. Judging from the sheer insanity in her encounters with Toronto's finest ladies, I'm concerned about New York City's proximity to Toronto. I wonder if winds from the northwest could blow the cuckoo into the Big Apple like winds blew volcanic ash all over Europe from the Icelandic volcano last year.
Dads, Grads and Sexy Tattooed Girls Cooking in Lingerie
Today, I head back to school. Only SIX MORE CLASSES until I get my degree. God, this has been a long haul! I went to visit my dad today. He has been so sweet and encouraging to me. The man has his DOCTORATE OF LAW. He is so brilliant and I felt truly blessed to spend the day with him. He has been doing chemo this past week and he is tired but still positive and such a great sense of humor!We decided my goal is to finish this shit by the end of the summer so dad can see me graduate. He's going to take great care of himself and keep on his good path and I am going to shred through my classes like a badass.This is going to require me to take 2 classes this summer when my financial aid is not available. So earning an extra $2k by the end of April is now imperative. God, I love a challenge! #THISGIRLWILLBEWORKINGHERASSOFFAlso of note: my sweet little baby girl, Lindsey, is going to take a class with me. We've been at SPSU for almost 2 years together and are the same major but have never taken a class together. Well, look out Grammar! This should be fun. (Except that I am not allowed to tell anyone that we are related. But she did say I could sit next to her in the likely event that I will need to cheat on a test. So there's that...)And I saw this today and could not agree more: I also completely agree with this:(I imagine she has the sweetest southern accent...)So everyone have a great week and send me your thoughts, prayers and good vibes. I am going to need them!
James West Clinic looks to break 'crisis care' cycle
Congressman Mike Quigley was among those joining officials from Heartland Alliance and Haymarket Center Feb. 19 to dedicate a new healthcare clinic on the West Side that is mainly dedicated to serving homeless individuals.
Oregon Attorney General: Ban on same-sex marriage indefensible
PORTLAND, Ore. — Oregon Attorney General Ellen Rosenblum announced today that the state will not defend Oregon's constitutional ban on marriage for same-sex couples in the case Rummell v. Kitzhaber. The ACLU of Oregon and Basic Rights Oregon welcomed the announcement.
Rihannorary Lesbian
You like what I did there with the post title? Yeah, me too. Some of my best work, I'd say.Now you may have heard the little rumor circulating that Rihanna and Ashton Kutcher are dating because some weird paparazzi peops stalked her and realized that she went to his new house from midnight to 4am recently. Whatevs. I think they'd make a really cute couple, but how is that proof of anything? By that logic, CVS and I have been dating for YEARS. People have sex during the day too, ya know. Anyhoo, Rihanna was asked about it by a very bold reporter in London today, and this is what she had to say:...and this whole post is really just an excuse to show THIS again:You are welcome.
Mixed Messages: Even as it gets better for gay couples in Virginia, it pays to remember that change still comes slowly
Opinion: Leave it to Virginia to throw a wrench in my wedding plans. This was to be the year that my husband, Cavin, and I took the final step of legalizing it — getting an official license that will be recognized by the federal government and provide us with some much-needed security on issues that our legally married friends have stopped stressing over. This can be confusing as we use the word ''husband'' when referring to each other. We got married in 2007, Virginia having then recently enacted a statue that constitutionally refused to recognize big, gay, Buddhist wedding ceremonies. When D.C. offered official knot-tying services, we held off because for the most part in Virginia — or Kentucky, when traveling home for the holidays — a legal marriage would be as invisible as our real marriage. But with Windsor pressing the issue and federal retirement benefits on the line, 2014 was the time for us to make honest men of each other by making the short trek to the D.C. courthouse. ... (more)
Lesbian News - 10 Feb 2014
Not sexy: Rihanna & Shakira pose as lesbians for a video - but where are they on LGBT rights?Man accused of murdering Katie Foreman says victim was in 'lesbian love triangle' Lesbian Australian snowboarder Belle Brockhoff hopes to make statement against PutinLive Your Best Lesbian Life Out LoudSomeone sent death threats to a 5-year-old Disney star after her show featured lesbians
Monday, February 24, 2014
How have gay men interacted with and regarded lesbians, and vice versa
Would like insight and education into the various ways that gay men -- both as individuals and as a group, both historically and currently -- relate to, regard, and interact with gay/lesbian women, and vice versa. [I've tried to be thoughtful in my wording, but I've not had all that many occasions in my life to discuss LGBT topics. So I'm nervous that I might misspeak or expose my ignorance. If I do please correct me and accept my sincere apologies.]
Looking for in-depth readings and histories and seminal texts that would give a good overview of these group dynamics. I'm most interested in learning about the U.S. in the 20th/21st century, but if there are pieces that also address this dynamic in other cultures or other times, then all the better.
My (uninformed and simplistic, and possibly irresponsible) perceptions -- and here is where I'm afraid of sounding like an ass -- are that while the two groups have had every reason to form a coalition in the ongoing struggle for their safety and their civil rights, it doesn't seem to me that there is all that much overlap in their various subcultures' interests or arts or patterns of consumption or recreation -- it just doesn't seem like they have that much in common outside of their shared struggle.
Looking, also, for feminist critics' assessment of any patriarchal systems at work within the gay/lesbian cultures.
I know that there will no doubt have been a spectrum of opinions and a healthy, ongoing internal debate; I'm not afraid of readings that address or embrace this complexity.
Are there seminal works addressing this relationship? Great essays? Contentious works of art or fiction? Watershed academic studies? I'm very willing to read long-format or challenging pieces.
Many thanks... and again, please, please correct me if I've said anything ignorant; I'd consider it a huge kindness to me if you would.
Looking for in-depth readings and histories and seminal texts that would give a good overview of these group dynamics. I'm most interested in learning about the U.S. in the 20th/21st century, but if there are pieces that also address this dynamic in other cultures or other times, then all the better.
My (uninformed and simplistic, and possibly irresponsible) perceptions -- and here is where I'm afraid of sounding like an ass -- are that while the two groups have had every reason to form a coalition in the ongoing struggle for their safety and their civil rights, it doesn't seem to me that there is all that much overlap in their various subcultures' interests or arts or patterns of consumption or recreation -- it just doesn't seem like they have that much in common outside of their shared struggle.
Looking, also, for feminist critics' assessment of any patriarchal systems at work within the gay/lesbian cultures.
I know that there will no doubt have been a spectrum of opinions and a healthy, ongoing internal debate; I'm not afraid of readings that address or embrace this complexity.
Are there seminal works addressing this relationship? Great essays? Contentious works of art or fiction? Watershed academic studies? I'm very willing to read long-format or challenging pieces.
Many thanks... and again, please, please correct me if I've said anything ignorant; I'd consider it a huge kindness to me if you would.
Magic Act: Jose Carrasquillo returns to GALA with a picturesque puzzle
Stage:
''I don't do realism well, but I do magic realism very well,'' theater director Jose Carrasquillo says, by way of touting his latest show, The Girl from Tacna, now at GALA Theatre. ''It's really worth seeing because of that: Whether you like this play or not, visually it's very impressive.''
The play, written by Nobel laureate Mario Vargas Llosa, is a somewhat surreal, time-shifting exploration into one Peruvian family's rich history. ''It's a memory play,'' Carrasquillo says, ''and the way it's written, it really summons up a lot of stunning images that you have to do onstage.'' The play focuses on a writer's work in telling his family's story over several generations. ''As memories come to him, they three-dimensionalize onstage,'' he explains.
La Señorita de Tacna at GALA
(Photo by Lonnie Tague)
Performed at GALA in Spanish, with English surtitles, the play is in a largely unstructured style, featuring no discrete scenes and an intentionally blurry sense of time and place. It sounds confusing, even overambitious, and it was -- on paper.
''I read it a dozen times [and] I still wasn't certain what the play was about,'' Carrasquillo concedes, noting that it took him nearly three weeks to solve its storytelling puzzle as well as the theatrical challenge in presenting it. ''It's really cohesive,'' he says about the staged result. ''It's not like it's choppy or anything. It just comes together and people get it.''
Carrasquillo, who also runs a guesthouse with his partner in his native Puerto Rico, is currently focused on helping produce a major, month-long, national Latino theater festival launching this fall in Los Angeles. Over the past couple decades Carrasquillo has directed for most of D.C.'s major theater companies, from the Kennedy Center to Signature Theatre to Woolly Mammoth.
But The Young Lady from Tacna is his first show in a while. ''I actually took a little sabbatical for two years,'' he says, a time to recharge, read and travel, checking off things on his bucket list, including hiking Machu Picchu and going to Spain. '
The Girl from Tacna runs to March 9 at GALA Theatre at Tivoli Square, 3333 14th St. NW. Tickets are $38 to $42. Performed in Spanish with English surtitles. Call 202-234-7174 or visit galatheatre.org ...more
''I don't do realism well, but I do magic realism very well,'' theater director Jose Carrasquillo says, by way of touting his latest show, The Girl from Tacna, now at GALA Theatre. ''It's really worth seeing because of that: Whether you like this play or not, visually it's very impressive.''
The play, written by Nobel laureate Mario Vargas Llosa, is a somewhat surreal, time-shifting exploration into one Peruvian family's rich history. ''It's a memory play,'' Carrasquillo says, ''and the way it's written, it really summons up a lot of stunning images that you have to do onstage.'' The play focuses on a writer's work in telling his family's story over several generations. ''As memories come to him, they three-dimensionalize onstage,'' he explains.
La Señorita de Tacna at GALA
(Photo by Lonnie Tague)
Performed at GALA in Spanish, with English surtitles, the play is in a largely unstructured style, featuring no discrete scenes and an intentionally blurry sense of time and place. It sounds confusing, even overambitious, and it was -- on paper.
''I read it a dozen times [and] I still wasn't certain what the play was about,'' Carrasquillo concedes, noting that it took him nearly three weeks to solve its storytelling puzzle as well as the theatrical challenge in presenting it. ''It's really cohesive,'' he says about the staged result. ''It's not like it's choppy or anything. It just comes together and people get it.''
Carrasquillo, who also runs a guesthouse with his partner in his native Puerto Rico, is currently focused on helping produce a major, month-long, national Latino theater festival launching this fall in Los Angeles. Over the past couple decades Carrasquillo has directed for most of D.C.'s major theater companies, from the Kennedy Center to Signature Theatre to Woolly Mammoth.
But The Young Lady from Tacna is his first show in a while. ''I actually took a little sabbatical for two years,'' he says, a time to recharge, read and travel, checking off things on his bucket list, including hiking Machu Picchu and going to Spain. '
The Girl from Tacna runs to March 9 at GALA Theatre at Tivoli Square, 3333 14th St. NW. Tickets are $38 to $42. Performed in Spanish with English surtitles. Call 202-234-7174 or visit galatheatre.org ...more
UK Armed Forces ranked world and #39;s second most gay-friendly military
The UK Armed Forces has been ranked the second-most gay-friendly military in the world by Netherlands-based independent research group, Hague Centre for Strategic Studies (HCSS). Sharing second spot with the ...
(53) Skeleton Closet Confessions
8 minute Mash-up, Then Nikki Guest Hosts and says it’s show 54 but don’t listen to her it’s #53; ate mail from God?/Yeshua; Aimless feminists; and answer listener inquiries from show 52 re: (Sandi’s) run in with a past flame’s ex-hubby a few weeks ago and we both confess a few skeletons in our closets […]
NOW Stands with Activists Calling for Removal of Montana Judge
http://now.org/press/09-13/09-25.htmlThe National Organization for Women is proud of the work Montana NOW has undertaken to remove Judge G. Todd Baugh from the bench by filing an official complaint with the Montana Judicial Standards Commission.
WATCH: 'Drag Race' Alums Recreate Harding/Kerrigan Scandal in 6 Seconds
To prepare audiences for the level of shade throwing drama that will unfold on the season six premiere, RuPaul's Drag Race, alums recreate the 1994 Harding/Kerrigan figure skating scandal in 6 second micro episodes.
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Lesbian News - 19 Feb 2014
"Letters Never Sent? tells the truth of a lesbian love affair
Adventures in (Lesbian) Baby-Making
Russian-Born Musician Takes a Stand for Lesbian Love
Ellen Page Ironically Played a Closeted Lesbian on SNL Back in 2008 ? Watch Her Skit
Adventures in (Lesbian) Baby-Making
Russian-Born Musician Takes a Stand for Lesbian Love
Ellen Page Ironically Played a Closeted Lesbian on SNL Back in 2008 ? Watch Her Skit
Joyous Dark-Eyed Heavy Animal
In the photo of my parents she stands against pure blackness on the right half while he slumps, a dark smudge scrawled against white cinderblock on the left. She had been sentenced to die by lethal injection for her part in the killings, in the plot. He was dying with her, dying from his hurt and his confusion.
Sunday, February 23, 2014
Special Offer For Brooklyn Couples
Editor's Note: This is a special note from a writer in New York...
Dear Gayweddings.com Brides & Grooms:
Getting married in Brooklyn, NY? Congratulations!! I'd like to invite you to be part of the Brooklyn launch of an exciting new wedding item and take advantage of a very special offer (see below).
But, first, some background:
I'm a journalist, and couples hire me to write their love story and create adorable keepsakes that they distribute to all their guests. You can see samples at www.prequels.net and my writing style in some of the Real Weddings featured on GayWeddings.com.
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Dear Gayweddings.com Brides & Grooms:
Getting married in Brooklyn, NY? Congratulations!! I'd like to invite you to be part of the Brooklyn launch of an exciting new wedding item and take advantage of a very special offer (see below).
But, first, some background:
I'm a journalist, and couples hire me to write their love story and create adorable keepsakes that they distribute to all their guests. You can see samples at www.prequels.net and my writing style in some of the Real Weddings featured on GayWeddings.com.
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Chelsea Clinton: and #39;We have a lot more work to do and #39; for LGBT rights
Chelsea Clinton stepped to the podium at the Bally and rsquo;s Events Center to the tune of Macklemore and Ryan Lewis and rsquo; hit rap song and ldquo;Same Love. and rdquo; The song about equal rights for lesbians and gays set the stage for the message she delivered Sunday at the inaugural Time to Thrive conference.
Help Curve Keep Publishing!
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Montana GOP policy: Make homosexuality illegal
HELENA, Mont. (AP) – At a time when gays have been gaining victories across the country, the Republican Party in Montana still wants to make homosexuality illegal.
The party adopted an official platform in June that keeps a long-held position in support of making homosexual acts illegal, a policy adopted after the Montana Supreme Court struck down such laws in 1997.
The fact that it’s still the official party policy more than 12 years later, despite a tidal shift in public attitudes since then and the party’s own pledge of support for individual freedoms, has exasperated some GOP members.
“I looked at that and said, ‘You’ve got to be kidding me,’” state Sen. John Brueggeman, R-Polson, said last week. “…
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The party adopted an official platform in June that keeps a long-held position in support of making homosexual acts illegal, a policy adopted after the Montana Supreme Court struck down such laws in 1997.
The fact that it’s still the official party policy more than 12 years later, despite a tidal shift in public attitudes since then and the party’s own pledge of support for individual freedoms, has exasperated some GOP members.
“I looked at that and said, ‘You’ve got to be kidding me,’” state Sen. John Brueggeman, R-Polson, said last week. “…
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Gay GOP Candidates Leaving the Closet in 2014
In a sign of the times, gay Republicans vying for seats in Congress are not running away from their sexual orientation this election cycle, but on it.
NOW Calls on The Wall Street Journal to Fire James Taranto
http://now.org/press/02-14/02-11.htmlJames Taranto doesn't need a national platform for demeaning women and condoning rape. He has demonstrated how out of touch he is; now he needs to be out of a job.
Ugandan anti-gay bill; trans activist arrested in Sochi
President Yoweri Museveni of Uganda plans to sign a bill into law that prescribes life imprisonment for "aggravated" homosexual acts, according to CBS News. Museveni announced his decision to governing party lawmakers, said government spokesman Ofwono Opondo. In Twitter posts Feb. 14, Opondo said the legislators, in a retreat that Museveni chaired, "welcomed the development as a measure to protect Ugandans from social deviants."
Judge orders lesbian reinstated to Air Force
TACOMA, Wash. (AP) – A federal judge ruled Friday that a decorated flight nurse discharged from the Air Force for being gay should be given her job back as soon as possible in the latest legal setback to the military’s “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy.
The decision by U.S. District Judge Ronald Leighton came in a closely watched case as a tense debate has been playing out over the policy. Senate Republicans blocked an effort to lift the ban this week, but Leighton is now the second federal judge this month to deem the policy unconstitutional.
Maj. Margaret Witt was suspended in 2004 and subsequently discharged under the “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy after the Air Force learned she had been in a lon…
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The decision by U.S. District Judge Ronald Leighton came in a closely watched case as a tense debate has been playing out over the policy. Senate Republicans blocked an effort to lift the ban this week, but Leighton is now the second federal judge this month to deem the policy unconstitutional.
Maj. Margaret Witt was suspended in 2004 and subsequently discharged under the “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy after the Air Force learned she had been in a lon…
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Saturday, February 22, 2014
Study: Being Homophobic Sheds Years Off Your Life
PhillyMag: This article from Pacific Standard,� tells of a new study published in the American Journal of Public Health: �?We found evidence that anti-gay prejudice is associated with elevated mortality risk among heterosexuals, over and above multiple established risk factors,? writes a research team led by Mark Hatzenbuehler of Columbia University. ?In particular, there was […]
Marga?s Humpday News: Castro Naked Guys
More Marga Friends, You’re still here, Yay! It’s been a slow news week. Here’s a little chat about the weather, Inception and Naked Guys in San Francisco. See you next Wednesday!
Justin Bieber Shirtless
Fresh from his appearance on the X-Factor, Justin Bieber shows off his (minite) tattoo in this beach shot.
Maybe the X factor boys will rush out and get tattoos too.
Gay newsView Australian Queer News on the web at Gay News Blog
Maybe the X factor boys will rush out and get tattoos too.
Gay newsView Australian Queer News on the web at Gay News Blog
The Identity Project: What Defines You?
Are labels good or bad? What about when we choose the labels ourselves?
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(58) Slut Bitch Cunt
Eminem & Dr. Dre’s�bitter response to Mariah;�Another Rant�about�Republicrat Demublicans;�Nikki, Bobbi, and Lalee call in�to chat about H20, a Sexless Marriage, Crooked Cash Businesses in the NY, Rude LA Drivers,�Tranny Chasing Music: Talk to Me – Peaches PSA’s: Kiko Lombardi of http://www.Visitronix.com
Once again, marriage equality inches closer to Supreme Court
Although the Ohio ruling was limited to death certificates for married gay couples and the Kentucky ruling only provided recognition of out-of-state same-sex marriages,...
Lincoln Kirstein: The Gay Monuments Man
The new film features a character based loosely on Kirstein ? but the real man merits a movie of his own.
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Friday, February 21, 2014
NOW Joins Illinois Rally for Marriage Equality
http://now.org/press/10-13/10-22.htmlWe rally today to remind the Illinois House what is at stake for the thousands of same-sex couples in Illinois. It is time to end the second-class status of civil unions. It is far past time for the Illinois House to listen to the majority of Illinois residents and pass marriage equality.
JFK'S Contribution to Women's Rights -- and What He Might Want Us to Do Next
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/terry-oneill/jfks-contribution-to-wome_b_4321030.htmlTerry O'Neill writes for The Huffington Post: "There's another 50th anniversary in the life of President John F. Kennedy that's important to remember today.
Just a few weeks before his death, on October 11, 1963, President Kennedy received the final report of the President's Commission on the Status of Women. A direct line runs between the work of this commission and the establishment of the National Organization for Women."
Just a few weeks before his death, on October 11, 1963, President Kennedy received the final report of the President's Commission on the Status of Women. A direct line runs between the work of this commission and the establishment of the National Organization for Women."
Former ABC anchor to launch new show
Sam Champion, the openly gay weather anchor who left ABC's "Good Morning America" to become The Weather Channel's managing ed -More- Administrative Assistant
National LGBT Bar Association
National LGBT Bar Association
The spark that ignited the flame…that led future GLBT generations out of the dark
What a list we have this year for the fifth anniversary of GLBT History Month. It would be impossible to cover all of those who have done so much for our community as every day we make history through our actions, even the smallest and simplest ones. Those who are honored this year are some of the more high profile GLBT’s that have, either in the past or present, found the strength, courage and will to help drive our rights forward. Each and every one of them should be honored and are worthy of our attention.
But without taking away from those we are honoring where is the sixteen year old who came out against all the odds and made something of himself giving back to his community at the same time? Is he not part of our history, or does he not count a…
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But without taking away from those we are honoring where is the sixteen year old who came out against all the odds and made something of himself giving back to his community at the same time? Is he not part of our history, or does he not count a…
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Does the party ever stop?
An interview with Nick Lewis, bartender at various San Diego bars
Nick Lewis is a bartender for several Lesbian nights that are hosted across San Diego. Nick is from Boston and if you ever order a drink from her you will know right away because her charming Boston accent is a dead give away. Nick is a fan of Softball and Ice Hockey and her favorite team is North Eastern University. Along with working the wild San Diego nightlife, Nick is a huge fan of comfy clothes, movies or a good book. Nick has given us the opportunity to ask her a few questions about herself and her job.
GLT: What is your favorite part of the night at Bourbon Street?
NL: Well I think it’s only fair I give all my bars some credit LOL. Rich’s: every time the girls get on the bar. Brass Rail: every 2nd and 4th Friday of the month I love beca…
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Nick Lewis is a bartender for several Lesbian nights that are hosted across San Diego. Nick is from Boston and if you ever order a drink from her you will know right away because her charming Boston accent is a dead give away. Nick is a fan of Softball and Ice Hockey and her favorite team is North Eastern University. Along with working the wild San Diego nightlife, Nick is a huge fan of comfy clothes, movies or a good book. Nick has given us the opportunity to ask her a few questions about herself and her job.
GLT: What is your favorite part of the night at Bourbon Street?
NL: Well I think it’s only fair I give all my bars some credit LOL. Rich’s: every time the girls get on the bar. Brass Rail: every 2nd and 4th Friday of the month I love beca…
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Horoscope
Breathe, Aries!
Saturn in Libra is squaring the lunar nodes, showing necessary steps in the relationships that are most important in our life’s lessons. Mars is in Scorpio, offering insights to those problems, but those insights can feel more urgent and be more complex and distracting than strictly helpful.
ARIES
March 20 – April 19
Your control issues can wreck your relationship. Step back. Breathe. Be responsible for yourself, and let your partner do the same. Domestic issues are an easy distraction. Work is where you need to focus your energies and sense of mastery.
TAURUS
April 20 – May 20
You’re fine on the details; don’t worry about those! Work on seeing the big picture. There, you need some help that you’ll …
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Saturn in Libra is squaring the lunar nodes, showing necessary steps in the relationships that are most important in our life’s lessons. Mars is in Scorpio, offering insights to those problems, but those insights can feel more urgent and be more complex and distracting than strictly helpful.
ARIES
March 20 – April 19
Your control issues can wreck your relationship. Step back. Breathe. Be responsible for yourself, and let your partner do the same. Domestic issues are an easy distraction. Work is where you need to focus your energies and sense of mastery.
TAURUS
April 20 – May 20
You’re fine on the details; don’t worry about those! Work on seeing the big picture. There, you need some help that you’ll …
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Hotels in Phoenix Arizona that are Gay Friendly
This is a list of gay friendly hotels in the phoenix Arizona area that cater to gay males and couples looking to spend a night relaxing or partying. Rainbow Casita Tropical gay guest house retreat Central Phoenix – 2707 N 20th Ave , Phoenix, AZ ZenYard Guest House Zen out 830 E Maryland Ave , […]
Business Spotlight: Tinassy’s K-9 Splash-R-Cise
10925 Hartley Rd.
Suite E
Santee, CA 92071
Shelley: 619 200-7619
Tara: 619 822-3223
www.tinassysk9splashrcise.com
Tinassy’s K-9 Splash-R-Cise is a fairly unique type of business. It is a dog water therapy business for exercise, massage and everything to help heal ailments in dogs.
It was started by Tara and Shelley in May 2010 after their dogs, Tindy and Sassy both required knee surgery.
Tara’s dog Tindy was diagnosed with an ACL tear which would require her to have surgery. Tindy underwent knee surgery which was a success. Tindy’s veterinarian recommended water therapy for a better recovery. Tindy was put in water therapy even though she wasn’t too excited about it at first. She came to love the water and was swimming every d…
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Suite E
Santee, CA 92071
Shelley: 619 200-7619
Tara: 619 822-3223
www.tinassysk9splashrcise.com
Tinassy’s K-9 Splash-R-Cise is a fairly unique type of business. It is a dog water therapy business for exercise, massage and everything to help heal ailments in dogs.
It was started by Tara and Shelley in May 2010 after their dogs, Tindy and Sassy both required knee surgery.
Tara’s dog Tindy was diagnosed with an ACL tear which would require her to have surgery. Tindy underwent knee surgery which was a success. Tindy’s veterinarian recommended water therapy for a better recovery. Tindy was put in water therapy even though she wasn’t too excited about it at first. She came to love the water and was swimming every d…
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Thursday, February 20, 2014
(60) Just A Couplea Hos
Feminism, Bailout disgust, Chat with Kaye about straight on straight sexual harrassment, the women’s movement, the black power movement, gay life in Jamaica from a straight native’s perspective, Buju Banton, Rap, MacKenzie Philips, ect., ect. Check out Lizzy the Lezzy’s site and fun new book: http://www.lizzythelezzy.com
(70) What the Hell is Going On?
Miley Cyrus, Tammy & Melissa Lesbalimony, Opinions and what do they really mean?, The Definition of a Lesbian conclusion via Twitter, The Real L Word, Julianne Moore in Kids Are Alright is gonna learn right here and right now that Lesbians are not bisexual. Somebody has to tell us what in the gay hell is […]
San Diego lesbians rock!
There was a time in San Diego’s rich history when lesbians were not as visible or held in the same esteem in the GLBT community as they are now. At times discounted and thought to be too small a group to warrant advertising dollars, they were also considered too different from gay men to be influential or to hold any positions of power. This was also a time when there was little or no nightlife catering for lesbians and the few lesbian clubs out there had come and gone. They simply could not compete with the gay bars and the numbers that they attracted. Going beyond nightlife there were few resources for lesbians or places that lesbians could gather, socialize, have fun and be in the majority.
Fast forward and it is apparent that this has really chang…
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Fast forward and it is apparent that this has really chang…
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Lesbian overthinks her gender expression. News at 11.
I'm a 22-year-old lesbian. I have never made any effort to look hot, but suddenly I want to, and it's raising some serious identity issues for me. Hygiene/beauty-wise, all I do is shower daily, brush my teeth, comb my hair (though it tends to go every which-way), and wear deodorant, clean clothes (some men's, some women's), and moisturizer (for the SPF). I don't own any makeup and I don't know how to apply it. Basically, I look like I don't give a fuck.
Here's the thing, though?I do give a fuck, and I think my apparent apathy's a holdover from a time when I truly wasn't comfortable with myself. As a closeted teen/pre-teen, I wore dingy sweats everyday and kept a copy of The Beauty Myth in my junior high school locker. (I'm sure NO ONE ever suspected.) I defined myself in opposition to other girls because I felt like I could never truly be one of them anyway and was too proud to try. I also did it to distance myself from them so I didn't have to deal with my attraction. On a less psychosexual level, I felt like if I tried to look pretty, people would see right through it and laugh at me.
I had a boyfriend in high school and a couple more in college, along with some random male hookups (I came out "bisexual" at 18). Almost every single first makeout session would include a moment where the guy would look at me real close and then quizzically remark, "You know, you're really pretty," like he'd never noticed before and was pleasantly surprised. Secretly, I loved hearing that?in my mind, it indicated that I wasn't naturally uglier than other girls, but merely had less superficial values. (Ugh.)
Now I've graduated college and am finally out as gay, not bi. My frumpiness is no longer really a source of political pride for me anymore, because I've internalized patriarchal beauty standards enough to only be attracted to women who mostly fit them (yeah, stone me). I'm not trying to imply that a butch or androgynous woman who likes feminine women is necessarily a hypocrite; just that my former feminister-than-thou attitude about not meeting those standards no longer makes sense. Also, it's not like I'm some Jackie Warner/Kate Moennig type?I just look like a troll.
I don't know what sort of gender presentation I'd have if I didn't go through such a long phase of self-loathing, but I suspect that the answer is still not "Barbie". The last time I really dressed up girly was a couple years ago and I felt like I was in drag, but hey, I don't feel terribly comfortable with the way I look now either. Ultimately, I'd like to look like a cute urban 20-something queer girl that other cute urban 20-something queer girls could see themselves dating, instead of an overgrown 3rd grader with blotchy skin and gigantic boobs.
I suppose I know, in broad strokes, how to go about changing my image: learn how to tame my hair, get some makeup and try to even my skin tone a little on nights that I go out, buy trendy-looking clothes I normally wouldn't look at twice, get less-dorky glasses the next time I need a new prescription. If you have any practical advice on those matters, it's more than welcome. (I'm 5'5", 140 lbs, white, and would look ridiculous with hair any shorter than chin-length.) But I guess my real question is, though, how do I not feel so ridiculous trying? I spent my entire adolescence acting either aggressively opposed to this sort of stuff or innocently too "deep" for it. It's a big part of who I was, which is probably why it feels like such a big deal changing it. I don't have any real reason to believe I won't just feel like a potential poser again. Also, I feel like most other people have settled into their style by this age even if do they switch things up here and there, so this sort of deliberate change feels kind of life-stage inappropriate.
As for what I can afford... I make $35,000 a year, my rent's $650/month, and I'm not in any debt. Obviously cheaper is better, but I'm willing to throw a little bit of money at this problem.
(Also, yes, I know that confidence is my biggest issue and that that's not primarily a matter of looks, but I wanted this question to be targeted.)
Throwaway email: anon724 at gmail
Here's the thing, though?I do give a fuck, and I think my apparent apathy's a holdover from a time when I truly wasn't comfortable with myself. As a closeted teen/pre-teen, I wore dingy sweats everyday and kept a copy of The Beauty Myth in my junior high school locker. (I'm sure NO ONE ever suspected.) I defined myself in opposition to other girls because I felt like I could never truly be one of them anyway and was too proud to try. I also did it to distance myself from them so I didn't have to deal with my attraction. On a less psychosexual level, I felt like if I tried to look pretty, people would see right through it and laugh at me.
I had a boyfriend in high school and a couple more in college, along with some random male hookups (I came out "bisexual" at 18). Almost every single first makeout session would include a moment where the guy would look at me real close and then quizzically remark, "You know, you're really pretty," like he'd never noticed before and was pleasantly surprised. Secretly, I loved hearing that?in my mind, it indicated that I wasn't naturally uglier than other girls, but merely had less superficial values. (Ugh.)
Now I've graduated college and am finally out as gay, not bi. My frumpiness is no longer really a source of political pride for me anymore, because I've internalized patriarchal beauty standards enough to only be attracted to women who mostly fit them (yeah, stone me). I'm not trying to imply that a butch or androgynous woman who likes feminine women is necessarily a hypocrite; just that my former feminister-than-thou attitude about not meeting those standards no longer makes sense. Also, it's not like I'm some Jackie Warner/Kate Moennig type?I just look like a troll.
I don't know what sort of gender presentation I'd have if I didn't go through such a long phase of self-loathing, but I suspect that the answer is still not "Barbie". The last time I really dressed up girly was a couple years ago and I felt like I was in drag, but hey, I don't feel terribly comfortable with the way I look now either. Ultimately, I'd like to look like a cute urban 20-something queer girl that other cute urban 20-something queer girls could see themselves dating, instead of an overgrown 3rd grader with blotchy skin and gigantic boobs.
I suppose I know, in broad strokes, how to go about changing my image: learn how to tame my hair, get some makeup and try to even my skin tone a little on nights that I go out, buy trendy-looking clothes I normally wouldn't look at twice, get less-dorky glasses the next time I need a new prescription. If you have any practical advice on those matters, it's more than welcome. (I'm 5'5", 140 lbs, white, and would look ridiculous with hair any shorter than chin-length.) But I guess my real question is, though, how do I not feel so ridiculous trying? I spent my entire adolescence acting either aggressively opposed to this sort of stuff or innocently too "deep" for it. It's a big part of who I was, which is probably why it feels like such a big deal changing it. I don't have any real reason to believe I won't just feel like a potential poser again. Also, I feel like most other people have settled into their style by this age even if do they switch things up here and there, so this sort of deliberate change feels kind of life-stage inappropriate.
As for what I can afford... I make $35,000 a year, my rent's $650/month, and I'm not in any debt. Obviously cheaper is better, but I'm willing to throw a little bit of money at this problem.
(Also, yes, I know that confidence is my biggest issue and that that's not primarily a matter of looks, but I wanted this question to be targeted.)
Throwaway email: anon724 at gmail
Anglican Bishops Bar Priests From Celebrating Same-Sex Marriages
Days after the archbishop of Canterbury equated homophobia with racism, Anglican bishops have prohibited priests from celebrating same-sex marriages.
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Wednesday, February 19, 2014
Meet Solomon: musician, artist, genre-bender | VIDEO
On his EP Le Gar�on, San Diego-born hip hop artist Solomon redefines the overused phrase "genre-bending" by experimenting with a number of diverse styles of words and sound, masterfully weaving them into a coherent, 11-track musical experience.
Le Gar�on finds him deftly switching between song and poem, love and anger, sex and isolation ? while still exuding the finesse of an artist who has found his voice.
The Le Gar�on EP from San Diego-born musician Solomon is sure to solidify his place in the electronic and hip hop industries. SDGLN speaks with Solomon about the life of an artist and the work that goes into such a heavy album.
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Le Gar�on finds him deftly switching between song and poem, love and anger, sex and isolation ? while still exuding the finesse of an artist who has found his voice.
The Le Gar�on EP from San Diego-born musician Solomon is sure to solidify his place in the electronic and hip hop industries. SDGLN speaks with Solomon about the life of an artist and the work that goes into such a heavy album.
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(53) Skeleton Closet Confessions
8 minute Mash-up, Then Nikki Guest Hosts and says it’s show 54 but don’t listen to her it’s #53; ate mail from God?/Yeshua; Aimless feminists; and answer listener inquiries from show 52 re: (Sandi’s) run in with a past flame’s ex-hubby a few weeks ago and we both confess a few skeletons in our closets […]
Lea Michele gets 'Louder,' shows 'Ambition'
Many know Lea Michele from the hit Fox television show Glee, in which she plays overachiever Rachel Berry. The role has garnered her two Golden Globe nominations as well as an Emmy nod.
ADOPT ME! Take Mouse home!
Mouse is a blue domestic short hair female cat. She is 12 year old and has been spayed.
Why I'd make a great companion
I'm a lovable companion seeking a special home where I'll be a cherished member of the family. With bright eyes and a precious face, I have a beautiful personality to match. I'm a mellow and easy-going companion, content just to feel loved. While I don't always like to be picked up and held, I have a big heart and can't wait to share all of my love with a special family of my own.
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Mouse is a blue domestic short hair female cat. She is 12 year old and has been spayed.
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Why I'd make a great companion
I'm a lovable companion seeking a special home where I'll be a cherished member of the family. With bright eyes and a precious face, I have a beautiful personality to match. I'm a mellow and easy-going companion, content just to feel loved. While I don't always like to be picked up and held, I have a big heart and can't wait to share all of my love with a special family of my own.
Type of home I'm looking for
Mouse is a blue domestic short hair female cat. She is 12 year old and has been spayed.
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Howie says:
As a former Marine medic (hospital corpsman) and veteran, I’ve seen the backwards thinking of military officers firsthand.
It’s not surprising to me that Sgt Holmberg continues to face stigma regarding HIV—when in fact it should be well known that is a very manageable disease with little to no repercussions to those who are competent enough to take one pill a day. Many of us already do so when we take our daily multivitamin, how can an HIV-infected person be that much different? Recent studies show that an HIV-positive person in an a more economically established country will live the same amount of years as anybody else: (http://www.aidsmap.com/page/1437877/).
That’s why we created San Diego Young Positives: a place …
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As a former Marine medic (hospital corpsman) and veteran, I’ve seen the backwards thinking of military officers firsthand.
It’s not surprising to me that Sgt Holmberg continues to face stigma regarding HIV—when in fact it should be well known that is a very manageable disease with little to no repercussions to those who are competent enough to take one pill a day. Many of us already do so when we take our daily multivitamin, how can an HIV-infected person be that much different? Recent studies show that an HIV-positive person in an a more economically established country will live the same amount of years as anybody else: (http://www.aidsmap.com/page/1437877/).
That’s why we created San Diego Young Positives: a place …
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(37) She Fills In Cause WhatsHerFace Is On Hiatus
Guest Host Nikki Fills In While Sandi Is On Brief Hiatus, (go easy on her) Most of this is nonsense but it’s stuff was laying around the hard drive from a few weeks ago so we figured we’d post it, why the Hey not?! “Elegant” Farm Dinners?, Irrational War Mongers, Aussies Tear Into Sandi with […]
My brother's wife just came out
How do I support my brother, his wife, and myself through my sister-in-law coming out as a lesbian? My younger brother married his current wife last June (just just past their one-year anniversary). Since their marriage, he and his wife have lived with me (I'm single). We all got along for the most part and it was mostly financially beneficial for all of us. Since about Christmas though the house has been extremely tense and about 2 months ago my sister-in-law and my brother sat me down and shared that she is a lesbian and wants to come out now (not really a surprise). I felt hurt and angry that I was expected to keep this secret until she was ready to share this with our family, and over the course of the last month, my family and her family have all been told. Everyone, including me, is very supportive for the most part.
I'm struggling at this point with how best to support my brother, his wife, and myself. They will be separating but want to continue living here. They want to tell a sports league we're all involved with this week what they're going through but I feel like this is unnecessary. Why share this with acquaintences? Close friends I understand but not an entire league. I'm not sure why I'm having more trouble now that I know for sure a separation is happening (at one point they discussed an open marriage). I do feel like for a long time I was expected to carry this for them/keep secrets/act like everything is normal, and now my feelings aren't being considered. Any advice? Anyone gone through anything similar?
I'm struggling at this point with how best to support my brother, his wife, and myself. They will be separating but want to continue living here. They want to tell a sports league we're all involved with this week what they're going through but I feel like this is unnecessary. Why share this with acquaintences? Close friends I understand but not an entire league. I'm not sure why I'm having more trouble now that I know for sure a separation is happening (at one point they discussed an open marriage). I do feel like for a long time I was expected to carry this for them/keep secrets/act like everything is normal, and now my feelings aren't being considered. Any advice? Anyone gone through anything similar?
Horoscope
Breathe, Aries!
Saturn in Libra is squaring the lunar nodes, showing necessary steps in the relationships that are most important in our life’s lessons. Mars is in Scorpio, offering insights to those problems, but those insights can feel more urgent and be more complex and distracting than strictly helpful.
ARIES
March 20 – April 19
Your control issues can wreck your relationship. Step back. Breathe. Be responsible for yourself, and let your partner do the same. Domestic issues are an easy distraction. Work is where you need to focus your energies and sense of mastery.
TAURUS
April 20 – May 20
You’re fine on the details; don’t worry about those! Work on seeing the big picture. There, you need some help that you’ll …
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Saturn in Libra is squaring the lunar nodes, showing necessary steps in the relationships that are most important in our life’s lessons. Mars is in Scorpio, offering insights to those problems, but those insights can feel more urgent and be more complex and distracting than strictly helpful.
ARIES
March 20 – April 19
Your control issues can wreck your relationship. Step back. Breathe. Be responsible for yourself, and let your partner do the same. Domestic issues are an easy distraction. Work is where you need to focus your energies and sense of mastery.
TAURUS
April 20 – May 20
You’re fine on the details; don’t worry about those! Work on seeing the big picture. There, you need some help that you’ll …
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Tuesday, February 18, 2014
Photos: Gay youth in Arkansas
Hanging out with LGBTQ young people in a state known for its conservative values
Victory for Women?s Rights in Virginia
http://now.org/press/11-13/11-05b.htmlToday was a victory for women in Virginia. By electing NOW-endorsed candidates Terry McAuliffe and Ralph Northam to the top offices in the state, voters ensured that Virginia can now be on a progressive path forward for women.
No blessings for gay unions - church
Church of England priests will not be allowed to bless gay and lesbian weddings, or marry someone of the same sex themselves, according to new guidelines issued by the church, which is struggling to heal divides over homosexuality.
Playing my part in making life for fellow LGBT countryfolk bearable.
The State-sanctioned homophobia and transphobia in Malaysia, my country of origin, is breaking my heart. What can I do as a currently overseas citizen to make things better for my fellow LGBT folk back in Malaysia, particularly in raising awareness of the issue internationally? I left Malaysia for various reasons, but one core reason was escaping the various persecutions and micro/macro-aggressions I felt for who I am. Most of this has to do with race (my parents are Bangladeshi migrants) and citizenship/residency, but I also felt that I wouldn't be safe exploring my sexuality in a country that so deeply vilifies sexuality that "sexy" is a slur and politicians get run out of Parliament for what they wear (or don't) in their sleep. It took me until I had been in Australia for a few years that I felt safe and able to explore my sexuality and gender without having to look behind my back to see if I will get screwed over by the Malaysian Government. I have had friends and acquaintances who cannot go back to Malaysia because they will face persecution, and one person whose Government scholarship was revoked and who was forced to come back home because her ex outed her as a trans woman.
I am trying to get the word out about the situation in Malaysia, especially this ridiculous propaganda musical, but I am facing a few roadblocks:
1. I am overseas and am not likely to return to Malaysia anytime soon, so my ability to organise something back home is limited. If I did try to do something in Malaysia, I'd be dismissed as a "foreign Zionist agent" of some fashion.
2. Incorporated into the musical is a plot point about how LGBT people who protest are being paid a handsome sum by the Opposition party and are merely reacting against the advice of "reasonable Malay Muslims". This makes any show of protest difficult to be taken seriously - especially when the main sexuality rights event in the country gets shut down for "threatening to disrupt public order" - pretty much the main excuse for arresting any protestor ever.
3. I am trying to get the word out in the Bay Area (where I live right now), especially with the Queer People of Color circles I am heavily involved with. Not many people have really picked up on this though - most people get stuck on "a musical about anti-gay sentiment! ISN'T THAT IRONIC" and don't move on from there. Also it seems that Malaysia doesn't quite have the White/Western Savior Cred of places like Uganda or India, where people seem to care more about LGBT issues there.
4. Even when there are people that DO care, I'm at a loss for what they could do. Petitions are pointless, because the Malaysian Government isn't going to pay attention (the whole paid-by-the-Opposition thing). International attention would be handy, but then it becomes "Foreign Zionist Agents". Tying this in to the United Nations may be useful, but I'm sure there will be a stack of countries who will take Malaysia's side.
5. People often bring up voting, but Malaysia has arcane voting laws that make it near impossible for overseas residents to vote. I technically am allowed to vote overseas because I'm an international student (one of the few classes of overseas residents allowed to vote), but I have to register in Malaysia first - not overseas. Gah! (Besides, it's not like there is anyone to vote for in my district that isn't Ruling Party, and there's a lot of electoral fraud.)
I want Malaysians to see that the so-called deviants are people like everyone else, diverse and unique and part of their community, and not a danger or scrounge to society. My current idea is to organise a performance of monologues, ala Yoni ki Baat (semi self link) or The Vagina Monologues, about Malaysians dealing with the stigmatization of sexuality. Not just in terms of being LGBT, but also slut-shaming, ageism against young people, and misogyny - one does not have to do much to be branded a sexual deviant in Malaysia. I have been and am currently involved in these sorts of This requires being back in Malaysia for a substantial amount of time, which I am not able to do right now. I'm also reminded of how the Vagina Monologues are banned in Malaysia and how anything of this nature would have to be underground...which then leads to the issue of preaching to the choir, the people who already know that LGBT people are not evil...rather than the people who will be affected by this propaganda. Something along the lines of the Pussy Riot worldwide protests would be awesome, but I'm not sure how to get people to care.
Any ideas of what I can do to get international support? I'm reaching out super slowly, one person at a time, but I really don't want Malaysia to get away with it and continue being an unsafe hostile space for people like me.
I am trying to get the word out about the situation in Malaysia, especially this ridiculous propaganda musical, but I am facing a few roadblocks:
1. I am overseas and am not likely to return to Malaysia anytime soon, so my ability to organise something back home is limited. If I did try to do something in Malaysia, I'd be dismissed as a "foreign Zionist agent" of some fashion.
2. Incorporated into the musical is a plot point about how LGBT people who protest are being paid a handsome sum by the Opposition party and are merely reacting against the advice of "reasonable Malay Muslims". This makes any show of protest difficult to be taken seriously - especially when the main sexuality rights event in the country gets shut down for "threatening to disrupt public order" - pretty much the main excuse for arresting any protestor ever.
3. I am trying to get the word out in the Bay Area (where I live right now), especially with the Queer People of Color circles I am heavily involved with. Not many people have really picked up on this though - most people get stuck on "a musical about anti-gay sentiment! ISN'T THAT IRONIC" and don't move on from there. Also it seems that Malaysia doesn't quite have the White/Western Savior Cred of places like Uganda or India, where people seem to care more about LGBT issues there.
4. Even when there are people that DO care, I'm at a loss for what they could do. Petitions are pointless, because the Malaysian Government isn't going to pay attention (the whole paid-by-the-Opposition thing). International attention would be handy, but then it becomes "Foreign Zionist Agents". Tying this in to the United Nations may be useful, but I'm sure there will be a stack of countries who will take Malaysia's side.
5. People often bring up voting, but Malaysia has arcane voting laws that make it near impossible for overseas residents to vote. I technically am allowed to vote overseas because I'm an international student (one of the few classes of overseas residents allowed to vote), but I have to register in Malaysia first - not overseas. Gah! (Besides, it's not like there is anyone to vote for in my district that isn't Ruling Party, and there's a lot of electoral fraud.)
I want Malaysians to see that the so-called deviants are people like everyone else, diverse and unique and part of their community, and not a danger or scrounge to society. My current idea is to organise a performance of monologues, ala Yoni ki Baat (semi self link) or The Vagina Monologues, about Malaysians dealing with the stigmatization of sexuality. Not just in terms of being LGBT, but also slut-shaming, ageism against young people, and misogyny - one does not have to do much to be branded a sexual deviant in Malaysia. I have been and am currently involved in these sorts of This requires being back in Malaysia for a substantial amount of time, which I am not able to do right now. I'm also reminded of how the Vagina Monologues are banned in Malaysia and how anything of this nature would have to be underground...which then leads to the issue of preaching to the choir, the people who already know that LGBT people are not evil...rather than the people who will be affected by this propaganda. Something along the lines of the Pussy Riot worldwide protests would be awesome, but I'm not sure how to get people to care.
Any ideas of what I can do to get international support? I'm reaching out super slowly, one person at a time, but I really don't want Malaysia to get away with it and continue being an unsafe hostile space for people like me.
JFK'S Contribution to Women's Rights -- and What He Might Want Us to Do Next
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/terry-oneill/jfks-contribution-to-wome_b_4321030.htmlTerry O'Neill writes for The Huffington Post: "There's another 50th anniversary in the life of President John F. Kennedy that's important to remember today.
Just a few weeks before his death, on October 11, 1963, President Kennedy received the final report of the President's Commission on the Status of Women. A direct line runs between the work of this commission and the establishment of the National Organization for Women."
Just a few weeks before his death, on October 11, 1963, President Kennedy received the final report of the President's Commission on the Status of Women. A direct line runs between the work of this commission and the establishment of the National Organization for Women."
Two Texas Judges Offer Gay Commitment Ceremonies
An offer by two Texas judges to officiate same-sex "commitment" ceremonies at an Austin courthouse on Valentine's Day has sparked the anger of GOP politicians who noted the Lone Star State doesn't recognize gay marriage.
Monday, February 17, 2014
Study: Antigay Communities Lead to Early LGB Death
The results largely point to higher rates of suicide, homicide, and cardiovascular disease.
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Spotlight: Queenie Pie
Legendary composer, pianist and band leader Duke Ellington died in 1974 before he completed his jazz-opera hybrid Queenie Pie. Yet that hasn't stopped the work from being performed in reconstructed versions with other Ellington music attached. Chicago Opera Theater is the latest company to present Queenie Pie in a shared production with Long Beach Opera. Queenie Pie is a 1930s piece about a beauty rivalry between two women that tackles issues of prejudice and class divisions within the African-American community. Queenie Pie is performed four times between Feb. 15 and March 2 at Millennium Park's Harris Theater for Music and Dance, 205 E. Randolph. Performances are at 7:30 p.m. Feb. 15, 23 and March 5, with a 3 p.m. Sunday matinee Feb. 23. Tickets are $45-$125; call 312-334-7777 or visit www.chicagooperatheater.org. Photo courtesy of Long Beach Opera.
WATCH: 8 Types of Guys Most Gay Men Have Dated
"The Eight Types of Gay Guys I've Dated" gives us a (half serious?) look at the varied personalities gay men can sometimes encounter while dating.
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Tough Guys Get 'My Little Pony' Tattoos to Support Bullied Boy
Michael Morones, the 11-year-old who was bullied for his love of 'My Little Pony,' has inspired a surprising following of support from 'tattooed mean-lookin' guys.'
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Real Estate News
San Diego needs its own Housing Hero
Big Bad Banking got some really BAD NEWS last week as Mother Jones Magazine’s Andy Kroll broke the story of huge law firms, known as “foreclosure mills”, operating in Florida (and elsewhere) engaged in the potentially illegal taking of millions of homes.
GMAC -a subsidiary of Ally Financial was so worried it suspended foreclosure evictions and sales altogether. Rising Democratic Party star Rep. Alan Grayson along with his Ohio colleague Marcy Kaptur have been among the few voices in Congress for homeowners in the ongoing class war waged against them by Wall Street. It seems now they were right all along. You may remember Kaptur as the take-charge legislator who advised homeowners in her Toledo-area district to demand that banks produce th…
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Big Bad Banking got some really BAD NEWS last week as Mother Jones Magazine’s Andy Kroll broke the story of huge law firms, known as “foreclosure mills”, operating in Florida (and elsewhere) engaged in the potentially illegal taking of millions of homes.
GMAC -a subsidiary of Ally Financial was so worried it suspended foreclosure evictions and sales altogether. Rising Democratic Party star Rep. Alan Grayson along with his Ohio colleague Marcy Kaptur have been among the few voices in Congress for homeowners in the ongoing class war waged against them by Wall Street. It seems now they were right all along. You may remember Kaptur as the take-charge legislator who advised homeowners in her Toledo-area district to demand that banks produce th…
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NOW praises U.S. Senate for confirming Janet Yellen to Chair the Federal Reserve
http://now.org/press/01-14/01-06.htmlThe U.S. Senate today made history by voting to confirm Janet Yellen as Chair of the Federal Reserve. Practically one hundred years to the day from when the Federal Reserve was created, the central bank finally has its first woman president. It's about time.
PLAY: New Online Game Makes Putin More Fabulous
Now you can make a drag Putin by dressing him in designer gowns and accessories. Werk!
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Sunday, February 16, 2014
Playing my part in making life for fellow LGBT countryfolk bearable.
The State-sanctioned homophobia and transphobia in Malaysia, my country of origin, is breaking my heart. What can I do as a currently overseas citizen to make things better for my fellow LGBT folk back in Malaysia, particularly in raising awareness of the issue internationally? I left Malaysia for various reasons, but one core reason was escaping the various persecutions and micro/macro-aggressions I felt for who I am. Most of this has to do with race (my parents are Bangladeshi migrants) and citizenship/residency, but I also felt that I wouldn't be safe exploring my sexuality in a country that so deeply vilifies sexuality that "sexy" is a slur and politicians get run out of Parliament for what they wear (or don't) in their sleep. It took me until I had been in Australia for a few years that I felt safe and able to explore my sexuality and gender without having to look behind my back to see if I will get screwed over by the Malaysian Government. I have had friends and acquaintances who cannot go back to Malaysia because they will face persecution, and one person whose Government scholarship was revoked and who was forced to come back home because her ex outed her as a trans woman.
I am trying to get the word out about the situation in Malaysia, especially this ridiculous propaganda musical, but I am facing a few roadblocks:
1. I am overseas and am not likely to return to Malaysia anytime soon, so my ability to organise something back home is limited. If I did try to do something in Malaysia, I'd be dismissed as a "foreign Zionist agent" of some fashion.
2. Incorporated into the musical is a plot point about how LGBT people who protest are being paid a handsome sum by the Opposition party and are merely reacting against the advice of "reasonable Malay Muslims". This makes any show of protest difficult to be taken seriously - especially when the main sexuality rights event in the country gets shut down for "threatening to disrupt public order" - pretty much the main excuse for arresting any protestor ever.
3. I am trying to get the word out in the Bay Area (where I live right now), especially with the Queer People of Color circles I am heavily involved with. Not many people have really picked up on this though - most people get stuck on "a musical about anti-gay sentiment! ISN'T THAT IRONIC" and don't move on from there. Also it seems that Malaysia doesn't quite have the White/Western Savior Cred of places like Uganda or India, where people seem to care more about LGBT issues there.
4. Even when there are people that DO care, I'm at a loss for what they could do. Petitions are pointless, because the Malaysian Government isn't going to pay attention (the whole paid-by-the-Opposition thing). International attention would be handy, but then it becomes "Foreign Zionist Agents". Tying this in to the United Nations may be useful, but I'm sure there will be a stack of countries who will take Malaysia's side.
5. People often bring up voting, but Malaysia has arcane voting laws that make it near impossible for overseas residents to vote. I technically am allowed to vote overseas because I'm an international student (one of the few classes of overseas residents allowed to vote), but I have to register in Malaysia first - not overseas. Gah! (Besides, it's not like there is anyone to vote for in my district that isn't Ruling Party, and there's a lot of electoral fraud.)
I want Malaysians to see that the so-called deviants are people like everyone else, diverse and unique and part of their community, and not a danger or scrounge to society. My current idea is to organise a performance of monologues, ala Yoni ki Baat (semi self link) or The Vagina Monologues, about Malaysians dealing with the stigmatization of sexuality. Not just in terms of being LGBT, but also slut-shaming, ageism against young people, and misogyny - one does not have to do much to be branded a sexual deviant in Malaysia. I have been and am currently involved in these sorts of This requires being back in Malaysia for a substantial amount of time, which I am not able to do right now. I'm also reminded of how the Vagina Monologues are banned in Malaysia and how anything of this nature would have to be underground...which then leads to the issue of preaching to the choir, the people who already know that LGBT people are not evil...rather than the people who will be affected by this propaganda. Something along the lines of the Pussy Riot worldwide protests would be awesome, but I'm not sure how to get people to care.
Any ideas of what I can do to get international support? I'm reaching out super slowly, one person at a time, but I really don't want Malaysia to get away with it and continue being an unsafe hostile space for people like me.
I am trying to get the word out about the situation in Malaysia, especially this ridiculous propaganda musical, but I am facing a few roadblocks:
1. I am overseas and am not likely to return to Malaysia anytime soon, so my ability to organise something back home is limited. If I did try to do something in Malaysia, I'd be dismissed as a "foreign Zionist agent" of some fashion.
2. Incorporated into the musical is a plot point about how LGBT people who protest are being paid a handsome sum by the Opposition party and are merely reacting against the advice of "reasonable Malay Muslims". This makes any show of protest difficult to be taken seriously - especially when the main sexuality rights event in the country gets shut down for "threatening to disrupt public order" - pretty much the main excuse for arresting any protestor ever.
3. I am trying to get the word out in the Bay Area (where I live right now), especially with the Queer People of Color circles I am heavily involved with. Not many people have really picked up on this though - most people get stuck on "a musical about anti-gay sentiment! ISN'T THAT IRONIC" and don't move on from there. Also it seems that Malaysia doesn't quite have the White/Western Savior Cred of places like Uganda or India, where people seem to care more about LGBT issues there.
4. Even when there are people that DO care, I'm at a loss for what they could do. Petitions are pointless, because the Malaysian Government isn't going to pay attention (the whole paid-by-the-Opposition thing). International attention would be handy, but then it becomes "Foreign Zionist Agents". Tying this in to the United Nations may be useful, but I'm sure there will be a stack of countries who will take Malaysia's side.
5. People often bring up voting, but Malaysia has arcane voting laws that make it near impossible for overseas residents to vote. I technically am allowed to vote overseas because I'm an international student (one of the few classes of overseas residents allowed to vote), but I have to register in Malaysia first - not overseas. Gah! (Besides, it's not like there is anyone to vote for in my district that isn't Ruling Party, and there's a lot of electoral fraud.)
I want Malaysians to see that the so-called deviants are people like everyone else, diverse and unique and part of their community, and not a danger or scrounge to society. My current idea is to organise a performance of monologues, ala Yoni ki Baat (semi self link) or The Vagina Monologues, about Malaysians dealing with the stigmatization of sexuality. Not just in terms of being LGBT, but also slut-shaming, ageism against young people, and misogyny - one does not have to do much to be branded a sexual deviant in Malaysia. I have been and am currently involved in these sorts of This requires being back in Malaysia for a substantial amount of time, which I am not able to do right now. I'm also reminded of how the Vagina Monologues are banned in Malaysia and how anything of this nature would have to be underground...which then leads to the issue of preaching to the choir, the people who already know that LGBT people are not evil...rather than the people who will be affected by this propaganda. Something along the lines of the Pussy Riot worldwide protests would be awesome, but I'm not sure how to get people to care.
Any ideas of what I can do to get international support? I'm reaching out super slowly, one person at a time, but I really don't want Malaysia to get away with it and continue being an unsafe hostile space for people like me.
Will: Coverboy: Bartenders Edition
Coverboy Interview:
With this week's issue, we're relaunching Nightlife Coverboy as Coverboy: Bartenders Edition. Each week, we will feature one of the gay community's most personable drink slingers. Be sure to stop by during their week and pay them a visit.
Coverboy: Bartenders Edition: Will
(Photo by Julian Vankim)
If you roll into the Green Lantern on any given night, chances are you'll encounter Will. Now residing in Arlington with his fiancé, Luke, this Midwest-raised outdoorsman first came to Washington after attending St. John's College in Annapolis. A longtime bartender at various gay bars around the city, the 31-year-old says he most enjoys "getting homosexuals drunk." Though Will was shy, quiet and, as he puts it, "boring and dull" as a youth, he's since matured into a confident, funny man armed with quick bartending hands and an even quicker wit. Although he's sometimes been embarrassed on the job, the target of some vulgar sexual offers, Will says he enjoys the job because he likes meeting and talking with new people and getting them to crack a smile.
Shot on location at The Beacon Hotel in Washington. Visit beaconhotelwdc.com.
What's on your nightstand?A lamp, an alarm clock. I wouldn't keep anything on a nightstand. I have friends come over my house. Do you want to ask me what's in the closet?
Okay, what's in the closet?A bunch of pornography, some lube and condoms, stuff I haven't used in a long time. Some dusty dildos.
What are your three favorite TV shows of all time?Battlestar Galactica, Battlestar Galactica, and Lost. I can't say Battlestar Galactica three times. Well, I can. But I don't want people to think I'm crazy.
If you could have one superpower, what would it be and why?I would have the same superpower as the Scarlet Witch. She's able to affect the outcome of any probabilistic event.
If you could do any job in the world, what would it be?I would be a professor at St. John's College. I like the breadth and depth of conversations you get into when you get to talk about Aristotle and Plato and Tolstoy and Euclid, and all the sciences and mathematics.
You're stranded on a desert island with one person. Who do you pick?Bear Grylls. He could feed me and treat me right. I mean sexually, of course. He's a very attractive man.
Coverboy: Bartenders Edition: Will
(Photo by Julian Vankim)
You'd probably have to eat snails and other nasty stuff.As long as there's something on Bear I get to eat, too.
What annoys you?People who are entitled or rude in their behavior, especially at a bar.
What pleases you?People who are polite and generous in their behavior, especially at a bar.
What's your greatest fear?Spiders. Every type of spider. Oh, and bugs. Anything that has its shell on the outside. So I guess the guys from Halo, too. Anything with an exoskeleton.
Roller coasters: wooden or steel?Steel, because the wooden ones, you're just sitting in a bowl, going around. But the steel ones you get to flip, and go upside-down, and around all over the place, and there's potential you'll accidentally kick somebody's head off. Which happened one time when I was at a Six Flags.
What?They actually had to close the whole damn park. This dude lost his hat and jumped over the fence, into the "Don't Go Here" area, and when the roller coaster went by, someone's leg hit the kid's head and snapped it off.
What's your guilty pleasure?Laffy Taffy.
What turns you on?Does Laffy Taffy count? No, beards and jockstraps.
What turns you off?Glitter.
What's your idea of a romantic getaway?Camping on Assateague. Just pulling up with a tent, and some food and firewood, building a fire on the beach.
Coverboy: Bartenders Edition: Will
(Photo by Julian Vankim)
Define good in bed.Responsive and aggressive.
Can men fake it? Should they?I've spit on many a back before.
If you were a porn star, what would your name be and what would you be known for?Ty Pennington. And I would be known for Extreme Ass Makeover.
Name two people you don't ever want to picture having sex.Any priest and any child.
What's the best tip you ever got?To go back to school. I know you mean money, but money comes and goes.
What's the craziest thing someone ever ordered from you?Someone asked me to pee in a water bottle once. I didn't do it.
When you go to a bar, what do you order?Diet Coke.
Gin or Vodka?Gin.
Scotch or Bourbon?Bourbon.
Wine or Beer?Beer.
Coverboy: Bartenders Edition: Will
(Photo by Julian Vankim)
Mustard, Mayo or Ketchup?Ketchup.
Miley or Britney?That's a hard one. Britney.
What's your favorite cocktail to make?Budweiser. It is simple and easy and my fingers don't get sticky.
You become master of the world. What's your first act?To establish a committee!
Is cuddling the best, or a waste of time?The best. It is nice and calm and comfortable and easy and warm.
What are you most grateful for?Luke. My fiancé. We've been engaged for a year and together for five.
What's your motto?No le illegitimus catarate. "Don't let the bastards shit on you."
...more
With this week's issue, we're relaunching Nightlife Coverboy as Coverboy: Bartenders Edition. Each week, we will feature one of the gay community's most personable drink slingers. Be sure to stop by during their week and pay them a visit.
Coverboy: Bartenders Edition: Will
(Photo by Julian Vankim)
If you roll into the Green Lantern on any given night, chances are you'll encounter Will. Now residing in Arlington with his fiancé, Luke, this Midwest-raised outdoorsman first came to Washington after attending St. John's College in Annapolis. A longtime bartender at various gay bars around the city, the 31-year-old says he most enjoys "getting homosexuals drunk." Though Will was shy, quiet and, as he puts it, "boring and dull" as a youth, he's since matured into a confident, funny man armed with quick bartending hands and an even quicker wit. Although he's sometimes been embarrassed on the job, the target of some vulgar sexual offers, Will says he enjoys the job because he likes meeting and talking with new people and getting them to crack a smile.
Shot on location at The Beacon Hotel in Washington. Visit beaconhotelwdc.com.
What's on your nightstand?A lamp, an alarm clock. I wouldn't keep anything on a nightstand. I have friends come over my house. Do you want to ask me what's in the closet?
Okay, what's in the closet?A bunch of pornography, some lube and condoms, stuff I haven't used in a long time. Some dusty dildos.
What are your three favorite TV shows of all time?Battlestar Galactica, Battlestar Galactica, and Lost. I can't say Battlestar Galactica three times. Well, I can. But I don't want people to think I'm crazy.
If you could have one superpower, what would it be and why?I would have the same superpower as the Scarlet Witch. She's able to affect the outcome of any probabilistic event.
If you could do any job in the world, what would it be?I would be a professor at St. John's College. I like the breadth and depth of conversations you get into when you get to talk about Aristotle and Plato and Tolstoy and Euclid, and all the sciences and mathematics.
You're stranded on a desert island with one person. Who do you pick?Bear Grylls. He could feed me and treat me right. I mean sexually, of course. He's a very attractive man.
Coverboy: Bartenders Edition: Will
(Photo by Julian Vankim)
You'd probably have to eat snails and other nasty stuff.As long as there's something on Bear I get to eat, too.
What annoys you?People who are entitled or rude in their behavior, especially at a bar.
What pleases you?People who are polite and generous in their behavior, especially at a bar.
What's your greatest fear?Spiders. Every type of spider. Oh, and bugs. Anything that has its shell on the outside. So I guess the guys from Halo, too. Anything with an exoskeleton.
Roller coasters: wooden or steel?Steel, because the wooden ones, you're just sitting in a bowl, going around. But the steel ones you get to flip, and go upside-down, and around all over the place, and there's potential you'll accidentally kick somebody's head off. Which happened one time when I was at a Six Flags.
What?They actually had to close the whole damn park. This dude lost his hat and jumped over the fence, into the "Don't Go Here" area, and when the roller coaster went by, someone's leg hit the kid's head and snapped it off.
What's your guilty pleasure?Laffy Taffy.
What turns you on?Does Laffy Taffy count? No, beards and jockstraps.
What turns you off?Glitter.
What's your idea of a romantic getaway?Camping on Assateague. Just pulling up with a tent, and some food and firewood, building a fire on the beach.
Coverboy: Bartenders Edition: Will
(Photo by Julian Vankim)
Define good in bed.Responsive and aggressive.
Can men fake it? Should they?I've spit on many a back before.
If you were a porn star, what would your name be and what would you be known for?Ty Pennington. And I would be known for Extreme Ass Makeover.
Name two people you don't ever want to picture having sex.Any priest and any child.
What's the best tip you ever got?To go back to school. I know you mean money, but money comes and goes.
What's the craziest thing someone ever ordered from you?Someone asked me to pee in a water bottle once. I didn't do it.
When you go to a bar, what do you order?Diet Coke.
Gin or Vodka?Gin.
Scotch or Bourbon?Bourbon.
Wine or Beer?Beer.
Coverboy: Bartenders Edition: Will
(Photo by Julian Vankim)
Mustard, Mayo or Ketchup?Ketchup.
Miley or Britney?That's a hard one. Britney.
What's your favorite cocktail to make?Budweiser. It is simple and easy and my fingers don't get sticky.
You become master of the world. What's your first act?To establish a committee!
Is cuddling the best, or a waste of time?The best. It is nice and calm and comfortable and easy and warm.
What are you most grateful for?Luke. My fiancé. We've been engaged for a year and together for five.
What's your motto?No le illegitimus catarate. "Don't let the bastards shit on you."
...more
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