Re: Speaking of sex drive!!

southtownrecords wrote:Hi everyone i am new here and am mtf i just have a quick question. I am married to a great woman who loves to have sex, which is completely fine by me. So, my question is will I ever get my sex drive back??The previous reply that refers to frame of mind, fantasizing and being considerate of your wife's needs has some elements of truth to it, but since it was hormones that dampened your sex drive in the first place, I think your question was more along the lines of endocrinology. Having a "giving" frame of mind but having hormones that have been altered from their native state is like trying to start a fire with a good match and dry kindling, but waterlogged firewood. At the extreme, if your wife's needs include someone who is the gentle aggressor who finds her irresistible, then your best efforts may amount to no more than a grab for an Academy Award nomination; if you are good at it, your wife may be satisfied, but you may feel crappy for your internal dishonesty.I am no endocrinologist, but having grown B-cup boobs and brought them to lactation, (and because I am in a long-term marriage to a woman, I yo-yoed on and off testosterone) without a doctor's guidance, I have jerked my body chemistry around enough to become very aware of how much of our moods and interests are mediated by hormones and other body chemistry.At one point, when my testosterone was suppressed by blockers and I was using both estrogen and progesterone in varying amounts, I felt as though I experienced the "female version" of arousal. It did make it easier to entertain sexual thoughts and fantasies. It makes sense that this might be possible because the difference between teen-age girls and menopausal women is likely largely hormone-related and the intense horny-ness experienced by some women near ovulation, too.One major complicating factor for experimenting with hormones for their mood-effecting qualities is that thee is something like a 3-day lag time, and there are rebound effects and compensation effects as your body tries to maintain some sort of steady course while you keep jerking it around.In case you are lactating or considering it, I'm not aware of any way around the fact that elevated prolactin levels are death to sexual desire.And lastly, if you come off of "HRT", my case agrees with the other poster who said that you may not return to pre-"HRT" levels.My case finally came down to: how much benefit am I getting from the feel-good brain chemicals as I feed my obsession to transform my body, VERSUS how much do I care about the happiness and well-being of my wife and my relationship with her. It will be a different answer for each couple/ person. In my case I have let go of the idea of pursuing more transformation, but am glad for having grown boobs.

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